December 9, 2006 6:45am CST
I dont think the system (at least in this country) is fair. It seems to be hevily weighted in favour of the mothers (usually, it is normally the mothers that get custody). It seems that the husbands are asked to pay a set abount which varies on their earnings and can be either insignificantly small, or quite large. The problem is even though the father is paying, the mother can still deny him rights (unless court states otherwise) to the kids. In essence he is forced to pay for a child when he cannot be a part of his/her life. The other problem is if he is allowed to be apart ot their lives, he has no legal say in how his hard earned dollars are spent. He cannot sit down and say what he feels the kids need, and has no right to. Much of the time the money is spent on other things (such as the mothers entertainment. I have seen it before many of times) and the children are still without. Of course that is not all parents, but while some are working together for the good of their children others are abusing the system. What are your feelings on the matter? Do You Disagree with me? Are there other problems I did not mention? Do you think the system needs reform? How would you go about it?
• Brisbane, Australia
9 Dec 06
I have been getting child support for my kids.I have been very lenient on their father telling the child support agency that he is paying X amount of dollars when in reality I have been getting much less.But then he has helped out in other ways such as fixing my car when I need it (he is a mechanic)He has always been able to see the kids whenever he has wanted to.We are good friends.He is also helping my son and I move,arranging a truck,a skip to get rid of the junk etc.So the child support issue has kind of worked itself out.I do agree though that there are some mothers using the child support for their own entertainment,I have seen it myself.I noticed myself that sometimes the amount of support some fathers have to pay is ridiculious.Then on the other hand I have also witnessed deadbeat Dads who refuse to pay any child support,even to the point of giving up their jobs so they don't have to pay.It goes both ways!