Potty Training! For parents who are going through this or have in the past!

@starr4all (2865)
December 11, 2006 6:30pm CST
So, right now we are potty training our 3 year old. Over all he is good about peeing in the potty. (We still have some oopsies now and again.) We've been doing it for 9 days now. We're having issues with going poo in the potty. Now, did you have him wear pullups until they go poo on their own or did you let them wear underwear but have to clean up after them? We have him in underwear but my husband is getting tired with cleaning up the poo and he wants to go back to pull ups. I'm afraid if we go back to pull ups he will stop going in the tiolet. What do you think?
23 responses
• United States
12 Dec 06
it is normal that your child is not trained completly yet my neice still has problems geting to the toilet she is the same age. what ever you do do not go back to pullups it will just confuse your child. i now it is frustrating to clean up their mess but that is how they learn hang in there.
@starr4all (2865)
12 Dec 06
That's what I thought. My hubby is the one that wants to go back to pullups. But then again, I'm the one cleaning the majority of the messes, so he shouldn't complain. Thanks for responding.
• United States
12 Dec 06
Potty training is very difficult. Have you tried modeling with a doll?
• United States
13 Dec 06
dont do a doll that is weird in my opinion just put your child on the potty every hour and they get a hang of it. keep on trying thats all we can do right lol
• United States
12 Dec 06
If he's having that many "oopsies" for your hubby to want to go back to pull ups then your son isn't ready to use normal undies. Put him back in the pull ups. If you dont have one already, buy him one of those trainsing toilets that go "tada!" when they actually go in the toilet. 3 seems a little late to start to me.. but thats just my opinion.
• United States
12 Dec 06
I meant "training". Typo, sorry.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
We had started earlier closer to two but he didn't want to even wear underwear! He's now not having that many oopsies. Just when he poos. He pees in the potty all of the time. We have a training seat for him but he prefers to sit on the actual toilet. Thanks for responding.
@shalna (16)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I started potty training when my son was 2 year old and first I started with pee pee..every 2-3 hours I used to take him with his pull ups and make him do pee pee standing (since boy) and then once he was thorugh with it we started in the morning make him sit on potty every day in mroning read him book and tell him to push and go poo poo and then again put him in pull ups. Then slowly after 2-3 days he started going on potty and didnot want to go in pullups..so make them wear pullups and when you know they are going poo poo try to make them sit or do it every day at one time and your kid will go. I understand it is tough to clean. hope this helps.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Thanks for responding.
@vhenwood (1062)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Don't go back ont he pullups!! Like someone else said, it's just going to confuse your child and set them back. No one likes cleaning up poop, but your child probably doesn't like it ont hem, so they will learn soon . . .Good Luck.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
We've decided not to go back to the pullups (except at night). We just keep on cleaning up the poo.
@ljmc24 (413)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I had mine trained before 2 1/2, she is the only one in her preschool potty trained. I can't believe people wait so long now. I finally had to put her in underwear, and I threw a lot of them away. I kept scissors in the bathroom and just cut them off of her. I also scolded her non stop about it and made her clean it up. It only took a few days of this before she got the point and started going in the potty. I had this same problem she would pee but not poop. If she is in pull ups then she will potty in her pants. When I started sending her to preschool they really didn't believe that she was potty trained and put her back in pull ups and she started going in her pants again. Once she was back in underwear she went in the toilet. I just got onto her majorly when she would go in her pants and she didn't take long to get the point that if she went in the toilet she got candy, if she went in her pants she didn't.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Congrats on being able to do it so early! We started trying before he was two. Occassionally he would go pee in the potty but he didn't want to keep going. It's only recently that he is going all the time and he wants to.
@amber81 (288)
• United States
12 Dec 06
ok .. dont go back to pull ups... just let him poo in is underware... cause my sisters son is 3 and she was potty training him and he pee'd in the potty but didnt get the technique so to speak of how to poo in the potty and she got tired of cleaning his poo... and put him back in pull ups and now hes 4 and still pooing in his pull ups cause hes confused... cause she changed him back to pull ups... so he thinks hes suppose to pee in the potty and poo in his pull up... so hes all confused!
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Yeah, I've decided that he is NOT going back to pullups (except at night). He hasn't had an accident all day today so we are keeping our fingers crossed! Everytime he goes in the potty we all yell good job and clap. Even our 5 year old is praising him! Thanks for commenting!
@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
baby - baby boy
i've got a son who's two and i started potty training him when he was one year and seven or 8 months. ( i don't exactly remember the exact month.) but anyways, you already started potty training him, so don't stop. if you break the routine, you will just make him more confuse about what you are a teaching him. just be patient with him and it will pay off eventually. of course there would be times that he would mistakes but for sure he will get use to it... my son just turn two last sunday and now every time he needs to pee or poo, he really tells us. and we praise him for his little success.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Thanks for the response. I think we're just going to keep him in his underwear and keep urging him to go to the potty when he needs to poo.
@sharon613 (2323)
• United States
12 Dec 06
picture pleasant - picture pleasant
I had the night mare of my youngest being in pull ups and thank god he is potty trained by day. We are still trying to get him trained at night as well.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
That's the weird thing about our son. We have him wear pullups at night, but he has yet to pee the bed. He gets up in the morning, goes potty and show us that his pullup is still clean! Thanks for responding!
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
My son was potty trained since he was 2 years old. First thing we did is to make sure that he understand that poo is dirty and that it needs to be going to the pottie and not on diapers. Once they get use to the diapers they will get comfortable and you will have a hard time to make them poo in the pottie. You have to have patience. And make sure that the pottie is big not the baby pottie that you but in the kids store as much as possible it should look like the adults regular pottie but the height would be a little shorter. he has to know and understand that poo goes there, he will understand just talk to him like an adult and not like a kid. Of course at first cleaning up will be hard but if the kid understand that there are germs and that they could get sick with poo all over the place they will understand
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Thanks for responding!
@KrauseHome (35517)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I never had kids of my own, but have done lots of babysitting and helping raise kids like my own brothers and sisters. I read the post about someone saying maybe you need to go back to pullups for the time bring, and then use a Reward type of system if they can stay dry, and clean. Let them know if they make a mess they have to wear the pullups again. It might not always work with every child, but I remember things like this working for others when I worked in a Day Care type setting about 20 yrs. ago.
@starr4all (2865)
13 Dec 06
Thanks for the recommendation!
@mtdewgurl74 (18118)
• United States
13 Dec 06
I know what you are going through exactly. Although my sister is older she is 5 and going to school. The doctors tell us to be patient wait she'll do this on her own don't punish her. We have tried rewarding her with everything toys,candy,food from mcdonalds,it would work a few times then she would go back to pooing her in panties. She has the peeing down pat no problems there she'is been using the toilet to pee since she was 2. But what stumps us is she doesn't use the restroom on herself at school. And the only time she had a accident is when she had a virus and used it on herself before she could get to the bathroom. My mom adopted her from birth and she talked to my little sisters birth mother whom has 3 other children and asked if they had the same problem. And yes they did the first daughter didn't potty train until 4 and the son 6 still has a problem with the bowel movement and the other child is still to small she's 1 So we are thinking it is heriditary.My mom has bought 3 different potty chairs, something that goes on the toilet with handles ,nothing works my dad is getting fed up with it and my mom to. So if you figure out anyhting let me know because we are clueless ourselves.
@hjalte81 (46)
• Denmark
13 Dec 06
I have a two-year old daughter. She just started about a month ago, to show some interrest in the toilet and pu-pu ;-) We try, as often as possible, to sit her on the toilet (she doesn't like the pot) when she needs to go. Both big and small. She is offcourse still using dipers. Her laguage is somewhat limited (she is only two), but she is able to comminucate when she needs to use the toilet. We try to make a play out of it, and she loves to flush afterwards, he he... they are so cute at that age.
@anja31 (708)
• Canada
12 Dec 06
potty trained is difficult. I do the same as what you do with your son. My daughter has just a underwear, unless we are going out. In my opinion it getting better everytime. Keep on going
@_hope_ (3906)
• Australia
12 Dec 06
nine days isn`t a very long time it will take weeks or even months but praising him is the best reward him with a little gift each time he goes on the potty he will soon get the idea .I only ever used undies with my children and usually after a meal for the poo`s .HOPEFULL YOU WILL HAVE SUCCESS SOON BUT I`M SORRY TO SAY YOU WILL BE CLEANING UP QUITE A FEW MORE MESSES BEFORE YOU ARE THROUGH
@SCOOBIE5 (40)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
potty training takes time. every child has a different time table for doing his thing.be patient.it usually takea a month for your child to be really trained.besides,who will train him if you wont?
@kbkbooks (7028)
• Canada
12 Dec 06
One of my sons was trained completely day and night at 13 months old. My second child was born when they were 14 months apart. He wanted to be the baby's BIG BROTHER. The baby however was not trained until almost 3 and a half. Every child is different. If you're using underwear tho, don't go back to diapers or pullups, except maybe pullups at night. It won't be long before he realizes he doesn't like the feeling of being dirty. Also, if you notice he is always dirty at a certain time, try sitting him on the pot a while before. Sit, read, sing, play games. When he goes poo, praise him up big time. That is how it worked for me.
@lcsamano (200)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I think I would stay with underwear. If you put him back into pull ups he will get confused and think it is a diaper. The best thing to do is just give him positive feedback. Your son will get the hang of it sooner than later.
• United States
12 Dec 06
we are potty training my 2 year old daughter and we still have her in pullups she dont go poo poo in the potty yet but she goes pee in the potty all the time.personally i would rather have her in pull ups until she does go poo poo on the potty its less of a mess to clean up that way.i do not think if you put him back in pull ups that he will stop peing in the potty i know my 2 year old is in pull ups but still goes pee in the potty
• United States
12 Dec 06
You have him in underwear, leave him in underwear. For him this is a status symbol. Putting him back in pullups will only make him feel he has failed, not too good for the old self esteem. Children like all of us learn best by example. I know this is going to sound odd, but here goes... Make a big deal out of when you use the bathroom, your husband as well. Your son will want that 'big deal' too and will make an effort to receive it. My daughter had issues with her oldest son and potty training, she was living in my home and luckily I happened to have a few days off work and was able to help her resolve this problem. If memory serves, it took about a week, and after that the occasional accident...usually if he got sick.
@Karma71 (176)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Both my girls were potty trained by the time they turned 3. They wore underwear during the day and pullups at night. It took them a little bit to learn to tell me they had to go so there were messes to clean. Their pediatrician told me when they go in their undies to make them clean it. I would also watch their facial expressions and would ask them if they had to go and they would say yes and we would run for the bathroom. Be patient, some kids learn faster than others. Good Luck!