Birthday gift

United States
December 7, 2006 2:52pm CST
Why is it that I feel obligated to get someone a b-day present when it's thier b-day? When did this tradition start. I'm so broke and I don't know what to do about b-day presents. I hate b-days that fall in december.
3 responses
@icequeen (2843)
• Canada
7 Dec 06
Maybe you could make something..or just get something...that may not cost much...or do a favour for them...that doesn't cost anything...
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• United States
8 Dec 06
Those are some good ideas. I especially like the one you suggested about doing them a favor. Sounds good!
• United States
10 Dec 06
have you made anything for someone lately?
• United States
8 Dec 06
You feel obligated because you're basically a nice person and a people pleaser. Being short on cash is always rough, feeling you need to buy a gift for someone knowing it will either be less expensive than you normally would buy or cut you even shorter for your own needs makes it even rougher. I once had a friend who was a coupon collector, so I gathered up hundreds of coupons for her birthday. I had another friend who quilted, she was always looking for colorful fabrics for her quilts. Often she would buy clothing at rummage sales to cut up for her patterns. For her I gathered scraps and asked others for donations of old colorful clothing. Another friend loved prints. Art prints that is...she couldn't afford them and neither could I. For her I downloaded and printed out several pieces of art. I placed them on cardboard backers and arranged 10 or 12 pieces in a collage of sorts. I framed this with white poster board, writing the artists names on the edging. For yet another friend I located crocheted doilies and even some of the plastic toss away ones. I covered a sheet of cardboard with black satineen material, arranged the various doilies and once again used poster board to make a frame. They all seemed to like the gifts and as far as I know to this day those 'frames' hang on the walls of their homes. But yep birthdays in December can be a pain, for the gift giver and for the one who receives.
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• United States
8 Dec 06
You guessed it! I am a people pleaser. I love all your ideas. You are a very thoughtful person and a great friend. I would be lucky to have you as my friend. As always thanks!
• Singapore
15 Dec 06
i dont feel obligated to give bday presents for anyone and that's the same, i dont expect people to give me anything on my bday..i just want their time...to just sit there and be with me. but seriously, i dont like august cos that's the birth month of me and both my parents....LOL i used to see bday as a day of presents but as i got older...i think the most important thing is that you get to be with the person you love and the presents is not so important anymore.