how would u react after break up

wht u do after break up - wht would u do after break up
India
December 10, 2006 7:58pm CST
how u react after a BREAK UP?? i often wonder how i would react if i had 2 hear frm da person i love 'ITS OVER"..... mmm u tell me how wud U react???? did you ever break up? My philo. is 'when u part u part with a smile' Not only that u move away with complete truth n honesty..if the other person likes another one then be honest and then move out. But easier said than done...more often than not we just resort to lies and leave a sour impressions in the memory lane. Nyways, I hope u don't hav to hear that but in case u do...assess (realistically) whther u guys can patch ot not...if not...forget ASAP and join dievert ur energies/ attention into somethin constructive! Good luck! well always keep in mind one thing"Everything is part of life not heart of life"..so if somebody have any kind of break up wid frnds or partner.so no need to frown or no need to think so much about it...and also today's philosphy is "move on in life no matter wt".....and last but not the least "people and things dont upset us rather we upset by beleiving that they can upset us"...take it as experince and move on.and think positive like wtever happen happen for gud:)..Tc Very very well said!!!- Dil par mat le yarr. Its also about how quickly you kinda divert ur focus rather than stickin to the unfavourable. well when u break up . go to the market purchase a fevicol & apply in the affected portion!!!thats it! well.. breakups happen for many reason... but in the end it comes down to the fact that either of the partner thinks that they'll be happier without the relation. I know its a hard thing... but if you truly love someone, wouldnt this sacrifice be worth it? i mean if i ever realised that i was no longer a part of my lover's happiness and was more of an obstruction, i'd be much rather remove myself from her way and let her be happy. Thats what matters for me.. her happiness.. i'll always love her... if she ever comes back to me, i'll accept her... so dear, til then.. turn to other things in life for that happiness... and hope that the one you loved will be happy.. and one day, he/she might come back.. or better still, you will find someone who truly cherishes you and loves you. Life works like that... its always a dawn after the darkness. . well i ve nvr gone thru it.bt hd it been so wel i vd ve simply carried on wid my life,an wished good luck 2 him.dats it an den search 4 sm1 else Kisi ke pyar me gehri chot khayi hai, wafa se pehle hi bewafai payi hai, log dua mangte hai is haal me marne ki, par humne usiki yaadon me jeene ki kasam khayi hai........... Live your life...... believe in the dialogue of movie "ISHQ"Bus, Train & G**l, ek jati hai toh dusri aa hin jati hai. So, Wait for the other ........... till then take it COOL & Njoy |
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74 responses
11 Dec 06
well i broke up with my ex 4 months ago and i may add that i was very much in love with him i still am i still cry and hurt but it does get easier i kept myself busy at all times and it is true that time is a great healer I will always love my x as he was my first true love and will always be but at the end of the day he does not feel the same about me so i will get on with my life to the best that i can and i know that i have a lot of love that i can give to someone, i am falling in love with someone else but it is taking time
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• India
11 Dec 06
best approach!!!! minus the crying and getting hurt bit......!!
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@banta78 (4335)
• India
11 Dec 06
I don't believe in the concept of break ups at all. I live in loving forever there is no question of breaking up because here love and commitment are interconnected. you really love the person you are committed for life and vice versa. Besides i believe if there happens your so called break ups, then your love was not there hard to digest. i don't mean to demean your feelings for that person . but the hard, bitter truth is that there really was no love and that is why you cry and repent in denial not accepting and feeling time will heal and get lost in work. Face the truth you were not real soulmates it was shallow love to do with looks, outer beauty, convenience, money, lust but not true love. I beleive if you really love the person if he/she doesn't deserve you, leave them for everybody's happiness. Real love is in giving, not in taking. Love is in not getting, but sacrificing.
• United States
11 Dec 06
This is an interesting perspective. Somehow I tend to agree with you!
@jenniem (89)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I've never experienced a break-up before *crosses fingers* but I'm sure if I did I would cling to the fridge.... lots and lots of junk food, mint choc. chip ice cream especially. Like most people, I would probably want to be alone too.
• United States
11 Dec 06
cool image by the way, one with the puzzle pieces
• India
11 Dec 06
IT FEELS REALLY BAD YOU GET FRUSTATED AS WELL AS DEPRESSED
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
11 Dec 06
yep. feels like you're so so stupid. and that you don't deserve it1
@ghazal2k5 (920)
• India
11 Dec 06
just keep silent but now i don't care of breakup.
• India
12 Dec 06
hey gazal i think i know u , we both studied 3rd and 4th class in army school ahmednagar.anju bhatia was ur class teacher then.
@dominican (202)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
i usually become bitter but through time and with the help of friends its easy to cope.
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
11 Dec 06
yep. you will go through days of feeling bitter. feeling bad about what had happened especially when the person means so much to you. but with the help of friends and relatives, you are able to move on.. aren't we still lucky?
@sierdij (853)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
After breakup i want to be alone.I just want to listen to some music.I don't want to see people reminding of the situation i had been into.I don't wanna hear anything about my lost relationship.
@19781508 (125)
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
after break-up, i cry for three hours, stay in my room, skip a meal or two, then listen to rock music. the day after, i just want to look at our pictures together and compile them in an album and keep them in a box and put them under my bed. i try to take a glance of them once in a while. until the pain passes away... oh, how sad thinking about it.
• United States
17 Dec 06
I think i would cry for days .. then move on .. if they were to break up with me there would be no point on fighting to get them back they were not happy with something then we were not ment to be move on and find the right person .. maybe hard but the best thing to do
@kgwat70 (13396)
• United States
17 Dec 06
I think it would depend on how long me and that person had been together and how well we got along. My last relationship was not very good so I was happy that we broke up and went our separate ways. She was just plain evil and rude and self centered and do not miss her at all. I know it can very hard for other people though as I have a friend who is having a difficult time with having broken up with her boyfriend.
• United States
12 Dec 06
I would be so sad! I've been with my bf for so long, I feel like I know nothing else. I would really be heartbroken and there is no way I could smile. If I no longer make him happy then I'd want him to break up with me - but I'd hurt badly when we did.
@SACH4ISHA (1164)
• India
12 Dec 06
cute - girl
i never passed from that kind of situation so what could i say to you humbel sorry to you my friend
• United States
11 Dec 06
Everyday is different. I broke up with someone & I've been broken up with before. Neither one was easy, & neither was better than the either. Both scenarios were completely unpleasant. Like someone said, some days you may cry your eyes out non-stop, some days you may be very bitter, some days your self-esteem may be very low, some days you may think it was the best decision you've ever made in your life & you couldn't have a brighter outlook on the future if you tried. It just depends on the situation. But always know that in the end, like everyone says, it will be okay. You'll move on & so will the other person. It's not the end of the world.
• Hong Kong
11 Dec 06
I'd just move on,although I know it's hard,but I have to,because the relationship with him didn't work out that's why we broke up.(he's married and I'm the bad person)and I still think about him al the time.Maybe it's because what we can't get,will make us want it/him more.
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
i dont want to sound hypocrite & pretend it's nothing.i dont think there's nothing wrong crying or looking forlorn to the person who broke up w/ u.but of course,u must accept it.my friend said that every relationship is a risk.so tis one of the risks that u have to face.another thing,dont xpect too much so u wont be disappointed.Disappointment comes from expectation
@malsun (1528)
• United States
11 Dec 06
it is difficult when someone breaks your heart. I have had a roller coster ride for about 6 years when I've had to hear " its over" i dont know how many times. But things improved and i am happily married to my girlfriend and now we have a kid. So keep heart.
• Philippines
11 Dec 06
it reall depends on the depth of the relationship. if it's something I have built dreams and hopes on, I cry over it for days. I usually take out my anger by listening to loud music. At some point during my recovery stage, I indulge myself by going to the beauty salon, shopping for a new wardrobe, going out with friends and surrounding myself with people who loves me (ie: family). Picking up the pieces is not always easy, but the heart is so resilient to pain, amazingly, we all go through it and come out of it with flying colors.
@saeedsid (1120)
• Pakistan
11 Dec 06
Try and look for a new girl
@prncesssly (1375)
• United States
11 Dec 06
I guess it all really depends on whether or not you care for the person who is breaking up with you. For example, I was with my ex boyfriend for 4 years. About 3 1/2 years into it, we decided to go on a break. I later started dating my now Husband and my ex found out (so what we were on a break right?) Well he broke up with me.. However, I knew I didn't love him, so it didn't really effect me much. Actually, i've never really had my heart broken now that I think about it... i was always the one doing the breaking up.
@banta78 (4335)
• India
11 Dec 06
I don't believe in the concept of break ups at all. I live in loving forever there is no question of breaking up because here love and commitment are interconnected. you really love the person you are committed for life and vice versa. Besides i believe if there happens your so called break ups, then your love was not there hard to digest. i don't mean to demean your feelings for that person . but the hard, bitter truth is that there really was no love and that is why you cry and repent in denial not accepting and feeling time will heal and get lost in work. Face the truth you were not real soulmates it was shallow love to do with looks, outer beauty, convenience, money, lust but not true love. I beleive if you really love the person if he/she doesn't deserve you, leave them for everybody's happiness. Real love is in giving, not in taking. Love is in not getting, but sacrificing.
• Australia
11 Dec 06
I would be upset im sure anyone would unless they wanted it but life goes on and i will get over it after a while and find someone else