Help! How can I know if she really likes me ?

@psyclone (244)
Romania
December 9, 2006 9:24am CST
I know her from almost an year. She is a special girl, inteligent,serious. I can say she is almos perfect, or that`s how I feel. We understand each other very good, but I dont know if she think about me like an friend or she think we can be more than that. The problem is that I dont know how to find out. We dont have to many common friends so I dont know anyone to ask about her. I`m asking this because I`m very afraid from a refuse from her. If I knew she doesnt want nothing more with me, I wouldnt ask, because I will feel bad after. Anyway, I talk with her a lot...I could chat however much with her. Even on the cellphone we call each other and talk about an hour per week . How can I know if she wants to start an relationship with me ? Has anybody some clues ?
21 responses
@Thewishlady (1046)
• Netherlands
9 Dec 06
I think when she really is a good friend you can just put the topic up. Even when she would not be interested in you in that way she would appricite you beeing honest and open to her.
@psyclone (244)
• Romania
9 Dec 06
yes, but the problem is that would demoralize me. I want to know without talking to her. Some tips ?
• United States
9 Dec 06
I concur with this statement. *thumbs up*
@xionous (440)
• Belgium
10 Dec 06
just open up an msn yahoo or skype account using a female name or something (other then yours). then send her a mail saying you have got her address from some where like hi5 or yahoo360 or windows live spaces (whatever you do make trustworthy to her). try to have her be friend of you and then try carefully to figure out if she wont mind being your girl friend. if she dont agree to be your gf please dont bother anymore. i mean you guys can have a gr8 friendship but no more relationships, im sorry. im afraid whether its a honest advice but it works. and as you are doing nothing but just reading her mind. i dont think its a bad idea
@laling (92)
• Malaysia
9 Dec 06
Ish! this is so simple guy,even I know have a trick there.Let list down here . 1.you fallen love and have love in your heart-fine 2.You afraid to be rejected-man have ego on this I understand that 3.Your have only one option -to be accepted solution 1.Use your sense eye contact,focus when talk with her like mother looking to their son.Trust me signal response will be come out and you know +ve or -ve reply. 2.woman need security guy,so show to her you are competent on that physical and mental.If any competitor there,show that you are the best. 3.Use third party like her mother or she's close friend(same gender) to become your proxy Campaign for you 4.Women need hope so give hope 5.Finally this situation come,where confirm,that girl are yours-no word just reaction girl ask 1st for making love..be a man keep longer ahaks.. Note-not work if your girl is lesbian.
@psyclone (244)
• Romania
10 Dec 06
wow. That`s very good to know! Last part it`s funny, especially that note :D But I was asking how to find out, not how to conquer her.
@krankies (811)
• United States
10 Dec 06
If you don not ask you will never know the answer. There are signs here that she is interested, but as a friend or boyfriend is hard to say. If you were to confront this and did not get the response you are looking for is it worth losing her as a friend? Could you take the rejection? Only you can answer these questions, I my self would talk with her because everytime you see her with someone else you are going to be jealous. That alone will ruin your friendship.
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
10 Dec 06
Why dont you just ask? the worst thing is to receive a no, and them what? then nothing..... you will have yr answer either if it is yes or no you will know, but for what you say maybe is yes. Good luck
@firdaus (686)
• Malaysia
10 Dec 06
just go to talk to her.. be gentlemen
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
Maybe u should used another mobile number to txt her used another name, try to ask about you or try another question that would answer youre concern.
@cloudsim (44)
• India
10 Dec 06
If you found then please tell me.
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
you know, talking most often is good but not at all! if i were you, i'l tell her in a honest way that you really like her much than a friend so that you can now proceed to next step.Even i, i don't know what will be the result but one thing should i assure you that you move on at this point, because everybody was entering on this kind of situation. so, buddy! Be brave, be optimist so that no one will be affect what ever outcome will be come..
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
you know, talking most often is good but not at all! if i were you, i'l tell her in a honest way that you really like her much than a friend so that you can now proceed to next step.Even i, i don't know what will be the result but one thing should i assure you that you move on at this point, because everybody was entering on this kind of situation. so, buddy! Be brave, be optimist so that no one will be affect what ever outcome will be come..
@angnima (772)
• Nepal
10 Dec 06
you are living in fiction. you should at least try for the response. you look afraid but you do not know that you are losing her every second of your delay. it would be wise to express your feeling as soon as possible. try to be EARLY BIRD. a girl waits for proposal from boy and takes time to decide. if you do not try you will get your girl. she may be the right one or not but you should go on asking. IF YOU CAN NOT SAY IT DIRECTLY FIND INDIRECT MEANS. YOUR TIME STARTS NOW.......
• India
10 Dec 06
my best advise to you is to talk it out with her..but you must be a good smoothtalker..its no big deal buddy..all depends on how you ask!..all the best!..go for it!
@rakeshdas (428)
• India
10 Dec 06
hey man ... dont try to understand Girls' mind ... they are dedicated, Good and mysterious at a time ... [:d]
• India
10 Dec 06
I'd like to give one way out to read the mind impressions and is Try to gain views on various things and move on to the point getting views on base of ur own personality but donot go on direct questioning gain responces in terms of explained views not in short of as yes or no's only so that it will keep her close to u and binding to u for answers that may be using pictures, funny things, things which she likes etc.
@neon2000 (2762)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
It is better to tell how you feel than not. Its not good being left unsaid. Just get a hand of it by asking or bringing a topic about it to her but not direct to her, just to feel what's inside her or what she feels about love.
@kitot5ht (35)
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
why not ask her. You woudn't know if you would not ask her, right? But you should be ready for you might get an answer that you don't expect.. Goodluck!!!!
• United Arab Emirates
10 Dec 06
yes well be frak speak to her...clearly........at leats ull b out of this confusion...!!!!
• United States
9 Dec 06
dude don't give me a deja vu.. My solution Refer her to join myLOT, that may help coz she will read this but better to tell her. BTW I don't think that you fear her telling NO but you fear telling her, some people are just like that, I am such too, but your love is truer than of those who just express whatever they feel. "Salute" Good LUCK!
@danish160 (250)
• Pakistan
9 Dec 06
I think no one on earth can help you in knowing whether “She” loves you or not. It is really hard for men to tell what lies in a woman’s heart.
@zman87 (635)
• United States
9 Dec 06
Well i used to be in the same situation as you and one day i just asked her and she said yes so if you think she likes you then go for it hopefully the same thing will happen to you.........
• United States
9 Dec 06
I can't tell you if she likes you romantically because I dont know you, but you should tread lightly. Good friendships are valuable and it is not worth the trade of a short romantic relationship. I think you should really examine if you are willing to trade your friendship for a relationship but keep in mind if things dont work out it may be an awkward situation or may disolve your friendship. Personally I dont think it's worth it because in a friendship you can just be friends, but in a relationship it is so much more complicated with rules, emotions and fidelity.What ever you do just make sure you have examined both sides of the fence. Good Luck.