Do You Think Its Wrong To Lie About Santa?

@Mickie30 (2633)
December 9, 2006 10:22am CST
Do you think its wrong to tell your children that there is a santa? My daughter is 1 and I don't know when she is older to tell her about santa. Is this what you would call a harmless lie? It's just as a Christian its something that concerns me lying. I think it is good fun but, when my daughter finds out will she lose trust in me? It probably seems silly, but it's something that I have been wondering about. Has anyone else got any experiences of their children finding out about santa and how they took it?
95 responses
@emarie (5454)
• United States
9 Dec 06
my mother has never straight up and told me that santa didn't exsist. i kinda just figured it out one day. it didn't hurt me and i didn't get scared for life, actually...this kept going on until i moved out and had children myslf..then she said, you're the santa now...i kinda just laughed. the 'spirit' of santa lives in our hearts...its a physical manifestation of kindness and carring throughout the holiday season...which is why i would believe that santa still exsists.
@Mickie30 (2633)
9 Dec 06
Wow yeah of course you are so right thanks.
@gknott (936)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I completely agree about Santa being a "spirit" and that he lives in our hearts. That is how I explain him to my children. Merry Christmas to all and to all a goodnight.
• United States
10 Dec 06
I too believe that "We" are Santa. We are Christian's too. We want to teach our sons about the spirit of Giving and thats what Santa is to us. We tell they about Santa now. But when they asks, we'll tell him who St Nick really was and that we use Santa to teach him about giving to others. For now its just a great story and fun anticipation.
• Sri Lanka
11 Dec 06
As a Christian do you sometimes tell your children, "God has given us all this, so we must thank him"? When you told that did anyone challenge you that you are lying? Is it not you and your husband who accumulated all that wealth through hard work. Maybe you inherited some form your parents hard work too. So do you feel guilty when you say "God gave all these"? You don't feel guilty because you believe that God manipulates your lives to accumulate wealth. You never tell your child that it was you all who played God. Sometimes we pray to saints. Some people pray to St.Sebastian for healing. When they are healed they thank him. But they do this while taking medicing from the doctor. No one calls them liars and no one says that the doctor played the role of St.Sebastian. Santa is St.Nicholas who actually gave toys to poor children during Christmas time. Santa is not a lie, and he is a living saint. So you can argue that it is he who through someone else continues the tradition even today. You don't have to lie about Santa. Santa is a truth!
@Mickie30 (2633)
11 Dec 06
Thank you for your comment, but I actually find it insulting. How do you know that God is a lie? That is your opinion in my opinion God is the ultimate truth and this discussion is about Santa not about God so I don't understand why you chose to be so personal about this.
• United States
10 Dec 06
don't worry so much because my daughter just turned 9 in june and she came home from school the other day and was in a bad mood so i told her if she wasnt going to be good i would call santa and tell him not to bring her gifts and she said mom there is no santa my friends at school told me and i looked at her and smiled and said but of course theres a santa and to be quiet not to tell her younger brother and sister and she just laughed.
@Mickie30 (2633)
10 Dec 06
Its strange you say that. I found out off my brother that Santa was not real. I listened in to a conversation my mum and him were having and I heard him say I know Santa and the tooth fairies aren't real and my mum agreed. I was gutted, but at least it taught me not to listen in to peoples conversations.
• United States
10 Dec 06
Then why not just teach your child about the biblical Christmas story? I really don't think your child is going to have any less of a childhood if she never believes in Santa Claus.
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
My children are totally at peace within. They are not in confusion and turmoil like some kids. I think part of this is because they have the TRUTH of Christ and have been taught it from the beginning of life. When they became old enough to ask questions, they did and still do, but I know that they firmly believe for themselves. They know that Santa is for fun but Jesus is REAL.
@emeraldisle (13146)
• United States
9 Dec 06
When my niece was old enough to be told we told her we believe in the spirit of Santa and that he lives in all of us. She figured it out pretty early that all the Santa's around the area for visiting weren't really Santa but she still belived they were his helpers. So later on she took that to mean we are all still Santa's helpers and we keep him alive. Hope that helps you.
@Mickie30 (2633)
9 Dec 06
Thank you. Yes I have had my eyes opened with this post. I really believe the spirit of santa is about being a parent and loving your child so much that you want them to have a wonderful childhood and believe in the unseen.
• Singapore
11 Dec 06
no.It's no harm lieing anyway.It's sort of making kids happier too.full or suprises.
• United States
11 Dec 06
I think that is a legend that was created years, probably centuries ago. I see what you mean, but nearly all children believe in Santa and then when they get older, they realize it is just part of the Christmas tradition and move on. I see no harm with it. I don't know anyone who has found out the truth about Santa and has been traumatized by the news. My children are 7 and 4 and believe in Santa-he is nothing but a present deliverer, as either of my children will tell you Christmas is Jesus' birthday. As long as Santa doesn't mock the glory of the true meaning of Christmas, I think it is fine.
@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I tell my sons that Santa is bringing their presents but they are 3 and 11 months. My three year old doesn't really pay any attention to the idea of Santa. My parents always told my sister and I that there was a Santa Claus until we were around 8 or 9. It didn't effect us to find out that he wasn't real.
10 Dec 06
I don't think it's wrong to lie about Santa because sure he isn't real but it gives the kids something to look forward too and when they see people dressed up as him in the street it gives them something to be excited about. It's not just lots of presents from mum and dad, It's lots of presents for being good from Santa! I overheard someone say Santa's not real and then next time my mum and dad mentioned his name, I said he's not real and they wondered how I knew but didn't deny it and confirmed it for me.
@smehta (13)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I have taught kindergarteners for 5 years and I have taught in elementary schools for 7 1/2 years. Seeing the joy in the eyes of the little ones when they think of Santa I do not think that you are wrong in letting your child believe as long as she believes in Santa. It is not a lie to let somebody think of the goodness that all of us hold in our hearts. Since I'm about to become a new mom myself I can see myself letting my child believe in Santa. When the time comes to find out that Santa is a story you can always say that Santa is a belief of how we should behave with eachother. Santa is the best in all of us. My family doesn't practice Christianity, but it never stopped my brother or myself from enjoying the stories and ideals of the Christmas spirit.
• United States
10 Dec 06
Santa Clause is innocence. There is nothing wrong in believing. I'm 25 and even tho I KNOW that there is no Santa its still fun to believe and to show my children that I believe. Once she is older and asks you about Santa then you can tell her the "truth" as you see fit. I know when I was younger and my older sister told me that there was no Santa and showed me where all the presents were hidden I was kind of bummed about Christmas from then on. It just wasn't fun anymore, until I had kids of my own. =)
• India
10 Dec 06
i dont think its wrong in any sense to lie about santa when they are younger.it gives them great pleasure and joy. The children this days are really smarter and tend to understand the real thing when they grow older.
@samaira (163)
• India
10 Dec 06
i don't think its wrong to lie bout santa..coz firstly children feel so happy ..n a lie to give someone happiness is better than a truth..moreover the happiness is being given to children...n i don't think this will mke ur child lose trust on u...
@lucy02 (5017)
• United States
10 Dec 06
No, I dont have any children but I never felt that way about my parents. In fact my fondest memories are of when I believed in Santa Claus and I always wished I could have believed a little longer.
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I do not think it is wrong to lie about Santa as it would take a lot away from the christmas spirit and holiday season. Children might not be as excited for christmas if they knew there was no Santa. This I believe is a harmless lie and would not affect our children.
• Greece
10 Dec 06
I think it is wrong to give false hope to our kids. Even the Bible says that lying is wrong, so why do people lie to their kids about St. Nick?What would you do to your minister after you spend your life abiding by all of these rules because he promised to get you into heaven, then you die and ther is none?That is how a child feels when they find out; betrayed, lost, they loose faith in their own parents and community.
@doctorul (1063)
• Romania
10 Dec 06
O no! That's fantastic to believe in Santa!
@DeenaD (2688)
• United States
10 Dec 06
Tell her there is a Santa. Let her enjoy her childhood for the short while that it lasts.
• India
10 Dec 06
This is my son's first christmas, and he is only 4 months, so it's not an issue yet. I told my mom that I am not going to tell my son about santa. She was appalled, and very upset. Also I don't want my son being the one to tell other kids the truth about santa, so I don't know what to do. I know Santa is a special thing about christmas, but that is not what the holiday is all about. I am not super religious, but I want him to know the real meaning of christmas. I just dont like the idea of blatently lying to my child. I remember when I found out, I was extrememly upset, and I don't want that to happen to my son... 2 weeks ago - 22 answers - Report Abuse
@tammytwo (4304)
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think it is a fun thing because this world is so full of crazy things these days. Kids need something fun to believe in.