What wud u do if u fall in love with ur best frnd?

India
December 7, 2006 12:44pm CST
i fell in love with my best frnd... and now she is getting married.. I cant satnd this thot what shud i do?? If i tell her i'll loose her.. I tried a lot to give her this hint.. And i think she understands but.. no one can do anything!!! huh life is strange?? Does anyone has an answer?
5 responses
@dixielol (1581)
• United States
15 Dec 06
This is a toughy. Do you think that she likes you or could like you? I was best friends with a guy who decided that he was in love with me. But I didnt like him like that. It didnt change things alot for us. Then I had another friend who also decided the same thing. but after he told me, he started acting weird, like he was not comfortable around me. We didnt talk for over 2 yrs because he acted so freaking weird around me. We are kind of friends now, but not to close. I think that if you are truly great friends, in time you can work it out if you tell her and she says no. But you should tell her because other wise you will never know for sure what she would have said or how she felt about you. At least you will know if you do tell her.
• India
15 Dec 06
I told her.. and her reaction was little confused.. she was more of confused rather than saying no... i dont know what she wants,.... neither she does... its all so confusing and... also i dont want to beleive that my best friend does not love me .... she said she loves me but not like that.... what does that mean!!! I am confused and geting mad everyday..
@rmuxagirl (7568)
• United States
19 Dec 06
At least you told her and won't be wondering "what if." And her saying she loves you but not like that is more of loving you as a family member loves you, but not in the way to marry or date someone. There are plenty friends I love, but not like that. You said in the previous response, that neither of you know what you want, so give it time. If it's meant to be it'll be.
@fizza10 (1718)
• Pakistan
7 Dec 06
i really just don't get it what's the matter with u guyz....i remember there was this guy in my university who loved me alot but never said anything ever except giving me a few hints.......and we were friends for about 4yrs...and yet he never said anything to me ever.....before the last day of his in our university his friends told me about him.......and yet i didnt believe them coz that guy himself hadn't said anything to me himself....and eventhough we guyz are friends till today but he never says anything to me...just gives me hints...lolz.... anyways it's too wrong when ever i ask him does he loves me?...hesays no i don't....i just don't get it what do guyz actually want why can't they speak their hearts out....... believe me you have no reason to blame that girl....coz u never said ur true feelings to her....and when she'z going to have a good life u want to spoil it........if u really love her so go and say it to her in clear cut words...coz life just comes for one and there isn't anytime to loose....
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• India
7 Dec 06
Exactly!! i dont want to spoil her life thats why i'm not telling her..i know she tells me i'm her best frnd..And she can talk to me only which she cant even to her mom!! and i know she does not love me like.. marrying and stuff..Even if i tell her...U know .I'll hurt her.. Or I'll Loose her.. Or the things will change. it happens dear.. SO if i love her so much..Wud it not be right to let her be happy!!
• India
5 Jan 07
dont u think love is way to show ur affection to someone,if someone loves u it dosnt mean he or she wants to marry u,see we love our parents our sister it mean we r going to marry them or any thing else,same is friend if he loves u ,it dosnt that u marry to him,after it can be onesided as well,if u might also be loving him u might also realise it,but u dont.i had seen when people get a girlfriend they think dam out of it,i dont know why... cant they be simply friend like we r with other friends....
@besthope44 (12145)
• India
29 Aug 10
Love is a great feeling which has to be expressed. If you find it true, never fail to convey, thats a tribute to the love in real.Yes am in true love and its a feeling of happiness life long.
@xiongqh (793)
• Hong Kong
5 Jan 07
I don't think it si a good idea. I think between the two best friend, Love is hard to survive, there are no passion between them. they always feel familiar each other, and know all things about the other one, that make people lost the newness. Of cause If you two fall in love each other, never mind what I say, just enjoy your love.
• India
5 Jan 07
Well! I am in love with my best friend. Thankfully, even he is. And we are likely to get married soon. But yes, it was a lot of problems initially. It was difficult to behave like a lover to your best friend. Sounded so formal n uncomfortable. it took us time to realise that it's our friendship wrapped in the form of love. So we once again started behaving as best friends and hence we have nothing to hide from each other... We love each other's independence and decisions the way we appreciated earlier.