Pay Up, Roomie!!!

United States
December 7, 2006 5:05pm CST
my roommate and I have been living together for four months now. for the past three months she has been completely inadequate when it comes to paying rent on time. the last two times i was generous and payed for her because i have money from scholarships in my account. this time though, i wanted to wait and get her to pay herself, because it took her a full two months to pay me back. i just got a notice from our apartment complex, with MY NAME on it, saying I OWED money for the apartment and a fee, btw she SHOULD be able to pay me, there's no reason she can't (like say money problems, she has a great job)... i just went and payed it for her because i dont want that kind of thing against my name. how do i get her to pay on time!!! ive tried yelling, threatening (which im not very threatening so it didnt work too well, lol) and making her pay fees. our contract is a year long, so its not like i can kick her out without paying $400 extra a month. i just dont know what to do anymore... have you ever been so angry you were shaking and couldnt speak because youre near tearing your hair out and breaking down to tears? yea, thats how i feel right now. doesnt help this is happening during finals...
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39 responses
• United States
8 Dec 06
Kick her out. That is all I can say.
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• United States
8 Dec 06
I think u had enfough of her... Make her pay for it or just kick her out that the only solution or file a complain against her...
• United States
8 Dec 06
ditto...Isn't much you can do unless you kick her out and sue her for not paying rent (assuming she is on the lease)
@Mickie30 (2633)
8 Dec 06
I am sorry to hear about your problems with your flat mate, but you shouldn't have to pay her share all the times its not fair on you. You have enough stress with your exams. I think you need to say that you have had enough and either she pays or gets out. If you cannot get her to pay or leave then maybe you need to get someone else involved. She cannot be that much of a friend if she is doing this to you and I think its time for you to be tough with her she cannot expect to live somewhere for free she is using you.
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I suggest you start looking for a new roomate without her knowing. Then when you find one kick her butt out. Its as simple as that. There is no other or logical way. She is taking advantage of you.
• United States
8 Dec 06
The Boot - GIVE HER THE BOOT!
I say GIVE HER THE BOOT! And ask around for a new roomie who cares=)
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• United States
8 Dec 06
If I were in you situation I would tell her that I was looking for another roommate because the way that she does things is unacceptable. I would not yell or threaten, I would say all of this calmly, but simply that you are done being stressed and upset because of her.
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@FiredUp (270)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Can you kick her out and find another roommate, because at the moment, aren't you paying the extra money anyway?
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@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
Wow...it sounds like this is putting too much pressure on you...especially now. I would talk to her one last time and tell her to pay her share..or she can look for another place to live....!
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@leilani47 (780)
• United States
8 Dec 06
So, is your friend on the lease or not? That would make a big difference on how to handle the situation. If she is NOT, on the lease, I would definately start looking for another roommate, you should not have to pay for her share! She continues to do this, because she knows that you will cover her. Put her out! She's definately not a true friend - if she were, you wouldn't be going through this.
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@rakinitin (686)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
First I would suggest putting her on the lease so any unpaid rent will be recorded as her default not yours. If you cannot make her accountable and she pay on time, I would suggest you replace her with someone more responsible. It certainly sounds like she is taking advantage of you because of the year long commitment and your stake in it. It's too bad you got stuck with someone so immature. I hope others have more ideas and help you out.
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• United States
8 Dec 06
i would think that the least your roommate could do is help pay some bills. if she doesn't, then the best you can do is get her to sign an agreement stating she will pay you back fro the $$ you spent on her by the time the lease is up, and if she doesn't you take her to court.
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@222111 (18)
• India
8 Dec 06
right i am facing the same situation with my roommate.he is living in my room since six months but he is not paying me at all when ever i ask for money he replies friend i am having financial problems in my house i have to solve them.every one will have problems but first he should clear my dues .i am eagerly waiting for my money.i am not any solution i tried all ways but now i have given up. what t do.
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• United States
8 Dec 06
You need to stop letting her get away with it. You threaten her, then allow her to do it again. Stick with it. Replace her with a new roomie!
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@zman87 (635)
• United States
8 Dec 06
Dude you shouldn't pay her rent if she has a good job and the money just don't pay it and when she sees the notice that she is going to be evicted she will pay the money.....................
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@review (60)
• United States
8 Dec 06
I would consider looking for a new roommate, such as via a service if needed such as roommate.com If her name is not on the lease she has no rights there. On another note, you are already paying 400 more a month, maybe if you take a stand and have her evicted she'll see the light. You could also make a posting at your school. It may be scary to get a new roommate but this one is obviously tearing your life apart. On a last note...if the above doesn't work -- make her life as miserable as possible. ;-)
@lissaj (532)
• United States
8 Dec 06
In some cases your landlord will let you break the lease if you can find someone else to let the apartment. Is she on the lease? I'm asking because you said your name was on the notice. If she isn't, give her the ultimatum. She needs to pay her share or move out. You can give her 30 days notice and look for another roommate. If she is, it is a bit more complicated, but I would still tell her. Sometimes the landlord will work with you also, go in person to pay your part of the rent, and make the landlord go after her for the rest.
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@ruby1459 (2603)
• United States
7 Dec 06
WOW...I was in a same situation before. My roommate didn't really have a good job but she was always saying that she is trying to get a better one. I know that we all have a limit in our skil so sometimes no matter how much we want a good job doesn't work for us and we have to deal with what we have. This girl could have applied to full time at where she worked but she just didn't work that much so she has decided to stay as part time and she only worked a couple of days a week and only 4 to 5 hours per day. When it came to the day we have to pay a rent,she was saying that she will get a paycheck in next week and she will pay back.but she always got short money because of she didn't work enough hour and she neede to buy food. Her parents was helping but she spent it all to clothing,shoes and party and she often ate our food without saying anything!!!!!!!! We all left when our contract has expired.We looked for place to stay way before she did and I heard she had to ask her parents to move back to her home and got into a serious argument with her whole family since her family was sending her money for supporting her living.I believe her parents was sending for over a year.
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@kerbausama (1336)
• Malaysia
8 Dec 06
try slow talk ok...maybe she had prob..
• United States
8 Dec 06
HAHA...this made me laugh. Thanks
@NewHeart (528)
• Canada
8 Dec 06
roomies are not your friends in this instance, its like a business when rent is do they have to pay they're share otherwise you could get stuck holding the bag. what would she do if the shoe was on the other foot and you didn't pay your share. well if the bill came to you when it was due i guess the place is in your name i would say give her notice and find another roomie...
• United States
8 Dec 06
Wow, I came back to look at this thread and I was at shock to find all of these replies. I'm feeling a lot more calm after I read them and I know I just need to standup and take care of the situation. Thanks everyone.
@pipin82 (42)
• United States
8 Dec 06
uuugghh,i know how you feel i have a roommate and she has a son,and instead of filing for child support from his father that the kid sees all the time she just doesnt pay for rent or food or anything else.i dont know what to do about her,i hate having roommates seems like somone always gets left holding the bag,and i am tired of it being me!I'm sorry for your situation all i can say is do yourself a favor and find a new roommate,or stand up for yourself and get her to pay up somthing i wish i could do for myself.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
8 Dec 06
give her the boot - this is funny
if i was in your shoes, after the second time and she still would ot put to the rent i would ask her to leave and find another roomie. she sees that your soft and will pay it so shes not bothering with it. kick her out if there is not help next month, i would.