How would you know if he/she is the one for you?

Philippines
December 10, 2006 2:09am CST
I'm asking this... because i'm in the time of my life when I'll soon be making these kind of choices... should i use my heart or my head? should i go with the one i love, or the one who loves me? given the scenario, that the one i love, doesn't love me that much (i guess), but he doesn't hate me either.. i just feel that i love him more... and there's this guy... he's always there... and i feel that he really loves me... but i don't love him... :-(
3 responses
@Betso221 (1702)
• India
10 Dec 06
I think u should always go with the one who loves u. Cause u can't get better love than what she gives.
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
yah, i guess you're right.. i have a follow up question.. how would you know if he really, truly, honest-to-goodness love you? i've been cheated on before... despite being nice, being beautiful(haha), and etc... i'm ok, but i guess there's just no guarantee... the guy still cheated on me... are guys really like that? this makes it even harder to make a choice...
@dholey (1384)
• India
10 Dec 06
some time i feel good , when i see such types of discussions, that i am born in INDIA, here girls do not need to bother about such things , their parents decides it , then if she likes (approves) then engagement and then marriage ... (it not here for all the time) girls do Love marriages too, in such situation they (the girl and the boy) convince their parents for marriage , then marriage , and some time when parents do not agree , they elope ... lol for YOUR SITUATION,YOU HAVE TO BE very careful , because it is a matter of your future, the person who loves you a lot, and cares for you (must be earning good too) is suitable for you, i can tell you , when you marry him you will start loving him too, SO BE PATIENT and find good things from the person who loves you move ....
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
i heard of that too... i read it somewhere.. the write-up said, "you will be happier not with the man you love, but with the man who loves you..." but i just can't leave the man that i love... :-( am i selfish by not wanting to let him go? or am i selfish by not giving the other guy a chance... :( it's really hard... i don't want to suffer for the rest of my life, by making wrong decisions now... arrange marriages might have that advantage.. haha! you don't get the risk of choosing..
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think you just know. my husband came back for me. Thats how I knew that he was for me. when you find love , for some people its more confusing that factual at the moment. Its possible to love someone with your mind and not your heart.
• Philippines
10 Dec 06
yes.. i agree... it's really confusing... actually the second guy i mentioned was my ex boyfriend... he just got back from another country... and ever since we broke up, (5 years ago, i guess) he never had a new gf... (at least that's what i heard)... and while he was away, he tried to call me on my birthday, just to greet me... but i didn't get to answer his call, because i was still asleep... the country he went to had a different time zone, and he called me very early in the morning.. the first guy is my current boyfriend... i dunno... i guess he's just too busy, that's why i can say that he's not that in love with me... we're also in a long distance relationship... maybe that's creating a strain or something... but i love him, because when we broke up (for 3 months), it made me soooo depressed... can the depth of love be measured by the depth of pain? he's also the longest relationship i'm with, so far... could it be possible that he's already bored with me or something? =( and that my ex just want to be with me because what we had before was just like puppy love, and we only lasted for 3 or 4 months?