married couples

@code_11 (902)
Nigeria
September 16, 2006 5:11am CST
is it better for a married couple to argue issues out or should the man just walk away.
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52 responses
@browneyes (395)
• United States
16 Sep 06
I dont think the word argue is a good word. maybe talk it out. shouting or what ever has never really solved anything. I believe if you love someone you just dont walk out. love is something a person has to want and work on. not someting that is given on a silver platter..
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@elixir (1456)
• Guam
26 Nov 06
someone shud compromise..
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
my dear i really don't think its an issue of compromise its something that must get resolved, for how long to you intend to be compromising?
@Jshean20 (14374)
• Canada
26 Nov 06
I think that it's better to work out the issue, otherwise anger or frustration will just build up and eventually someone will blow up as a result.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
well in that regards yes however you should be back to reslove the issue as soon as both parties have come back to normal.
@suryachalla (1370)
• India
19 Nov 06
It is best for married couples to 'talk' out issues, not even argue over them. Walking out is the last option. It gives a bad signal to one's wife. Such actions have bad effects in the future. For talking over an issue, your wife should have patience and respect for what you say. She should not be from a narrow minded background. I have had the same problem. Whenever there was an important issue to discuss, she used to walk away from me!! As a result, I rarely discuss anything with her. We dont talk over any issues. If at all, we argue, and the argument ends with one of us walking out on the other. I am being candid and frank. I hope it is seen in a mature way. And I dont need advice about this because things have gone beyond that.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
am so short of words but things can only get out of hand if you really want it to. thank anyways.
@lbinkley (1078)
• United States
11 Nov 06
This is a good question! I don't think that anyone should walk away unless someone needs to cool down until they can talk about it like a mature adult. I believe that you should never go to bed angry. If problems arise, you should talk them through. And remember, if a married couple never has their arguments, something isn't right. It is healthy and normal to argue, just talk it out and be mature about it. Doing so will make the relationship stonger!
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
yeah i do agree with you we tend to disagree to agree right thanks
• United States
11 Nov 06
There is a fine line between arguing and discussing. Yes, I do think people (married, friends, coworkers, anyone)should discuss issues, but each side has to agree to disagree. If either or both sides are too hot and worked up at the time, they need to step away with the understanding that the issue will be discussed further when both sides can communicate effectively. Even at that point if the situation becomes heated...they need to walk away again for a designated period of time then try it again. If feelings about the issue do not get aired out and resolved in a win-win situation, the "issue" will never go away for one of the two.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
interesting and a very good piece of write up, i do agree with all you've said. thank you.
• United States
11 Nov 06
It isfar better for two people to compromise than argue. not to say all arguements are bad, but they should end the day they start and two Loving people have to work to find a compromise so resentment doesnt build up.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
thats ok but for how long will you keep on compromising?
• United States
11 Nov 06
A good spat every now and again is good for a marriage. You get the frustrations out and the time you spend making up is great!
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
lol you mean a kind of using the issue to refresh your love for your partner thats nice. well once you are able to resolve it thats good.
@Polly1 (12650)
• United States
11 Nov 06
I think when you are arguing nothing gets solved. So sometimes it is better to walk away for things to cool down. Later than you can calmly get your point across.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
i think so too thanks
@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
16 Oct 06
In my opinion i htink they should stay and talk it out unless they get violent that is, me and my hubby argue but we never actually fight, it's just words but we always feel better afterwards. So i think they should stay and deal with it and not let the problem fester...My dad and mom walk out on each other and nothing pisses either off more then that when the other walks out when in a arguement. and nothing gets resolved it festers and it gets even worse for them... So don't walk away.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
31 Oct 06
thanks for your advice and i quite agree with you.
@borg_queen (2535)
• Philippines
15 Oct 06
It depends on the situation.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
what kind of situation please?
@Karinne (1224)
• Australia
12 Oct 06
They should sort their issues out with each other. I think people think they can get married and if it don't work just divorce each other, this is very wrong and i think it shouldn't be allowed to divorce as easy as it is. And i think that if your partner is court cheating and you divorce him they should pay more at settlement!!!!!
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
27 Dec 06
and when the lady is caught cheating what will happen then?
@juls2me2 (2151)
• United States
12 Oct 06
Definitely argue it out, talk it out, yell it out, cry it out, whatever works for you and your spouse. Don't just walk away, because nothing will ever get better. The communication just goes downhill, if you hold in your feelings.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
31 Oct 06
i quite do agree with you however i still think that it will not really be a bad idea to work, when you realise that none of the party involved is keen to listen/understand. walk but come back within the shortest possible time frame.
@fritz27 (1137)
• United States
7 Oct 06
clear the air. it's ok to argue, it's part of being a person. why would a man just walk away, why shouldn't he be heard too. i don't condone violence, but argue away.
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
31 Oct 06
sometime the arguement might get to much that no one is hearing each other any longer what then do you do?
@acdc0805 (981)
• United States
7 Oct 06
Definately depending on hte argument, it should be discussed first. If its something stupid like he didn't do the dishes, then it should definately be talked over. But if he cheated or something equally as bad...then it is up to the couple. I know if my husband cheated, he'd be OUT THE DOOR! immediately!
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
16 Oct 06
lol can it just get to that?
• India
4 Oct 06
any issues should be discussed within and get it sorted..
@code_11 (902)
• Nigeria
16 Oct 06
and what if the one of the party is not really in the mood of talking at that point in time?
@Sweety76 (1596)
• India
4 Oct 06
there shd be argument but a healthy one with a conclusion
@Sweety76 (1596)
• India
4 Oct 06
there shd be argument but a healthy one with a conclusion
@kotska_03 (114)
• United States
21 Sep 06
none of them is my answer.. talk seriously, maybe..
21 Sep 06
It comes down to what the issues are at the end of the day. However first port of call should always be to talk, and you speak before those issues reach a certain level it’s a lot easier on both sides to cure, no man or woman should ever just walk away. Issues are like creases in clothes; they need to be ironed out.