I need more help Geesh I have too much on my plate.

@kelnal (165)
United States
December 12, 2006 3:31pm CST
Hello all I have a stepdaughter who decided to tell her older sister not to come over because I had told them that they need to clean after themselves when they come over. The reason for my step daughter did this is because she got jealous of her older sister and her older sister would hide in the bathroom for hours so she did not have to clean up. and in the end it hurt me and my 2 little girls. Now that my stepdaughter confronted me about what she did I told her that I was fine and that I appreciated her for coming foward with this and please don't do this again cause it hurts not 1 person it hurts everybody. Well today I just found out that her mother wants to yell at my husband because she found out that her daughter apologized to me and my husband told her it would be good for her to be honest. Should I talk to her mother? I think that this is sooo wrong.
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6 responses
@tbomb2002 (269)
• United States
12 Dec 06
If you are not already communication with the mother, I wouldn't start now. Let the husband handle it, it sounds like he said what needed to be said to her.
• United States
12 Dec 06
Sorry...should have said "communicating", not communication.
@kelnal (165)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thats the thing his daughter just told him that she wanted to yell at him so they have not spoken yet. I have tried to communicate with the mother only once but that did not help. I try to do the right thing. This was when my stepdaughter talked to me sarcastic. I told her to please dont start and she got mad at me so then this whole thing blew up cause she thought she did nothing wrong. So her mother said whats the big deal. So I got on the phone and talked to her politely even tho i wanted to go off on her I felt I had to be an adult and talked calmly with her so I did. I told her that we need to work with her and help her in her problems I knew this little girl for 11 yrs. I grew up with her.
@kelnal (165)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Thats okay i thank you for posting :)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I don't understand why the mom is mad. Maybe something got mixed up somewhere. Hopefully your husband can fix it. I don't think that you should get involved though.
@kelnal (165)
• United States
12 Dec 06
Well her daughter told her so now she wants to yell at my husband for making her do the right thing. This is the problem. I dont want my husband to get yelled at because of what i said which i think since they are 10 and 11 yrs old they should help out thier messes and I have 2 of my own girls that are 7 and 8 yrs old. Its been 2 years since I seen the oldest. So now she is 13 and the other is 12. Thank you for replying :)
@demos4582 (390)
• Indonesia
12 Dec 06
i think u should more carefull to wach them. the older sister should have work as same as her young sister.
@kelnal (165)
• United States
12 Dec 06
I have to be very careful now cause the one yougest stepdaughter is starting up things now.
@soldenski (2504)
• United States
6 Jan 07
This is exactly why, I would not date someone who has kid's. I don't like the drama that come's with it. Good luck to you, hopefully your husband will stand by your rule's and decision's.
@remaster74 (4066)
• Greece
22 Dec 06
I think this is a very delicate situation. I wouldn't say it would be bad to talk to the mother, but you have to keep the conversation in low profile so not to argue with each other. Tell her that honesty is a nice thing and apologizing to you, or to her dad, or to the bugger around the corner, would make her a better person.
@mansha (6301)
• India
22 Dec 06
Just let the storm roll over and its better if they do not come over at all. Let the husband talk to them and their mother. No need to get in to this family battle of words. They are just trying to stress your home do not succumb to them. Ignore their rude behavior and tell your hubby to lay dopwn ground rules for them. They will probably respect their father's words more. You just concentrate on what is best for your daughters.