You discover your Ex boyfriend is the boyfriend of your best friend now.

Philippines
December 12, 2006 6:06am CST
You discover that your bestfreinds boy friend is your Ex boyfriend and you discover that your boyfriend leaves you because of her you just only discover it now because one of your friend revealed it to you but you already married now. Would you still trust your best friend for not being honest to you?? For me I dont think so I should trust her anymore for she cheated me without considering our friendship. What can you say??
54 responses
• India
12 Dec 06
dun blame ur bestfriend 4 it coz she herself is in dark rite now d person who can leave u 4 another gal can even leave her sumday 4 sum odr gal not abig deal!!!n ur friend mite havent told u coz of fera of losing a freind n cumin into blame n may be she luvs dis guy since wen u were goin around wid him just sit n talk politely wid ur friend ok dun fite wid her a best friend is not 2 be lost 4 a damn guy n reply me if u like my response
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I can't understand it!
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Thanks for your response it is a big deal because she is a best friend.
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Well first I would make sure that this information that I got is correct and this person that told me this isn't trying to start some trouble. I guess the only way to find out is to confront this best friend and maybe the ex-boyfriend about it. I would ONLY not trust her if I found out that she was trying to start something up with this boyfriend WHILE I was dating him. If she wasn't and it was the boyfriend who was trying to, you still shouldn't consider her a friend, because a friend would tell someone about something like that.
@mtdewgurl74 (18121)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Not necessarily, Maybe the griend didn't tell because she didn't want her friends feelings hurt that her man was hitting on her the best friend. And never take all gossip at face value no matter who says it because it needs to come right from the right sources you need to just come out and ask your friend about it. And you said your married now so you have moved on but i can unterstand you want to know who you can trust now. I wouldn't put my trust wholely into anyone thats when you give them permission to stomp your heart and hurt you .. well have a good day.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
You are right the girl must make sure that information is correct for she does not know what is the purpose of her friend why she revealed it only now.
@anjuscor (1266)
• India
12 Dec 06
Best friends - Best friends
If it is really true that, your ex boy friend is your best friend's boy friend now, i really think why your boy friend left you. Was it your fault? then i dont blame your best friend, If it is his fault then i cut the friendship off. If she is really a good friend, she knows in and out of yours. Ofcourse she will know who your Ex boy friend is. When she knows everything and depends on the situation. If you have ruined his life, she has given him a life. Be happy about it. If he runied your life, then she is not your good friend at all. She has back stabbed you, ditched you. So cut her off now itself.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
They become together when the girl and the boys still have a relationship.
• United States
12 Dec 06
say nothing let it go if he's your ex there is more fish in the sea they say the best way to get over an ex is to get a new one
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Yes you are right.
• United States
12 Dec 06
Definately not, trust is very important in a friendship and once that trust is broken, no matter how late you find out about it, the friendship can never be the way it was.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Yes its true it can no longer called a frien if you loss the trust and confidence.
@coolcatzz (1589)
• Canada
12 Dec 06
Don't know why it would bug me so much but it would. I would just feel really funny about it. Although it has happened to me I guess over the years you forget about it. If it is done dishonestly and done behind your back then I would be really upset. Upfront is the way to go.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
You are very cool if you just make laught about what happened.
• United States
12 Dec 06
i wouldn't make a big deal out of it but what i would do is reveale her deppest darkess secret and let her feel the pain she put upon you!i know because that happened to me to !
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Maybe for me I wont revealed her secret but let her suffer the consequence of what she did.
@lissaj (532)
• United States
12 Dec 06
No, I wouldn't trust her. If she is going to go behind your back and steal your boyfriend, you don't need her as a friend. She already did it once, who is to say she won't try to put the moves on your husband. I wouldn't trust her in the same room with him.
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
Yes you are right you cant trust her anymore for what she did.
@gewcew23 (8011)
• United States
12 Dec 06
well let me tell you a story my 2 best friends I thought that the one liked me because we were always going and doing stuff together like a normal couple would then he starts asking my other friend to come along and to find out he was only using me to get to my friend. I was heart broken but it took a long time for me to forgive them both and I am still in contact with one (oh I forgot to tell you he broke up with her) and don't see the other one. BUT the greatest thing that happened out of the whole deal is God used my heartache and found me the greatest guy in the world to me and he is now my husband for almost 3 years. So I am still trying to build that trust again but it has been 4 years and it is still on shakey ground it will just take time.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Its good for you that you end up to a guy like him. Maybe that experienced of yours is only a way for you to have a better life with your husband.
@wvchell78 (564)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I had something like this happen to me in high school. My boyfriend of 3 years and I were having problems and split up for a week. After a week we were talking of getting back together but my best friend at the time told me not to get back with him. I for some reason listened to her and found out a couple weeks later that she was dating him. This was 10 years ago and they are still together but the last time I saw him he was talking about cheating on her. So maybe she didn't realize she was giving me good advice but it failed on her. I don't think I would trust her friendship.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
It's good for you that you did not end up on that kind of man. She deserved what happened to her and she is not really a good friend and should not be trusted for what she did to you.
@micheller (1366)
• United States
12 Dec 06
i wouldn't trust her anymore. once they lie and you keep trusting them, they just gonna keep doing things because they know they got away with it before. i believe that if a friend does something to you like that, that isn't a true and friend and isn't worth having. find a friend that wouldn't do something like that to you.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Yeah I agree with you that she should not trust worthy anymore for what she did. For she should not fall inlove on her bestfriends boyfriend.
@saeedsid (1120)
• Pakistan
12 Dec 06
ohhh if thats the case. then i wont talk to that friend of mine. cause stealin ur love/your partner from u .. cant be done by a true friend. so i will leave friendship with that friend of mine!
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Yeah I also agree with you if she is really a friend she should control her self to fall inlove on her best friends boyfriend to think that she never even mentioned that to her bestfriend that her boyfriend is showing his affection to her.
@marciascott (25555)
• United States
12 Dec 06
If your friend did that she is not your friend. even, if your not with that person anymore , she still should of not got together with him, knowing that that was your ex. I would never do that.
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
You know they really started to be together when the girl and the ex boyfriend were still together so I dont think so it is really fair on the part of the girlfriend.
@wyykidd (1460)
• Singapore
15 Dec 06
Since I'm already married, I must have found someone better than my ex! Then, why should I still be harping about this? I'd sincerely wish my best friend & her boyfriend the very best :)
• Singapore
14 Dec 06
well, i will confront my best friend about this bit of information and if she admitted that she was cheating with him behind my back while me and him are still an item, i dont think i could ever talk to them ever...it's betrayal!!
@crazy_me (591)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Hmmm, I would be hurt a little because she's my friend. But I would talk to her. Talk, and not confront. She might have a valid reason for not informing me. After all, my ex could have left me because he just fell out of love with me and fell inlove with my friend, without my friend even flirting with him. And assuming that I'm already married and happy at that, I wouldn't mind much anymore anyway. I'll just be thankful, not in a bitter way, that I didn't end up with my ex. I'll be thankful 'coz I married the man whom I'm madly inlove with and who's madly inlove with me too. Anyone who has the same opinion?
@tobecca (32)
• India
13 Dec 06
i wud pity her coz hes not worth it...an i wud sketch a plan for their break-up..... ;).. coz i cant allow my best friend to go thru the same hell... :) cheers
@kathrine (16)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
For me...theres no need of giving her a 100% trust. If I'm in that situation..I will still treat her as a friend..but ofcoarse theres a gap. so no other reason to call her as best friend at all. just a friend. I don't mean to say hate them.. be glad to them and wish them a happy life.
@blueman (16516)
• India
13 Dec 06
i think it depends on whether your friend did like or was jealous of your relationship with your boyfriend, if you did somehow feel that in some way she was jealous and wanted your boyfriend then, i would better prefer staying away from her in future.
@barcir (932)
• Italy
13 Dec 06
I will be badly, I will leave friend and girlfriend, but I cannnot making anything else, I can only think bad of my friend