December 8, 2006 3:36am CST
Hey everyone, well my boyfriend is in the British army and he got back from Iraq around May this year, and this morning I got a phone call from him telling me that they have signed him up to deploy again...less then a year after he got back...Neither of us want him to go again, but I feel so helpless as there is little either of us can do. It just makes me angry because there are plenty of other people who have not been yet and he has already been so why does he have to be sent again in less then a year after he got back, am I just being a concerned girlfriend who just wants some stability in her relationship or am I just being plain selfish??? Thanks xx
• United States
8 Dec 06
My husband is in the US ARMY, and has been deployed for most of our 6 year marriage. It seems like there should be a ban on how often they are deployed, but in times of was, this ban goes right out the window. I am so sorry he has to leave again. I don't think you are being selfish at all. It is perfectly normal to feel this way, and don't let anyone tell you otherwise. There is a lot to deal with when you are with a soldier. But years from now you will be such a strong couple, and experiences like this will help to keep you going. After all, the 'honeymoon' period they experience upon return is always nice, isn't it? Although, I know that that doesn't make up for the long deployment. I wish I knew what to say to make you feel better. But I know your pain. Enjoy your time with your boyfriend, and try not to think about the deployment until it is nearer. Good Luck!
9 Dec 06
Hey thanks for the advice, and yes, last time he came back he had 6 weeks off, the only problem was he came back when I was in the middle of my A level exams (in England they are pretty important as you need to get the grades you need to get to university) but we managed to spend a great deal of time together. Thanks for your help!!!