how can I tell Dad?

then maybe you should talk to your dad first, like what you said, you used to be close to him, tell him that you don't want to doubt his action and that you are willing to listen. don't hate him for reasons that has not yet been confirmed.

my dada was like that too when i was growing up. he was great dad but then everything change when we found out that he already has a new family and doesn't need us anymore. try to talk to him about it. you better find out soon so you could get over the hurt you are feeling right now. but actually if your suspicions are right, the hurt will stay with you for a long time... you just have to be strong for your sake and your siblings sake. the only thing you can do when you find the truth is not do anything. it won't do you any good if you just continue to go after your dad and his new family (if he has one.) you will just get hurt more. the funny thing about screw up dads is that, when they are over with their relationship with their girlfriends, they just come back to their original family like nothing happened. you can do it man! be strong!

If I was in your situation, I would ask your dad to go to dinner with you because you need to talk to him. At the dinner tell him how you feel. Don't blurt out "I think you have another family", but express how you feel he is distant and neglecting the people in your family. You can also question his attention to baby clothes. He may not tell you that he has another family or he had an affair, but you will get your feelings off of your chest and that will help you at least feel better. Have you talked to your Mom about any of this?

you should talk to your dad abouth this matters

Honestly speaking...

I think you should sit down and talk with your dad,too.

#one: DO NOT DISTRUST your Dad. He is, after all, a human being and may have some fluctuating frame of mind for the time being which nobody knows. Keep your cool and as suggested in one of the replies, take him out, discuss with him regarding your guss work. And be assured, you will soon find that you are wrong. Take action without keep on guessing.

hello there..I re read this many times...and i dont see anywhere that he would have a second family..if anything i would hate to tell you and it saddens me..he is probably having an affair with another woman..but not have another family.but..what i would do is sit him down somewhere..comfortable..and just flat out tell him exactly that u told us...and then just ask,..is theer another woman? do u have another family..just get it out and then my friend you will have your answers u need.. good luck and please take care!

I would say some like Hey Dad you know those shows on TV where the bloke has a second family? Do you?

I think that's a very good idea. Go to dinner with them and then explain how you feel withoutb blurting out your suspision. It's the best way and if he does have another family he can't really get out of it, if he doesn't then it might waken him up a little and make him spend more time with you to make up for the neglect you have been feeling...

I would say you just have to ask him to sit down with you and your sisters to talk about it. Tell me straight up what you're feeling. You don't have to tell him you think that he has another family. Just tell him you feel he's been slacking off as a father and you don't feel as close to him anymore and it's hurting you. If he cares either whatever he's doing will stop and he'll make more time for you or if it is true that he has another family he will come clean with it. You will never know or get the problem solved unless you talk about it with him. The sooner the better because you don't want to hate your dad. He might not even notice what he is doing.

the parents not always are like we would want them; it often happens that parents and sons take roads various and they more do not succeed to being one true family. It is not guilt of nobody.

Talk to your mom first if you are close to her and try to find out things. If that doesnt work out talk to your dad. Dont just ask him right away. Find out why he doesnt spend enough time with you and why he is buying baby clothes and for whom. He may be buying clothes for some of your relative maybe. Communicating is the best option here. Be polite and convey your feelings. You will then feel glad that you talked.

I understand ur mental situation, but the best solution at these situations is to tell it to someone. So u need to talk about it 2 ur father how hard it may be. Don't just say abt ur guess tht he had a different family (after all its ur guess) because if it isn't true then this wd hurt him. Just tell him ur feelings these days because of his activities. I think he will understand it. Please inform me abt the discussion after u've talked 2 ur father.

this will only increase your headache. go and talk to him peacefully.

the best way to find out for sure is by talking to your dad and asking him to be truly honest with you. it will be better as well if you talk to him in a mature way, no tantrums, no screaming, no accusations. just talk, ask questions and tell him how you're feeling if your suspicions are true, then maybe even your dad is finding it hard to balance his life between your own family and the other family, and maybe he is scared that you will not be able to understand him should he tell you the truth. people make mistakes, some small and reparable ones, others big and life-changing. find it in your heart to forgive your father if he really has a second family and make sure he is aware of his responsibilities. btw, i am assuming that your mom is out of the picture in all this since she was never mentioned. dad deserves to be happy, too.

Do you have mother. Why this Question being asked by me is to explain differently. Having a father as a friend a good relation between father and a daughter. Why you are thinking as your father is doing mistake. You can think as positive. If he is doing business, might be there is a problem which he cant able to share with you.Are he ishaving some other problem. If your mother is there then do you find out your father is fighting with your mother.Any other problem was going inbetween your father and mother.All these days your father is with you only.At that time do you find any differnce in your father.Sharing all the problem with your father,you can asked like saying your problem as your friend problem and findout. Other wise you can help your father in his problem.Without kowing Dont get angry with your father. Be a positive thinker.And all will go right.

never forget... your father is not only a father...he is also a man!! you write nothing about your mother. maybe he feels lonesome...

please ask your dad directly.if you have a suspicion the ask him.all that you might be thinking may be wrong.just ask him directly and tell him that you suspect him.this is no shame.if he is turning out to be a stranger to you.its better you clarify and know what it true.afterall he is your dad..he cant cheat his daughter

Hey John If it is diffcult for you to speak up to your Dad you can do one thing, You can post him one LOVE YOU DAD card. At the same time request him to shower love and blessing as he used to do earlier. If you quote one of the memorable incidence of the past your dad will surely get emotional and will come directly to you where you both can exchange your feelings for each other. I will be glad if this will work ou for you.