Do you think it is right for parents ...

@HerShe (2386)
Canada
September 16, 2006 4:17pm CST
to search their children's room? I got sent to boarding school for what they read in my diary.
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• United States
3 Oct 06
Yes I think, not just think, I know that parents have the right to search the room. I myself have teenagers. I search the rooms all the time, in their faces and while they are away. I want and need to know what's going on w/ my children. You all know that they don't want you to know everything. And I do believe in the privacy act, but when I suspect they are up to something of no good, then I search the rooms.
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@tmakinc (135)
• United States
29 Sep 06
I don't think the answer to this question is as simple as yes or no. I think it's very circumstantial. I have a fourteen year old son and I would never search his room, unless, I truely felt that it was absolutely neccesary. It would be a personal struggle for me because I support his right to privacy, that is extremely important to me, but it is also extremely important to keep him safe, not to mention my responsibility. It would definitely be a last resort and I would have to have a very good reason to do it. Not just because I wanted to be nosey. A good reason to me, is if I thought he was doing something that could harm or kill him. Because if I didn't search his room and I missed something that could have helped me help him, I would never forgive myself.
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@Pigglies (9340)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I don't think so. I almost got kicked out of the house for something I wrote in my diary. The stupid thing was, when my parents said they knew about it, they almost read the passage back to me, and then told me that they hadn't searched through my room! How stupid do parents really think teenagers are? I think anyone should be able to have a private spot. But after that experience, even now I will not keep a written diary.
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
29 Nov 06
Hi Pigglies. I do like your name! I ejoyed these comments. Thank you for responding.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
29 Nov 06
Ooops!! It should read 'enjoyed'.....
• United States
3 Oct 06
i would say yes. but only if the parents believe that the child is doing something that could harm themself or others. if they are doing it just to be nose then no its not right. but i also believe that a child of any age should be able to talk to their parent about anything. and i mean anything so that way there is no reason for secret searches.
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
Hi All. I read all your responses. Thank you so much.
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
Hi All. I read all your responses. Thank you so much.
@roxy_stp (913)
• Romania
27 Nov 06
that's just evil...of course it's not,if my parents would find out what's in my mind....they would propabile send my to the madhouse
@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
Hello. I have read all your responses and thank you very kindly for them.
• United States
25 Oct 06
I think it is very important to do know what is going on in your childs life. If they are doing somehting that you fell is not right and they are not telling you what is going on then it is up to you to find out what it is. My children safety comes first no matter what I have to do to make sure they are save. I don't fell you should look though there stuff unless you have a reason too do it.
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
Hi Everyone above. I have read your responses and I thank you very much for them.
@MartyM (95)
• United States
30 Sep 06
I am a single mom, to a wonderful 13 year old boy!! Of course I worry what he's doing, etc. However.......my son should have his 'privacy' also. Your diary or journal should be yours...and only yours.
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@HerShe (2386)
• Canada
28 Nov 06
Hello All. I have read your responses and I thank you for them.
@caribe (2465)
• United States
3 Dec 06
I don't have any children so I am not sure what I would do. I would hope that I would give them their privacy, remembering how I never had any. I think my mother read everything that I ever wrote down. I remember having to stay in my house when a young man was visiting for two or three days just down the street. He had plans to become a doctor and probably did but my mom had read a letter he had written me telling me how beautiful I was and how he really liked me. Well, my mom made sure that nothing ever came of it and I was not the really rebelous type person so I did as she said. Wow! Old memories!
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@joechan (342)
• Malaysia
29 Nov 06
yes,bcos we need to know what they are thinking & doing, & we are they parents, cos we got right to do this.
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@rosey2006 (945)
• United States
29 Nov 06
I think that they should only do it if there is a real reason to do so.
@Pici0274 (559)
• United States
29 Nov 06
No I don't think reading a diary is right. Next time take it with you.
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• United States
29 Nov 06
yes, if parents suspect that their children are into something harmful, they have a right to search their room. Of course, it will be a challenge to lovingly confront the child is proof is found of dangerous behavior/activities. It is probably best just to tell the child what was found and ask them what it's about and see what they have to say.
@innechen (1322)
• Indonesia
28 Nov 06
the perfect Parent - the perfect Parent
i think parent are not suppose to do that, unless if they found it by accident such as when they clean up ur room and found your diary of corse they would read it.however you should put ur private thing somewhere safe so nobody can find it.
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@starr4all (2865)
27 Oct 06
I think it's the parents responsibility to search the room IF they have a reason. There has to be some sort of trust between parents and child. But if there is even the slightest reason to check then they should.
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• United States
26 Oct 06
Of course parents can search their kids rooms. Its their house and we are talking about children here. Not that children don't have rights, but if there's suspicion that something's not quite right, then sure, find out what you can. It shouldn't be a big deal if they have nothing to hide.
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@shasha13 (134)
• United States
26 Oct 06
It depends. I think everyone deserves their own space and privacy. However, if my child is acting withdrawn or just very different in behavior than is normal for them I would probably search their room to find out what was going on. Especially if my child refused to talk to me about what is going on with them.
@mcmomss (2601)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I think a child needs to have some degree of privacy. If the parents were aware of what goes on in their childs life and had an open and honest relationship with the children, then there wouldn't be any reason to have to search their room. If the childs behavior caused suspicion, then I think it is their right as parents to do what is necessary.
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@magikrose (5425)
• United States
25 Oct 06
This is a tough one for me. In one aspect I believe children deserve there privacy as much as any one else. But on the other hand as a parent I also thing you have the right to search your childs room if you suspect they are doing things they are not saposed to. It is a fine line to being a protective parent and invading privacy.
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@cuttyrish (2662)
• United States
25 Oct 06
I know its the responsibility of the parents to search their children's room but they should read your diary, they are violating your privacy. Your diary is for you only to see, not other people even your parents and your friends. But if they feel something is wrong, and you dont tell what's wrong to them, they will surely look at your diary, to be able to know the problem.
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• Estonia
3 Oct 06
It is hard for parents to walk the fine line between repecting privacy and trying to be good parents and know what is going on in their children's lives. If you don't talk to them how do they know how you feel, what you are doing, or what you want, etc.
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