can ex lovers be bestfriends again?

@socute (181)
Philippines
December 7, 2006 10:47pm CST
not from my experience. its hard to bring back d friendship after a bad break up. its not that easy right? what do u guys think?
28 responses
• United States
9 Dec 06
I don't know. I don't think so! I can't even begin to imagine being good friends with either one of my exes. Both relationships were very painful and each one had horrible break ups. I honetly don't think I would ever WANT to be friends with them again, hee hee. :)
@socute (181)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
hehehee i was thinking the same way too.. bringing back d friendship would be nice but uhmm that will be apinful for us both i think..
@socute (181)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
i mean painful*
• United States
9 Dec 06
I would think it is pretty hard. But, it really depends on the people. I agree with you.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
all of my exboyfriends are my bestfriends first before we step up to the next level.. so imagine how hard it is when we split up. we cant seem to bring back d friendship anymore. its so hard and complicated now.. i think thats really how it is.. we just have to accept the situation.
• United States
10 Dec 06
That makes sense to me. That's why I thought it might be a hard thing to do. And men have a harder time with it than women.
• Uganda
9 Dec 06
Yes, they can be best friends depending on their circumstances, that is if they have not got someone else in thier lives.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
but what if one of them found someone new? and the other is still bitter or hopeful? pursuiNg a friendchip will be pAinful and hard isn't?
@pagli84 (1850)
• Netherlands
12 Dec 06
i think it's impossible if one of them still loves the other. in my case, i could never be friends with my ex because i still love him more than anything in the world and still think that we should have never broken up. talking to him and seeing him...hell, even thinking about him...hurts me so incredibly much that it would be impossible to pretend to be happy around him, especially if he was with another girl.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
how much pain.. - do i have to endure for the loss of a friend and lover
i know how it feels coz ive been there.. when we split up we agreed to stay as friends but no it never happend. nothing is the same anymore. thats a sad thing we have to accept. maybe its destined this way.
@chiyosan (30184)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
no. you will never go back to the way the things were when you were lovers. there will always be a gap between the two of you, and it will never ever be the same.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
ex lovers - can they be friends again?
yes i totally agree with u. IT WILL NEVER EVER BE THE SAME. especially when both are not yet moved on. moreover, if the cause of split up is infidelity. its very difficult because its like losing a lover and a bestfriend at the same time.
@sj_chaudhry (1537)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
this world - this world
yup u rr ight it is not that easy becuase you hav ahd share lotta things which are beyond the boundaries of friendship then how can you bind those boundaries again.... and there chances of even more heart breaking events. so it would be better leave that relation for good.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
yeah i agree with you.
@epizzahut (2078)
• China
12 Dec 06
yes of course. i am the example,i and my ex girlfriend is bestfriends for many year,it is true.
@leonilyn (467)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
it depends on how you part ways... with my first BF we are friends already after 3 years of break up. with my second one i never saw him anymore.. with my third one till now we still didn't talk..:)
@socute (181)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
yeah a bad break up wont give space for friendship anymore..
@jcvelina (1255)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
sure you can. my previous girlfriend and i had a very tumultous 7 year relationship but we managed to become friends after we both settled down. as a mater of fact she does our finances and her husband handles our stock portfolios. we also try to go out once in a while to talk business.
@socute (181)
• Philippines
8 Dec 06
doesnt ur partner get jealous when u are with ur ex girlfriend? i think that is the common problem.
@dholey (1383)
• India
11 Dec 06
may be , i don't have any experience of this , but i think once you are apart there is a distance between person, one will not have that warmth which is needed to be a good friend , after breakup they will have some mutual understanding , but they can not be good friends, if they think like it , they are playing with each other ,
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
yes i agree with u, u cant bring back whats been spill...or a broken glass at that...
@socute (181)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
so true..
• Indonesia
12 Dec 06
i agree. it's been so hard to started everything over after the bad break up. seems like need some times even for years to bring the slipped train back into the rail. but, eventually i did. become a couple friend is more suitable for us than to become lovers.
• Singapore
11 Dec 06
No.Not really possible.
• India
11 Dec 06
yes yes!!!i agree with you.friendship after a break up is very hard.yea they can patch up again.but being friends would be a sort of acting afetr so much of intimacy...yea may be many years back when both are settled..but the concept is quite fishy to me...hehehe
• Pakistan
10 Dec 06
your experience is right.
@chello63 (305)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
yup your right. it's not that easy to turn back again your friendship that you've started.. in my expirience it takes 6 years before i and my ex boyfriend get friends again..
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
they say the friends can be lovers but (ex)lovers can't be friends. maybe after break-up you would never want to be friend with him/her especially if you separate ways badly. its true that its not easy to be friends again but later on you can be good friends again if no more pains. before i used to hate my ex boyfriend after we broke up but as time flies i come to realize that there is nothing to be hatred instead be happy that for once he was a part of your life. hating him would just bring you burden inside you. its nice to live without hating anybody..
@selina0625 (1379)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
They say that "Friends can be Lovers but Lovers can't be friends". I believe that because I too have experience a painful breakup. Eventhough both of us has moved on already and live our own lives I still cannot even talk to him with ease. My first boyfriend is also a co-worker till now. We just talk about work related things but beyond that, there's already a wall that separates us. I don't think that even time can make that wall go away.
@zarden (107)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
yes there are some cases especially if they accept each other's reason why they need to have separate ways. but if im about to choose, i prefer to be friends only, not bestfriends, coz somehow i admit that i might feel a little jealousy if i would saw him with another guy.
• Romania
11 Dec 06
Hmmmm.tricky question...in some cases they might,in my experience,i know it won't be the same again,especially that he is dating now someone very close and dear to me.