A friend who fall inlove again with her Ex boyfriend but she is married!!

Philippines
December 10, 2006 2:13am CST
She really like him and when they see each other again she is already married but still feel special feelings towards with the guy and her relationship with her husband is in not good condition as of now she just found out that her husband has other woman and she really hates him for doing that to her. Do you think what she feels on her Ex boyfriend is just because she is hurting right now thats why she feels special feelings with that guy?? She has a children with her husband but her husband tying to save their relationship. Do you think she has to give her husband a another chance?? Her Ex boyfriend is also trying to win her heart again whom do you think she has to choose??
51 responses
• United States
10 Dec 06
I think that the concept of monogamy is flawed. In our family, we don't restrict loving.
• United States
11 Dec 06
i think your pal should be more faithful to his or her spouse cause it might lead to future problems.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Hi there I think it will a start of monogamy if she continue to entertain that feelings.
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
10 Dec 06
I think that she is hurting and probably needs a shoulder to cry on...however she has to remember that she is married and that is a vow she took...I think she needs to give her marriage one last try..and see what happens...then if it doesn't work out...maybe she can have a relationship with her ex...
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Yes you are right maybe she is entertaining her feelings towards her ex because she feels bad about her husband I agree also with you that she should give her marriage another try to be fix.
@adnan82 (673)
• Pakistan
10 Dec 06
in this whOle story ..main Point is missing y the relationship of ur fRend and her EX bf .. got over.. :)....
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
She fall inlove again with her ex and they have communication again thats why she feels special feeling again with tha guy and she dicover that her husband has also other girl thats why she let herself to have communication with her ex.
@volschenkh (1044)
• South Africa
10 Dec 06
I think she is wrong, she is ruining her child's life! I also believ that one cannot tell het what to do, because she will do what she needs to do in any case. To me its just sad to hear this.
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
I also think that she should control herself for she is already married and should just think about her family and not her feelings.
• India
10 Dec 06
very very bad girl
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
Maybe she is just human but she must control herself not to fall inlove again with her ex.
• India
10 Dec 06
The relation will be strong and stays forever only when there a real love bw two(lovers or husband/wife)..so if the relation is not good then i suggest better get a divorce from her husband a marry her exboyfriend ..has u said that he(boyfriend) still loves her..i i m in the place of the girl i might have done the same..what do u say
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
It's true a relationship will stay longer if both still love each other being together without love and respect is not healthy for the both of them so I guess if the 2 parties feel that they dont love each other they should quit it but if they can save it then they also do something.
• France
10 Dec 06
oh yikes,this sounds a nightmare for her.I think she should try and discuss things with her husband as she could be having rebound feelings for the ex.It also depends on how often,and how many other women her husband has had and if he is still seeing them, she shouldnt be a doormat!Once things are all out in the open,it will be for her to decide to work it out or to leave him but she should end it with her husband first before jumping into a relationship with her ex.Nothing like jumping out of the frying pan into the fire...
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
It is really a nightmare for every woman who discover that their husband is having an affair so she really have to talk to her husband but for me husband dont usually admit their mistakes specially if they want to hide it. But I hope her husband will admit it for them to talk about it.
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
10 Dec 06
It depends how often her Husband has had other Women and also will he stop having other Women I think she should try if she still loves her Husband but if she does not then call it a Day If she thinks there is a chance to rescue the Marriage and she loves him then go for it as this infatuation with her Ex Boyfriend could be down to the stae of her Marriage I know I have been there, but unfortunatly there was a lot more in my marriage and my Ex did not even try to save it and he killed all the love I had for him after 21 years I am now divorced
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
I agree with you a marriage is more important rather on what she feels towards her ex-boyfriend for it may just a infatuation sorry to hear that your partner did not do anything to save your relationship.
@wasim989 (2302)
• India
10 Dec 06
I think she should talk about this with her husband and if her husband is still having a affair then she must give hima a divorce and then she is free to be engaged with anyone she wants.
• Philippines
30 Mar 07
Yes I agree with you that she should first make sure that her husband still love her and stop having an affair for it will be unfair to her if she continue to be with her husband and yet her husband is cheating her and she still wants to be fair with her husband. Whe should weigh things and what the best thing to do on her situation.
• Philippines
26 Apr 07
if am at her shoes, i would still choose my husband over my ex boyfriend. because family is whats im portant for me. she should try work it out with her husband, talk to him and give him another chance. after all, they have children right. the children will suffer the most if she'll leave her husband and be with her ex boyfriend.
• United States
29 Mar 07
Cheating on someone because they were cheated on is never the right way to go. If she is truly unhappy in her marriage and does not want to salvage it, then she should first work on getting a divorce and being romantically unattached before getting involved in a new relationship. Because she is hurting so much from the adultery in her marriage, even if she decides to move on from her husband, she will need many months to heal and get her life together. There are children involved and joint financial assets so it's not so easy to just act like a single woman with no consequences or cares in the world. She has to act responsibly and think like an adult. So, it's probably best that she just remain friends with the ex boyfriend until she sorts out what she ultimately wants to do about her marriage. And, if she and the ex boyfriend are meant to be together, then he will be patient and wait for her to be ready to enter a new relationship without any emotional baggage. All the best, Zuri http://askzuri.blogspot.com
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
11 Dec 06
That's a really tough decision. She has to think long and hard about this. She should do what's in her heart and what she thinks will be best for herself as well as her children. She should also stick with that decision and not waver.
@vinaykant (814)
• India
11 Dec 06
I think now she hav to choose her ex-boyfriend if he is agree, and can make a safe future for her son.
• India
11 Dec 06
First of all shes married...If i were the girl i would always prefer to save my relation.Suppose think if the girl leaves her husband and go with her ex-boyfriend and obviously husband definitly goes with the woman.So there is no difference between the wife and her husband both are doing the same thing.One more point is that why didnt the girl marry her boyfriend before? there should be only one reason for that i.e her boyfriends bad nature.The girl has to change her husband and adapt with her husband itselfs.its better if the girl forgets abt her ex-boy friend and lead a happy life with her husband
@siddhinfo (1501)
• India
11 Dec 06
As married women and mother of a child she has to be with her husband only. Afterall it is family first and then the question of Ex-boy friend come. So be with your husband and children & kept your boyfriend apart
@Skbarber (22)
• United States
11 Dec 06
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Yes
@kimikor (35)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I think they need to go see a counselor or if they are religious, their pastor. The fact that they have kids makes it more difficult to just end it. As long as one of them wants to work on it, they should. Marriage is taken so lightly these days and if we can start preserving it by sticking it out, then major props to us. If her hubby keeps on hitting itu p with other women, she should empoty his bank accounts and kick him to the curb.
@loveboy (671)
• India
11 Dec 06
love married
• India
11 Dec 06
She did a big mistakte by marrying without knowning her heart.I think she can do nothing now she has to be with her hubby. If hubby is to wierd then better to get off with her boyfriend
• India
11 Dec 06
I THINK A HEALTHY TALK MAY BE THE SOLUTION FOR YOUR PROBLEM,IF UR HUBBY AND U WONT REACH TO A PROPER CONCLUSION,THEN U MUST TAKE ANY PROPER STEP.