extended family

Philippines
December 4, 2006 12:23pm CST
What would you do when you live with your in-laws and the only women in the house is you and your mother-in-law? When you have an arguement with your husband, she will then join in the discussion and try to protect her son by soliciting reasons for him. Worst, when your husband is in trouble in any way, she keeps on telling it to you in a sarcastic way, but when her son is around, she can't tell him the way she told you the things she just did.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
4 Dec 06
Glad to see that there are more woman in the same soup.what I do is ignore and start thinking about something else outside the window.I actually stop listening or I try to move away to some other room physically if possible,but If really cornered I just give a stupid smile and tell her she is right by all means-I am the bad one not fit for her son absolutely.She then tries to turn in to a sarcastic joke,I ignore the sarcasm and laugh with her.I think she believes I am kind of dumb.I actullay do n0ot stay with her on regular basis and visit her for a month or two in a year so its really easy to get away by just pretending still it hurts.I don't actually know what my reaction will be if I have to stay with her on regular basis.But I think I will keep pretending that I am dumb to her comments.
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
Thank you for the reply. Though there are times that I can't take it anymore, I want to leave the house to point of leaving my husband too. Once, when I was angry with my husband and she knew it, I even told her, I want to return her son to her. But that did not happen because my husband insisted that I stay.
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@mansha (6301)
• India
4 Dec 06
Yes I know, that situation.Have thought so too many times.I do not have either parents so it becomes kind of difficult.with no one to turn to and to always be distrusted in the home you are trying to make your home.I try and ignore everything-I keep myself busy in my kids life.I leave mother and son on their own.
• Philippines
4 Dec 06
Thank you, that's what I do also. Struggling to keep it up. :)
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
4 Dec 06
Are you in this situation? I'm sorry for your sake, that must be rough. I just know that things here would be mighty uncomfortable if my mother in law lived with us!! I would never let that happen! Oh and I am sure if goodness forbid that happened where my mother in law had to live here.. I am sure she would jump in and take his side and tell me how horrible I am!! Yep!
• Philippines
6 Dec 06
Thank you for the reply. I can't do that, because we are the ones moving in to keep the children in their sight while my husband and I are at work.