I know I can, I know I can. But, I can't? How do I motivate myself?

United States
December 4, 2006 1:25pm CST
Sunday morning, I was at home when the alarm clock went off. It went off for an hour before I went to turn it off. I moved the alarm clock into the bathroom about a year ago, to force me to get up and not roll over. However, I have learned, or adapted to the sound. Instead of getting up, I lay there, thinking of all the things I need to do. Clean my apartment that I haven't cleaned up in a month. It's not a filthy mess, but a clutter of old papers, bills, credit reports and How To books that need to be put away. Granted, I spend more time at my girlfriends house than my apartment, but when I come home...why shouldn't I clean up. Other days, I know I need to get up and start prospecting. I need to actively work on my real estate career and get it going. But, if I get a client what do I do? I haven't been in real estate that long and I haven't sold a home yet. I am not sure how well I know what I know I know, and how hard it will be to learn what I don't know I know. So, I lay there in bed, daydreaming about the day when I can quit my job in the bookstore, and focus on real estate. Sometimes, I dream of quitting the bookstore tonight, and focusing on real estate full time. My full time gig is getting in the way of my real estate career. But, I do nothing. I am still here. I told my boss last year, that I would quit on March 23rd. She asked me to stay, and now it is December. Why am I still there. I am too afraid to leave my comfort zone, but I need my comfort zone because I need to pay the bills. Getting ready to get ready is a term that's been used to describe me more often than I can count. However, this seems to be more. Why can't I motivate myself to succeed? To get off my behind and do what I need to do. Why am I here writing this discussion topic when I should be studying a book on real estate, practicing my scripts, browsing the MLS and getting updated on what's on the market. What do you do when you are in this funk? How did it happen? How do you get out? Any help will be appreciated.
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@TasksGirl (216)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I saw and answered your other question. It definately seems appropriate for you to be in real estate.. Just do it! Just quit and focus on your dreams! Get that big sale and then go and show your girlfriend what you did and tell her it was all because of her and you don't want to lose her !!
• United States
17 Dec 06
Some people are just motivated more when it is crunch time.. and right now for you it is definately crunch time!! I know I definately procrastinate and NEVER get motivated to do anything unless and untill there is alot of pressure on me to do it!
• United States
2 Jan 07
Thanks for your answer on my other question. Well, new years day, I told my girlfriend we needed to talk. I could tell from her actions that she was pulling away, and that the decision to leave was pretty much set, so I told her to let's break it off now. I packed all my stuff that I had at her house and moved it back to my home. She reiterated to me that she loves me, and just wishes that I would put some of my goals to work. I had goals and dreams, but I didn't have follow through, etc. Anyway, we hung out all day yesterday and I think I will be at peace with the breakup. And, I think I will figure out a way to break up my dreams into smaller segments. I read about my personality type, that I am prone to paralysis by analysis, the getting ready to get ready syndrome. There is hope, but I need to break the big picture into smaller pics. So... I will try that.
4 Dec 06
what is the problem with that? gettingn up ?
• United States
5 Dec 06
The problem isn't necessarily getting up. The problem is the motivation to get up. It's hard to explain, I just know it isn't depression. I haven't been able to focus for a while on the goals that need to be set, and the actions that need to get them done. I end up at work thinking I should have done x y and z when I had the time, so I can get out of the job.
• United States
5 Dec 06
The problem isn't necessarily getting up. The problem is the motivation to get up. It's hard to explain, I just know it isn't depression. I haven't been able to focus for a while on the goals that need to be set, and the actions that need to get them done. I end up at work thinking I should have done x y and z when I had the time, so I can get out of the job.