AM I STUPID OR WHAT???

@misste78 (539)
United States
December 8, 2006 9:23am CST
My boyfriend has to be the most lazy unappreciative in the world which makes me the most stupid person in the world. I've been taking care of him the whole 4 years we've been together. He says he appreciates me, but he doesn't show it. I know for a fact that he loves me and of course I love him but how far does love go? He just recently started a job and I thought things were starting to look up, then he decides that's not the job he wants, and calls off yesterday. He knows that at this point in our lives I need him to contribute to the house but it seems to make no difference to him. I'm getting tired.
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@banta78 (4335)
• India
9 Dec 06
I think it is very simple he does not deserve you. I am very serious when i say that he does not know what love is. I Know what love is, in true love you have to learn to sacrifice yourself for your love's sake. But i think that sort of love is hard to find and get in today's world. but i promise girls that when i find my soulmate i will be like the typical leo and love the girl wholeheartedly. i will be the most loyal hubby , i will value and cherish my love, i will bring sun and moon to her feet, i will do the impossible to satisfy and i will protect her from all storms, i will give up my life trying to protect her. I will make sacrifices for her.... i will love her, care for her. I will be most romantic, simple, down to earth, innocent thing. I hope you have got the idea of the type of man you deserve. Dump him tomorrow morning first thing in the morning. I will be most eager to be friends with such lovely and nice person as you and i promise you won't reget it.
@misste78 (539)
• United States
9 Dec 06
I want to thank you for making me smile this morning. You sound like one of the greatest guys in the world. So why haven't you been snatched up yet.
@sahil123 (15)
• India
8 Dec 06
Well, I think..If he loves you then he should listen to you. He should understand you, coz if someone loves someone truly there is a feeling to make your partner happy even if you are not happy with it. If hes not listening to you then there might be some problems in future for you. There may be another case..may be hes helpless..and don't want to tell you about it. There may be a big problem and he don't want to give you the tension. In that case he loves you blindly and you should talk to him and try to reveal the problem
• United States
9 Dec 06
Naughty, naughty...you copied the response from gaganlok who responded in #4.
@Zack09 (8)
• India
8 Dec 06
love is something that both persons should share same, both should have the same feeling, your problem is, you love him but doesnt like the way he is... remember, a girl can change a man a lot... its all love.. nothing's impossible. you r not crazy.. but a lil impatient... love works.. dont worry.. have a nice love ahead.... bye
• United States
9 Dec 06
She's not impatient at all. She's supported him for 4 years already. I wouldn't have done it for that long.
• United States
8 Dec 06
How old is this man? It seems to me that he is having a problem with responsibility. My exhusband would only work for a few months, get layed off and draw unemployment. Then he would not accept work that didn't pay him what his previous job did. The previous job was overpaid and was out of the area. He enjoyed staying at home and doing nothing. I worked and he expected me to hand over my pay at the end of the week. Well, after 6 years of that non-sense, I left him. You need to weigh the good and the bad. If the bad outweighs the good, move on. Life is too short to be miserable.
@misste78 (539)
• United States
9 Dec 06
He's 25 years old and you are right. He has never really experienced responsibility and that is why I think I'm giving him the chance to step up.
@sarah22 (3981)
• United States
8 Dec 06
your not stupid to love someone and let things get this way. love can be blind, you need to sit him down and explain to him the situation and that you need him to work to have the life you both want. if he cannot help you out,regardles if you love him, then he needs to leave.how old his this guy that he lets you bring home the oney and take care of all the things? i wish you the best.
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
Yeah right. You know its so hurt for someone to let go especially if his everything for you. At first, give him the second chance but if you think you have already give him all the chances, i think you need to take some break... A relationship is not just as plain as that, its a partnership as well. Above all, you and only you who can decide what's best for you. Hope our comments will guide you.
• Kenya
8 Dec 06
Dump him the first thing tomorow.he was only after your cash.i bet you are rich.
@blueman (16513)
• India
9 Dec 06
i do agree with that.
@nuel_h (1593)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
1st of all, i would like to say that thanks for posting such quality post, now.. i think i called it love though, i recomend u to wach "the break up" by jenigffer aniston and vince vaughn.
• India
9 Dec 06
i will say, when you have judged your boy friend to really love him, you better stick to him.. but as far as your problem is concerned, my suggestion would be, he is kinda of immature.. i will say give him responsibilities.. ask him to take care of accounts, ask him go for shopping.. this would certainly make him think and surely will be more a contributing guy..
@banta78 (4335)
• India
9 Dec 06
I think it is very simple he does not deserve you. I am very serious when i say that he does not know what love is. I Know what love is, in true love you have to learn to sacrifice yourself for your love's sake. But i think that sort of love is hard to find and get in today's world. but i promise girls that when i find my soulmate i will be like the typical leo and love the girl wholeheartedly. i will be the most loyal hubby , i will value and cherish my love, i will bring sun and moon to her feet, i will do the impossible to satisfy and i will protect her from all storms, i will give up my life trying to protect her. I will make sacrifices for her.... i will love her, care for her. I will be most romantic, simple, down to earth, innocent thing. I hope you have got the idea of the type of man you deserve. Dump him tomorrow morning first thing in the morning. I will be most eager to be friends with such lovely and nice person as you and i promise you won't regret it.
• India
9 Dec 06
i have never been in a situation like that before so may be i would not be able to understand the seriousness of ur situation..but i do know that it feels really bad when u don't get the desired response from ur partner..the point is its upto u to decide how far would you go for ur boyfriend..there has to be a limit..i can say that u should talk ir heart out to ur partner and say all that whatver u feel..but i guess u have been doing that already..try something which can make him realise how important it is to support each other..
@platypus (336)
• Italy
9 Dec 06
well, in a family everyone must do its share. you should try and stop doing everything in the house; no more cleaning, no more tiding, no or eironing, no more going shopping... if thing don't get better..well, i am sorry but i htink you need to split up. good luck
9 Dec 06
I'd explain to him just how important it is that he contributes. Tell him you can't keep paying for everything and unless he gets a job (doesn't matter if he doesn't like it or not so long as he's getting paid) then it's over! If he doesn't pull his socks up then. then sorry but he's not worth having... Men are meant to want to spoil their girl and he's showing no signs of doing anything like that any time soon!
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
Just want to ask..Does he know about you're concerns? Did you tell him why he's doing that?Maybe there some other reason why?Youre really a great person girl.
@rakinitin (686)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
Of coarse he loves you, you take care of him. I would love it if someone did that for me. Sounds like he's just holding you back. Dump him and start saving money. When you see all the extra money you have after that, you will be surprised and wished you had done it sooner.
@tiibbaamm (613)
• Indonesia
9 Dec 06
i've stumbled through an experince almost like that. i thouth that he really loves me, concidering the things that he has done for me. but then after we broke up i thought, hey..what an idiot i've become.. i've been so blind, my friends said that he doesn't deserve the love and care that i gave to him, he's only interested in women who could "take care of him financially.." so.. i think you should dump him, sooner or later you'll realize the mistake that you have done. he's not worthit.
@faheem75 (57)
• India
9 Dec 06
give him some space...all he wants is time..u know him for around 4 years and u kno him more thn any1 else..m sure time will come whn he will appreciate u...cheers
• United States
9 Dec 06
I hate to say this, but girl you need to move on. It seems hes just there for the ride. I know you know he loves you, but maybe some time apart will get him on the right path to appreicating you like he should.
• United States
9 Dec 06
Maybe if you do leave him for a while, he will realize how much he appreciates you... You know how they say, if you love something let it go, if it comes back to you it's yours? Something like that....It may be worth it in the long run. Good luck.
• India
9 Dec 06
yes he is a fool and he needs to get the correct way of treatment.... to know how caring u r???
@alchemistrx (2569)
• Philippines
9 Dec 06
You should open up to him about how you felt about what he did. It not easy to look for a job nowadays. And you badly need it to sustain your life.