Would you stay in a loveless marriage just for the kids?

@jmcafam (2891)
United States
December 5, 2006 2:07pm CST
My friend has been with his wife for quite a few years.They are always fighting even around the kids.The kids are picking up on it and acting out.The youngest acts like her mom and is mean.She hits and the brother gets blamed for her actions by mom, my aunt.The dad, my friend, says he won't leave cause of the kids.That is not a good way to live I've told him.Is this really healthier staying together for them or would it be best to just split for the sake of the kids?
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• United States
7 Dec 06
It would be better for the kids if there was a divorce. They don't need to live in a house of anger. My grandparents stayed married for 20+ years fighting all the time because they thought it was best for their kids, and my mother always told me that it would have been better for her and her brothers if they would have just divorced sooner. Your friends kids need an example of a happy family life, even if it is a divorced one.
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@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I agree with you.
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@LoganzMom (619)
• United States
7 Dec 06
while i admire parents for making a sacrifice like this for their kids, living in a home with nothing but fighting is worse for them. hopefully he will come to understand this and get out.
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@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
7 Dec 06
We've been telling him for the past several years.I hope that he does leave her for the sake of the kids.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
I don't think you are helping your kids any if the marriage is that bad. I know a lot of people feel it is - but seeing/hearing your parents fight all the time is not good. Sometimes the kids are better off when the parents split.
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@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
7 Dec 06
Children are suffering and the parents not always see what they are doing to them.
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@srhelmer (6930)
• Beaver Dam, Wisconsin
5 Dec 06
I wouldn't. People do that thinking a divorce would be hard on the children. But, I think having to watch their parents fight all the time would do more damage.
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@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
5 Dec 06
The children are already being damaged,which is sad.
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• United States
5 Dec 06
no I would not, and no one should. It is not doing anyone any good. I wish my mother would have left my dad years before she did. I hatted living in that house with them. I have also been divorced. My children are doing much better this way. We are all happier.
@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
5 Dec 06
I am sorry that you had to go through that as a child.It has to be difficult decision to make.In the interest of the children I think a divorce is best.
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• United States
17 Dec 06
yes it is, it is much better for the children. no child should have to listen to their parents arguing all the time. And thanks for the best response! :)
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
5 Dec 06
It is no use to stay for just the kids, they will feel even worse hearing you fight all the time. A divorce they can handle....
@jmcafam (2891)
• United States
5 Dec 06
That's what my family has been trying to tell him.We all warned him even before the kids not to get with her.