Should you give your cheater ex-bf a chance?

@gotcho0O (1258)
United States
December 6, 2006 1:33pm CST
Have you been cheated by your bf? What if he wants you back, will you say yes? There's a possiblity that a 2nd chance will be a wrong move but sometimes it'll work out fine. There's a saying that one is enough, two is too much, three is dangerous, four is no use, how bout 5? Is it impossible for some changes? Maybe he just want to enjoy life and when he get tired of it, he'll be ready for a real commitment, you think so?
22 responses
@HimArticles (1138)
• India
8 Dec 06
I think no. he should not be give 2nd chance and why? Cheater remains the cheater because some of the basic character of human being never changes. He is not serious just time passing. Again he will use you and when he will find the opportunity somewhere else he may again repeat the same history. How are his back ground and his past history, you know well so analyses whole situation then reach at the conclusion.
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I know, lett'n him to get that 2nd chance is a chance for a history to repeat itself. Same routine whatever it takes. But, I was hoping that, there'll be changes as time goes by. You know, people were not born to be bad. The question is, what's the point of cheating if he'll end up with the same person again? Is it to cheat again? and again. and then what? sigh..Thanks dude.
• India
8 Dec 06
Yes I agree with you that man is not dreadful by birth. The situations and circumstances makes him to so. Now do you think he has change completely and what symptoms you have observe in him for whom he should give the 2nd chance?
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• India
8 Dec 06
Yes I agree with you that man is not dreadful by birth. The situations and circumstances makes him to so. Now do you think he has change completely and what symptoms you have observe in him for whom he should give the 2nd chance?
@lissaj (532)
• United States
7 Dec 06
I think it depends on your situation. No one is perfect. My boyfriend cheated on me. We had a lot of problems afterwards, but we have now been together for 5 years and he hasn't cheated since. He knows that he screwed up, and he doesn't want to lose me or his kids. If he ever did it again, I think I would be gone, but things happen. Not saying it is right, but you have to be willing to work through it and the mistrust.
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yah, I think it is really depends on the situation. Everybody is just a human. So how many times he cheated on ya? Thanks girl ^_^.
@sassyces (1604)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
rel - rel
I think I'm not in the position to answer this post for I think, I cannot give a good answer (I'm never cheated on yet=) Anyway, it depends, if the guy that has cheated on me is someone that I TRULY love (getting over him would be such a tedious task) so I think I'll give him another chance,only that I'll make things hard for him to win me back, i mean harder than the hardest (oh my, am I too redundant?=) for me to gauge if the relationship is still worth a second try.
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@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
7 Dec 06
That's what I did exactly. I think, it's worth it. Thanks.
• United States
7 Dec 06
no way!!!! after once i would'nt be giving him a second chance. he would never make it to a fifth chance with me
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Actually, this is are 5th relationship. So far, so good, after those cheating times .. -sigh- .. all I know is that he loves me this time, fohrealz. Thanks
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I mean "our" 5th...
• Canada
14 Feb 07
no,definitely no! cause in my cause,as of now,i dont take chances. id rather stay single than get back with the person who betrayed me before. its not that easy to get back on your feet and gain your life again so why would i take it to a risk again. he's not the only man on heart,i believe that there are still someone who deserve my love. =p
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, there is a right person for everyone. It just happen, for me, I'm not that ready to let go that person until I end up wast'n my time fighting for love. Fortunately, I think it's a success. One thing I've learned, once he dumped you, don't ever give him another chance to hurt you again unless he's the one who makes hardship efforts to win you back.
@Anakata2007 (1787)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
don't do it, once a cheater always a cheater. I did it, I never trusted him again, and it made my life a living hell.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Really? I told my boyfriend about that "a cheater always a cheater". He said, "is there no hope for a person to change at all?.." Mind tell'n your story here cause it's actually is depends on the situation. Thanks
• United States
8 Dec 06
for me its all different coz if you are so much inlove with the person eventhough he hurt you so bad u cant help yourself but get back with him, u know. But if you were really hurt and your feeling was totally gone then you will instantly feel you dont want him back. So, it all depends on how you feel right after he hurt you...
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
9 Dec 06
True. Especially when it's really enough, then I should stop. Thanks a lot.
• Indonesia
8 Dec 06
Yes
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Thank you.
• India
8 Dec 06
very difficult.... but y at all will he cheat u once??? i wud find it very difficult but honestly i dnt thnk i ll b sble to accept it
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yup complicated ^_^. Thanks.
@sindra (1119)
• Indonesia
7 Dec 06
hmmmm
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Tnx.
• India
7 Dec 06
I think giving him a 2nd chance is not wrong..Because to error is human nature.But we should try to know that whether he had really changed or not.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
2nd chance is really wrong or else you'll be like me, waited and waited too long enough to reach the point that I can't let go anymore, but this time, I consider it as the last cause Imma kill myself if I'll be one heck s2pd again.Thanks.
@mbs730 (2152)
• Canada
7 Dec 06
I would never give a cheater a second chance. They do it once, they will do it again. Just like someone who is abusive, they'll give the big heart felt apology afterwards but 2 days later, back to square one. No way!
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yeh, proven. once, twice, thrice..till 5th, I hope this time will be a good one hahaha. Thanks.
@cheenlly (3483)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
Absolutely no, just recently happen to me my ex bf wants to get back. Although i still feel something for him since i really love him so much when he did that. I dont want to give him another chance because if i do that its like im giving him the chance to hurt me again. we sometimes think that they're maybe some changes but if your a risker and very tough 2nd chance is not bad but be sure he's worthy of your forgiveness. but remember once a cheater always a cheater.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Happened to me once I mean loads ^_^. I hope this time, -sigh-it'll be great and no more hurt'n again =(.. Thanks
• United States
7 Dec 06
never
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Thank you.
@ricky1209 (1677)
• India
7 Dec 06
y ....no need
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Thanks.
• India
7 Dec 06
i cant say coz i m a boy,but i can't be cheater anyways
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Who's the lucky girl? Goodluck. Thanks.
@rms2727 (815)
• India
7 Dec 06
it is a very dicey situation, may be he is genuinely wanting to come back or it is also possible that he just wants to Come back for a change and then move out again. before you take any decision you have to find out his actual intention of returning back to you. because surely you don't want to get bitten by the same dog again.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I hope it's the one that wants to come back for a change without moving out again harharhar. How will I do that by asking him? Ahmmm Let me check, I've done that before, asking Him and He told me that having had those past relationsip with other girls are just part of being a teenager or young one and then, now that he's mature enough to know which is right and wrong, I'm the one that he likes and nobody can change that. Well, hoping that is not a lie. Thanks ^_^
@mashimaro (1097)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
never, no way...he is not deserving!
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I know ^_^. Shux!! Thanks.
@hazeter (671)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
I think u give him a chance. If still things are the same then just end it up. But if ur bf change and u love each other then why not continue having relationship.
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Yah I guess you're right. Thanks so muchie.
@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
7 Dec 06
no way!!! my ex bf cheats on me...he is the first BF i introduced to my family. we already have a lot of plans.. but to my surprise he had an affair with their housemaid..uh!!oh!! it really hurts me.. he then leave for a job..when he came back he calls at me and i told him.."IM MARRIED" hahahaha..since then he never call back..
@gotcho0O (1258)
• United States
7 Dec 06
What? Housemaid? Shux!!! Sorry to hear that. Funny. It made me think I'm the s2pdest person in the universe! I hope my current bf loves me foreals. Thanks.