Have you ever been sexually assaulted/raped

@hsvgrl86 (194)
Australia
December 13, 2006 7:16am CST
when i was 14 i was gang raped, then 18mths ago my stepbrother who was 30 at the time and i was 18 sexually assaulted me serval times in a few months. I am still going through the court process. I thought i could forget such horrible things but it seems to come back and bite you on the butt ten fold. I have many problems such as PTSD, my partner and i have problems in the bedroom due to my past. U never know if your going one day be normal again or if u jsut learn to cope with it.
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33 responses
@iAlicia (759)
• United States
14 Dec 06
This is why counseling is recommended.
@_hope_ (3916)
• Australia
14 Dec 06
i know exactly how you feel i was raped by my brother,uncle,family friend and three others who i don`t even know .The night mares never go away but with the rite help you can live with them but as you said they will always be triggers that come back and remembering again makes them seem as though they are happening all over again
• India
14 Dec 06
You are really a bravo. hats off for you. I know this is really a very normal suggestion to you that forget each n everything. A lot of people must have suggested you. But this is not as simple as suggesting. You must build up your mind. Try to be humorous and be in that kind of people who are really funny. In everybody's life there are alot of bad things which they want to forget but they follows us. In-spite of all these i got attracted by this thread and the replies.
@satlove (1111)
• India
14 Dec 06
i have never experienced that........
• India
14 Dec 06
me never i feel sorry for u ...u poor child
@yorb24 (2181)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I'm so sorry you've had such a painful life so far. You should believe that one day it will be beautiful for you. You've come so far already. This will make you a stronger person. Good luck.
@isha900 (1460)
• India
14 Dec 06
yes
@casper20 (1465)
• India
14 Dec 06
i am shocked to here this.but you have to be strong in this circumstances and fight all those inner demons first.you can't ,atall blame yourself for any of this,even for a second.you can't feel sorry for yourself,you have to be brave.don't think about it too much ,you have to move forward from this completely.i have not been in this circumstances but i have a friend who is going through the same thing.she was raped when she was studying in the school and been molested many times.she still is not comfortable around men,i keep telling her she should try to be brave and live confidently.now i am helping her and all of my friends are helping her,but still she says she is feeling alone and afraid of everything,.it is really sad she is not actually coming out of the shell that her life experiences put her into.sometimes when we meet we just sit and cry.
• India
14 Dec 06
i m sorry gals for those horrible incidents tht hav happend in ur life... but i think it s better not to think abt it as it ll do nothing to u except keep on reminding u ur bad past.
• India
14 Dec 06
i am deeply saddened on hearing this. those people should be punished in an atrocious manner like cutting their P**is or crushing it with a hammer. I feel very ashamed to be a male, because of men like them. But, your the strongest women i have seen in a while. Surely, you can come over it and i guess you will succeed in life in a grand manner. I pray for you from bottom of my heart. If at all you feel like let down, ping me. God Bless you.
@dominican (202)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
My girlfriend right now was sexually assaulted by her uncle when she was 12 and her cousin's husband when she was 18. She said to me that eversince she never had a bf except for now, damn its really hard for us especially for her because we are still picking up the pieces of her broken soul. To all women and girls who had this experience I hope you'll all have peace of mind. Its really hard of what you've been through. Godbless you all.
@ru88en (2998)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
This is really hard for you. I am very sorry to hear that. Life sometimes maybe hard for us. Life sometimes maybe difficult to understand. Often times, you may question yourself, why me? what have I done wrong? I am really sorry. Just remember, your experience is not the most difficult kind that happen to man. It may take time but I know you will fully recover from it. Friend, I want you to think all the blessing your receive in the past. Think about it, think about how bless you are so in this way you will feel there is still somebody greater that take's care of you. Fill your minds, with positive though. Keep memorizing empowering quotations, read personality, inspiring and enrichment books. This will help you have back your confidense and self esteem little by little. Yes, If you can, avail yourself of a counselor, a psychiatrist, a psychologiest or a church priest / pastor. I hope and I pray, you will be more stronger to conquer and win the battle of your life. Good bless you.
@innechen (1321)
• Indonesia
14 Dec 06
you are so tought...with that horrible experience you manage to survive and report it to police.i hope your court will be done soon.it will be better if you see a physiciatric to help you heal from those horible memory and trauma.hope you'll find a nice man to be ur husband someday :)
@harsh1985 (595)
• India
14 Dec 06
well it's very horrible.There are too many stories.and mental condition of that women/girl is get damaged to the great extent.But you have to withstand strongly against your past otherwise your martial life will be damaged badly due to your past so best of luck for that.
@maevic (821)
• Bahrain
14 Dec 06
I'm sad to hear that but I think you are a very brave woman. You are trying to cope up with your fears. What i can tell you is that try to be open with other people espcially with your friends and family. They can help you a lot. I also think that you should open your door to your partner, i know he's willing to help you. last thing, pray! everytime you feel and remember the trauma and try to be more outgoing, go outdoorswith your friends and partner.
@nazsajid (63)
• Canada
14 Dec 06
NO I HAVE NEVER BEEN
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
I really symphatize with you,they should be sentenced,I think a psychiatrist will help a lot in the healing process.
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
oh! here are too many real horrible stories, i m too sorry to all of you. really ver sad what happened to you.
@rash219 (808)
• United States
14 Dec 06
im soo sorry....its horrible how society has turned these days.....in our religious book there is something mentioned abt "KALI YUG" meaning dark ages and i fear tat day by day we are getting close to it......i have found so may post like ur it terrible......but i respect u for the fact that you are standing and fighting back this cruel world.....i sure tat u will not only be normal again but be happy 2....i wish all the best
@Talianna (85)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Eh, Never in my life. Unless you count: When I was about 6, I was in a school bus ready to go home. It was on a different school bus that I never really rode much. Anyway, two boys, about my age came over to me and started trying to pull up my shirt and grab my chest. I finally got away and sat with a girl, and as I was getting up they grabbed my butt. But that's nothing compared to what you've been through.