Being Afraid of your Children

@Jshean20 (14367)
Canada
December 8, 2006 6:34pm CST
I once saw an episode on the Dr.Phil show where there were parents who actually feared their kids! One 11 year old boy actually chased his own grandmother around with a baseball bat! Do you ever fear your children? What do you think could send a child over the edge like this? What actions need to be taken to stop such behaviour?
22 responses
• United States
11 Dec 06
Children become this way because they know they can get away with it. Parents can't disipline their children any more. I was spanked as a child and I turned out fine. I would have never tried to go after one of my parents because I know I would of got a butt whipping. All this put them in time out and grounding doesn't work. But if you spank a kid these days they use that a leverage because they say I'll turn you in for child abuse. To stop this parents have to be firm with their kids and quite letting them have so much leway
• United States
13 Dec 06
How can you get into trouble for child abuse if there are no bruises, or signs of neglect? I'm a new mommy.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
thank you
@happygal68 (3277)
• United States
11 Dec 06
Fortunately, I have never had to worry about this. My boys are very respectful towards me and others. If they do end up getting really mad at me, they usually retreat to their room or go outside for a walk to try to calm down before talking to me. If it is that bad for some families then I would suggest getting them into counseling or anger management classes. Hopefully, that would help them to calm down and not scare the rest of the family members.
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@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
13 Dec 06
thank you
@lissaj (532)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I would never put myself in a situation that I would fear my children. When it gets to that point,where they are a danger to themselves or others, it is time to place them outside the home. I know, it's your child, but when they have that big a potential to harm others, you have to put your foot down.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
12 Dec 06
thanks
@bluuyze (68)
• United States
11 Dec 06
That little boy needs to be knocked out. Hit your kids when they are little if they mess up, otherwise, they will never have respect for you if you let them walk all over you. The older they get, the harder it is to start. Do it while they're little, they need to learn who runs the show and who is in charge.
• United States
13 Dec 06
Yep!
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
26 Dec 06
thank to you both
@Sir_bobby88 (8244)
• Singapore
9 Dec 06
I think parenting act a big part for you children action ... you can't let them do as they please all the time yea .... if they keep repeating the mistake again and again then we parents must do sometime to amend it yea ....
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
thanks
• United States
13 Dec 06
Yea, whip their a$$e$, lol.
• United States
15 Dec 06
I think that kid needs to be spanked or should have been then theyll stop
• United States
27 Dec 06
That doesn't work with all children.
• United States
12 Dec 06
OMG.. I could not imagine. However, I do recall as a teen there was one boy in our class that was known to beat his mother and had actually been on probation for it. Kind of odd, but I guess it happens! Not on my watch!!!!!! My kids know I'll kick their butts! lol
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
thanks
@pumpkinjam (5800)
• United Kingdom
12 Dec 06
I agree with the first answer. It is all down to discipline. There is no excuse for an 11 year old to behave like that. The only reason anyone would fear their own children would be because they haven't taught them respect. There are kids with real behaviour problems but they can be controlled if the parents do what is necessary. Getting to the stage that you have mentioned is totlally irresponsible of the parents and anyone else who has regularly been in charge of looking after the child.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
31 Dec 06
thanks
@Ravenladyj (22937)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I dont fear my kids in the slightest and both of them know that if they EVER raised a hand to me I would knock the ever loving crap out of them! Why do I think this sort of thing happens..a couple of reasons..one being mental disorders and two being lack of control....I have watched shows like that and it seems to me that all the parents are meek and have always let the kids run the house...What can stop it...well obviously never let it start, always be the one in charge..I'm all for being friends with your kids but never to the point of NOT being the parent....How to change it if its already happening...honestly the parent cant do it alone IMO, they need to bring in outside help
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
30 Dec 06
thanks
@missyd79 (3438)
• United States
12 Dec 06
i think parents have alot to do with this and also alot of society. My son ever comes after me with a basebal bat, i will take him down. The schools also teach the children that if a parent hits them to call child services, we can't even disaplin our children anymore. I believe in spankings and I know where to draw the line. I do not beat my son, but if he miss behaves he does get a spanking on the bum.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
27 Dec 06
thanks
@michele609 (1687)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I will put that child away if he ever comes at me with a bat. I will never fear my children, I brought their butts here and I sure will take them out of here if they ever disrespect me like that!
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
27 Dec 06
thank you
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
9 Dec 06
No I never have feared or do fear my Children as they would never hurt me I think it could be wanting attention, wanting love or he possibly just needs help from a proffessional I really don't know It could also be what he sees at home what is going on there
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
11 Dec 06
thank you
@Lydia1901 (16354)
• United States
9 Dec 06
That's awful, no one should be afraid of their children. There is something wrong with those kids.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
thank you
• United States
9 Dec 06
I am not afraid of my children. However, they are small, if one of my kids ever threatened me with a bat, I'd send them to jail! Children copy what they see....I don't know what that child is seeing or watching on t.v. It sounds like the whole family could use some counseling.
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
you're probably right
@mavis0815 (167)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
i think it all comes down to parenting if you don't know how to your in trouble you have to learn to discipline your children you have to remember children with in there own way well rebell and its are responsible to discipline them you have to teach them what acceptable and what is not
@Jshean20 (14367)
• Canada
9 Dec 06
thank you
@amafrias (456)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I think what would send them over the edge if nothing is physically wrong such as a brain tumor, or abnormality, would definately be poor parenting. You have to be in control of your children. I know that there will never be an instance where I am afraid of one of my children, not ever! My children have been taught respect, manners, and have been disciplined. That child needed a swift wack on the behind years ago.
• United States
27 Dec 06
Yes, I have been though that. There isn't much you can do. You try to get help for them. But, that does't always work. You live in fear, and lock your bedroom door and pray all will be okay. It never does get better though.
@remaster74 (4065)
• Greece
26 Dec 06
God! What I'm going to read next? Are you kidding? What type of parents do they let their children make their lives full with fear? I say spank the children but parents have to be spanked first. I will never fear of my child. I think I'm raising him right and I pray to God I always will.
@melanie652 (2525)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Lack of discipline is the first thing I think of. Kids needs structure, guidelines and discipline. No, I've never been afraid of our kids. Maybe that child is angry about something? Maybe he was abused? They probably need some professional help to get the child under control if he's that violent.
@utsadetti (4589)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Maybe in some modern country parents becoming afraid of their children. I don't know the reason. But in the third country like Indonesia, parents are respected, as we know that the heaven is under our mother's feet.