11 months without seeing

India
December 8, 2006 7:17am CST
Ok, i have a question about my relationship with my girlfriend Christina. I live in mumbai and she lives in Bangalore. we've been together for 11 months today. we havent met in person once, but we definately know what each other looks like. I love her with all my heart and she does too. She is planning on moving up here in 2 years or so to go to college and im already going to college this summer, im also going to go down there and spend a week with her and also spend holidays. My parents dissapprove of the relationship 100% I need to know desperately if this relationship is healthy, the real deal and if we have a chance of making it till we actually meet.
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
8 Dec 06
Í do not understand how you can love someone you´ve only met once. I´m sorry but I do not belive in relations like this, but it might be because i wasn´t brought up to belive in arranged marriages and stuff like this. She is planningto move there in 2 years - and how many times will you meet in this period of time? A week, 2 weeks? I don´t have any positive advice to give you - sorry!
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@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
8 Dec 06
i read again and saw you HAVEN`T even met her once... That makes it even more difficult for me to understand!
• India
8 Dec 06
Still i am a bit confused. Thanks Anywayz. Cheers!
• Egypt
8 Dec 06
well, I didn't try this. But I think this kind of relation can end easily or can be strong and live for ever. You may know a lot about her but u didn't see her. u may dislike the way she talks, the way she walks and the way she lives. Though, u may like all I mentioned. I suggest u tell ur parents that u will use this week to see whether this relation will succeed or not. I know it may be hard to say it won't, but don't make ur love control u. Just try to live close to her and see whether it works or not..
• India
8 Dec 06
Thanks for your ideas and comments. But i hope you understand its gonna be a tough task Cheers!!
@bobster (219)
8 Dec 06
theres no reason why you shouldnt have a great relationship if you work at it
• India
8 Dec 06
Thanks a lot Cheers!!
• United States
8 Dec 06
if youve never met in person i think that what you "love" is the shadow or idea of a person. You and or her have built an image of eachother and it may or may not be real. I hope it is but...probably not hope. Dont mean to bust your bubble.
• Romania
8 Dec 06
yes this is true. A lot of persons with witch I talked on the internet aren't the same in real life. I imagened them to be different.
• India
9 Dec 06
hey... thats cool man.... i have got a girl through chat and we know each other for 8 years and for the last one year we are very very very close and we have met a hell a lot of times and she loves me more than i do(that's what she keeps telling me (lol)). To me, it's nothing strange. so go ahead and enjoy and savour each moment of your relationship.
@donglory (677)
• Ghana
9 Dec 06
what happened
@elle84 (174)
• Australia
9 Dec 06
How the hell can you have a relationship with someone you've never met!!! :S and you say you know what each other looks like, how the hell do you know its really her? for all you know she could have cut a picture out of a magazine
@harsh1985 (594)
• India
9 Dec 06
well i don't seem any problem, but i can't understand how anybody can fall any love by seeing only once..anyways go ahead but built your career first girl next, although this is my view go ahead........best of luck
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
Basically I will respond to the question of whether the relationship is healthy or not. Technically, your main concern as of the moment (as per stated in your story) is distance. A tough one to bridge when it comes to a relationship.. its not enough that you know how each other looks like. What is important is you know each other as a person and as a couple. Long distance relationship is hard but i believe it could be surpass.. it is relative to the couple. what i mean is it depends on you two whether it will work out or not and how are you going to make it work. For me whether it is healthy or not, only you guys can say. And if its not, it depends on how you're going to make it work.
• Uganda
9 Dec 06
Well, I advise you not to put so much hope in this relationship since the two of you have never met. Your parents care about you and don't want you ruined. Long distance dating can be nice but at the same time dangerous because you truly don't know the other person completely. You can get a very nice photo of the person yet it's not really her. So take care.
@sanorita (58)
• India
9 Dec 06
well u didnt meet each othr yet.. thts soo sad.. btw r u like in contact wt her thru fones or internet.. but nw tht u sy u both love eachothr soo dearly.. thn goahead.. jus meet up asap.. plan thgs wisely n get married accordingly.. y shud parents gv the approval.. aftr al its decision dear.. cos u rgona spend ur life wt ur partner.. soo meet her asap..
@balabrahmam (1074)
• India
9 Dec 06
its really great but beware of ladies they loves you and their parents if their parents putting more pressire on them she will must bend on her parents so move fastly ok do no dealy
• India
9 Dec 06
i dont think you can love someone without meeting him/her in person. you have to know the person first to love her.
@JBD189 (345)
• India
9 Dec 06
Hey . . . How old are you? That you've only started college and she is yet to start college. If I was your mum, I would have put you under house-arrest.
@binitkedia (1172)
• India
9 Dec 06
definitely you have a chance of making it and there is no harm in keeping this relationship
• India
9 Dec 06
sorry buddy...but i don think a relatnshp works this way... physical exsitence palys an important part of any relatnshp....hope u wont deny tth
@terita (280)
• Pakistan
9 Dec 06
there seem tó be no problem in your relationship. I think you should consider that your relationship concerns to you and your girlfriend. Your parents are not at all included on this. I dont really know about your culture but i think you have to set yourself free and give freedom to your love life
• India
9 Dec 06
i too have frnd like you .....we used talk daily in phone .....unfortunately wat happened to her i dont know but suddenly she stopped calling me and her number is not workin...i miss her a lot
@ZoyaAli (127)
• Pakistan
9 Dec 06
if u need an honest advice then let me tell u.. analyse if you really love her and if you are really serious about her... without meeting anyone u shd not decide to get serious abt that person.. at this age u can be decieved by feeling "strong likeness" as "love"... nowadays practically one shd consider one's limitations first and then think for having space for real love in life beacause unfavored consequences can hurt that girl also... u know this kind of practical attitude will not hurt in the long run... i hope u will understand...
• India
9 Dec 06
iam also facing same problem now because i aslo have a girl friend upto now i didn't met her i talked in phone with her we know each other well she loves me alot. in love trusting is more important my dear friend. u know her well she knows u well then whats the problem carry on with ur thoughts don't be confused. if u both r well seteled then go for marraige. thats is very good option. because we get loving and caring people so rarely in this world. so go head my dear friend