women and marriage

United States
December 12, 2006 7:11am CST
Why these days do women feel that Have to get married to the first man that comes there way. So many of my friends have married young and couple of years later the have already divorced. I just dont get it why do women jump into that kinda of commintment if they are unsure. Why do women feel that have to be married? I see this happening more and more after another friend gets married, Its like a chain reaction one person marries so 3 more get engaged right after that wedding. Its like the whole if I jumped off the bridge thing would you jump to. I just cant see myself wasting my life marring someone that I cant see myself growing old with. To me marraige is a one time thing. Its forever for me. It seems like people get married just to say I am married. Any thoughts on this subject
62 responses
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
12 Dec 06
I dont like young people to get married for they still dont know what they are entering.
• United States
12 Dec 06
not just young people, many people don't understand the full responsibility involved with being married.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
yep. they get married because they just feel like getting married. then they get divorced because they just feel like they wanna get divorced. huh? do we consider marriage and divorce now fashion?
• United States
12 Dec 06
thats is what it seems like to me women marry to be like others. To many I think it is more of a popularity thing then love more to be like everyone else i just dont get it
• India
13 Dec 06
I don't like young couple married.
• Australia
13 Dec 06
why dont you like young couples to get married?????
@sobeit (57)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I got married at 20 and have been married 12 years now. He is my best friend in the whole world and not everyone has that. We are well aware that people grow apart and life happens even to us. We had a baby at 18 and it was hard. We didnt want to be married because of that. We waited 2 years to make sure we were right for eachother marriage wise. You van raise babies sperate even though it is not ideal. So here we are in a relationship 16 years in and we are better than ever. I have friend not married yet in their mid 30s because they are not ready even though they have been together for years. I think its smart. No one wants divorce. I think lots of women feel unimportant if they are single after a certain amount of dating time. They need to push that wedding so they look socially high. I would recomend any Man feeling the wedding Vibe to soon should run for his life. These women need to learn to be strong on their own and then the right relationships will fall in their laps.
@sharone74 (4839)
• United States
12 Dec 06
you are so right! Your relationship sounds healthy and your advice is sound.
• United States
12 Dec 06
I didnt feel the need to be married but I am married at 19. I have grown up so fast and didnt have much of a choice. If my age was set to my life then I would be close to 30 years of age. I felt I was ready and I dont intend on getting divorced anytime soon. some women feel like it completes their life to be married and have a family. I dont recommend marrying the first man that comes your way though.
• China
21 Dec 06
i think i support you,cause i got married at age 17 and am happy with it not thinking about quiting atall cause nobody forced me into it.
@adnan82 (673)
• Pakistan
12 Dec 06
WOmen do get marry at early .. stages..but they are being forced by ther parents and they . cant take a stand...for t hem selves..this thing i cant get it...MOST of them are forced marriage.
@maryannemax (12174)
• Sweden
12 Dec 06
in today's world, forced marriage is no longer followed. some may.. but only a few to consider. usually, women nowadays decide on their own and they stand for what they think is right for them. it's not just good to see young women getting married in an early stage when they are suppose to enjoy being single first before getting into a deeper commitment.
@loveboy (671)
• India
13 Dec 06
women
@blueman (16516)
• India
13 Dec 06
why they do something like that is because they think they are not going to have a second chance and are always in a bit hurry to find a good partner. though not all women are not like that.
@Rosy001 (363)
• South Africa
13 Dec 06
I think most young women feel the pressure of society and feel obligated that they need to be married by a certain age. so as soon as 'mr opportunity' arrives, you jump! forget the days of marrying for love, understanding, respect, mutual feelings/likes etc. Nowadays, its about a comfort zone. very difficult to get out of..........
@rms2727 (815)
• India
13 Dec 06
with the number of divorce rates soaring high each year, its quite clear that most couples take a hasty decision at teh time of marrige. if you want your marrige to be successful you have to move steady before making the final decision, and be absolutely certain that youa re taking the right decision
@nooreldin (471)
• Kuwait
13 Dec 06
! - marriage
I think the problem is not rushing into marriage, but its rushing into divorce!!marriage is a very healthy relationship that should be encouraged for building a family,and raising kids..this is much more better than having relationships without marriage.. but nowadays divorce is getting easier and easier!! it seems running away from problems is much easier than solving them!! so I think the problem is in divorce, not in marriage!!
• India
13 Dec 06
What my point is. Is it necessary to get married in the first place. Is'nt marriage a legal way to have a woman or a men in bed. If I love some one why can't I stay with that person in the same house without getting married. I like a person I'm in love with so why bother to go and sing papers to prove that we'er husband and wife what different will it make to any one. Why should any body bother what's with our life. Its wrong to divorce after living together. Actually people disagree after marriage should be put in jail. If the woman want divorce cause the man is giveing trouble then the man should be put in gail for lifetime imprisment. if the man want divorce cause the woman is having a affier with someone else and she is troubleing him then she should be put in jail
• India
13 Dec 06
Every man and woman have the right to think freely that if he or she will marry or not.It varies man to man.If you think that you have no need to marry then do not marry.But it is true that every people need the help of other specially at the time of their old age.From this point of view marriage is a needful thing.
@Jestin (560)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
Smiley marriage - Smiley wedding
I don't think your girlfriends were in a hurry to get married and it's not like marrying the first man who comes their way. They probably thought they were ready and that that person was the one. If you feel it's right, and legally capable of getting married, I think there's nothing wrong with it. If you made that decision to spend the rest of your life with someone, whether you started it early or late in life, it still is up to you, not the people around you.
@Echo123 (155)
• United States
13 Dec 06
I'm not so sure it's just the young, or even that people ar emarrying whoever comes along. I waited until I was 30, thought I had a good idea of what I wanted and chose a man who said he had the same ideas about being older, knowing what he wanted and doing it once in life. Despite all that, he hit the road when things got tough for him emotioanlly. I'm still steamrolled. I was in it for the long haul, but there is exactly zero ziltch zip you can do if the other party walks out. So, in a nutshell, even if you put a lot of thought and time into your decision, it doesn't really determine a more stable marriage.
• United States
13 Dec 06
MY SISTER IS GETTING MARRIED !!!!!!!!
@rakinitin (686)
• Canada
13 Dec 06
I think that no matter what age you are, if you are in love that's all that should matter. Just because you are in love does not necessarily warrant getting married. It's just a piece of paper really.
@avi_love (457)
• India
13 Dec 06
ya
• United States
13 Dec 06
well i dont know if ill be the first to say this but yes there are alot of wommen getting married just to say they are or for the wedding .... but i have to say as somone who got married at 18 4 months after she met her blind date ;) there is hope out there ;) we just had our 12 yr wedding ann last sat ;) not bad for a blind date eh ?? 4 kiddo's and 12 yrs later i would still marry him ;) but personally i think ppl put way too much empasis on the wedding and not the marriage , maybe thats why we have been married for so long , we were married in the court house LOL and i already told him this is the only marriage im gonna have so he better act right , i would rather be a widow than a divorcee :) ~M~
@jaan123 (39)
• India
13 Dec 06
i agree as what you said... the thing is women wants to be secure always, so any first man coming into their life, they start searching all the aspects in him... result- fall in love!! No one is perfect- but a men always need a perfect wife... hence differences come aboard,and then the DIVORCE. story ends...
@Sukhmeen (396)
• India
13 Dec 06
Well I think ur concer is absolutely right as i also found such things in life nowadays gals r just wasting there life for an unknown guy So its better to think 100 times before u marry anyone