please give me the suggession to my love problem?

India
December 12, 2006 4:57am CST
i am loving one person from childhood on wards.he is my relative. i love him alot.but he is not interest at me. he is talking casually with me but not with love. i asked him i love you very much. what's your opinion on me?but he told me i am seeing you as friend but i cant see you as wife and simply said sorry. but i cant forget him. my friend proposed me. he is a very good person. i like him very much.but not loving him. then what should i do now? now i am doing job. he is also doing job as a software engineer. he meets me dialy and talks with me. keeping me happy. please give me one suggession shall i accept him or not? he is waiting for my reply.
89 responses
• United States
12 Dec 06
Accept him as a friend, you will always meet someone else.
@kishchun (497)
• Oman
12 Dec 06
yeah, think so too.
• United States
12 Dec 06
Yea because you will always meet someone, there are always plenty of guys out there, and u will come across that special one too.
@mimpi1911 (25477)
• India
12 Dec 06
theoritically, it's actually very simple. forget your relative and marry the person who loves you. no issues about it. u can't make someone love you and it's very clear that the person never loved you. it's all your false aspiration to hope that he might oneday fall for you. i can't see any wrong with him, he actually had his facts straight, u r one who didnot want to understand. now, as for the second person, it's obvious that he will keep you well. i hope he is into good job and would prove to be a good groom. it's very important to be with the person who loves you than to be someone whom u love in vain. trust me you would be happy with the one who loves you. having said this, it's easy to say, but trust me you gonna love him sooner or later. how can you not love someone who cares the world for u!!. so, give a little time, let go for a while and take it easy. things are right infront of you in aplatter, go get it, now. else u might lose it to someone. all the best
• India
12 Dec 06
i agree
• United States
13 Dec 06
I actually agree with this statement. It's easier to fall in love with someone who already loves you then it is to try to make someone love you back. It never happens. Been there done that. I loved someone who didn't love me. And I'm soon to be married to someone I fell in love with who Loves me back
@siddhinfo (1501)
• India
12 Dec 06
If that man is looking at you as his friend then why are you after him? Forget him, get married to the nice boy. It is better not to marry to anybody from relation because this cause many problems most of the time. Forget him.
• United States
12 Dec 06
I totally agree. that and you shouldnt marry a relative that your related too?? thats odd,
@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Didnt anyone ever tell you it is NOT right to be inlove with a family member. You just dont do it.
• United States
12 Dec 06
AMEN TO THAT ONE
@kishchun (497)
• Oman
12 Dec 06
hey, there's no point pursuing the person who doesn't love you. instead, you could accept the one who loves you and you would be happy ever after. or, if you want to wait for some other Mr.Right, then it's up to you.
@ram_18y (275)
• India
12 Dec 06
if the one who proposes you is good.then accept him.as you like
@adnan82 (673)
• Pakistan
12 Dec 06
GO 4 it :).. he loves u then he'll keep u happy .u r lucky enough that u r being love by some1 .. so dont . reject that Proposal..
• India
12 Dec 06
i agree...:)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
go to the one who love you time can change someday you will learn to love him.
@nhelyma (181)
• Philippines
16 Dec 06
yeah i agree with you..!!! i think thsts the best thing to do... your too young, and i know theres someone waiting for you... maybe not tomorrow or the other day..but he will come at the right time...and your going to love him for sure...!!! you can teach your heart to love..!!! i garantee you that..!!!
@nhelyma (181)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
we actually have the same problem.... i think the best to do is accept whatever he wants..!!! you cannot force him to love you.. love will come on your way...maybe he's not d person for you, God will give you the best man and will accept you for who and what you are..!!God Bless!!
@maryannemax (12170)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
it's not good to force yourself to be loved by someone who can never love you back. someone is destined for everyone of us. all we need to do is be patient and wait till the right time has come.
@chiyosan (30199)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
the person you love already told you that he can't love you back and can't see you more than a friend. i guess this should be your basis so you can move on to a better person who loves you and is willing to accept you. you should not mingle unto the person who will never give his love to you this is simply a waste of time.
• United States
13 Dec 06
I agree with that completely. You shouldn't waste time on someone you will never end up being with.
@oo7bond (818)
• India
25 Jan 07
you have a cool view for creating such a great discussion.. it makes us easy to reply in this kind of discussion... see for ur future..
@1986ankush (1241)
• India
24 Jan 07
you have created such a great discussion.. thank you for sharing with us such a cool discussion. thank you once again... love to that person who love you too...
@serenetee (380)
• Singapore
13 Dec 06
Don't waste your time on the person who has expressed to you clearly that he cannot reciprocate your love. However, I don't think you should force yourself to love this friend just because he loves you. Love should be mutual and I believe you have not found the one that is right for you yet. Keep yourself happy by occupying yourself with things you like to do and spending more time with friends, family and colleagues. Your Prince Charming will appear when you least expected it.
@Stoxic (128)
• India
13 Dec 06
If u ask me i will tell u to leave that person because if he didn't like u than u are wasting ur time and ur love go and find another definitely u will find a good lover.But i say that never fall in love with anyone.BYe
• India
13 Dec 06
Well it has no meaning to follow a person who has no interest with u.Its better to serach for some other choice though its not easy in real.
@sabharish (164)
• India
13 Dec 06
If you dont get what you like in your life be happy with what you have. If ur friend is good you can accept him. But all this for living happily . Life is a flim where one is supposed to enjoy and not fell for sorrows.
@blueman (16513)
• India
13 Dec 06
i think the best thing to do would be to wait for sometime for your love to consider you as more then a friends, when you face such a situation where whom you thought wasyour friend turned out to be loving you as well,it takes sometime to think over. but i think you should be happier with the one who loves you and not with the one you love.
@khathorxe (335)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
You must go with someone who loves you because you will learn to love him since you said you liek him..dont inisist yourself to the person who cant love you back.Dont be desperate.
@harsh1985 (594)
• India
13 Dec 06
well your relative is genuine man. he already tells you his feelings so don't waste your time and think for another person that already loves you........best of luck
@dhpd22 (69)
• India
13 Dec 06
I would like to ask you that should you accept your friend as a husband. If yes then you should accept your friend and left your lover. Beacuase whom you are in love is not intersted to maintain furthure ralations.
• India
13 Dec 06
He is loved really for you. This problem desided to family members also .You asked your parnts I would not like it.but I think my life and carear keeping happy also You give a reply for your lover I am don't like this love affair.