Does any Stay-at Home Mom's ever get tired of their kids?!

United States
December 13, 2006 11:54am CST
I sometimes wish I could go back to work. I want to use my brain. I just want to use a pencil and have adult conversation. Sometimes I get so tired of cleaning, doing laundry, coloring and playing make believe (I always get cast as the witch or the pig or something equally awful). I always feel guilty about it, but I'm pretty sure it's normal. Somebody confirm this!!!
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@sunnypub (2128)
• United States
13 Dec 06
It is soooo normal. People don't realize that being a stay at home mom is a job and a hard one at that. It is also completely underappreciated. Missing that adult conversation is one of my biggest complaints as well. When it's time for a break I tell my duaghter that I love her dearly but I need some "me-time". Don't feel guilty because you need the breaks to keep you sane.
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• Indonesia
14 Dec 06
I agree. I think you have to realize that you're so lucky that you can have a lot of time to be with your kid and it means that you don't have to worry about them because they're not with the babysitter that's not guarantee of savety. I'm one of the officer and sometimes I worry about it. So, enjoy your time with them and have a good time.
@crystal8577 (1466)
• United States
13 Dec 06
It is just like anyone else you are around all the time. I love my family but if I do not get a break from them they can drive me nuts. It is normal, just a lot of moms are afraid to voice that. They think others will think they are a bad parent for feeling that way. If they spoke up they would probably find it is more common than they thought.
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• United States
14 Dec 06
I totally agree. My closest friends have heard me complain enough times about not being able to stand my kids at certain times. :)
• Netherlands
13 Dec 06
This is one of many reasons that I don't want children. They zap everything out of you and leave you with nothing. I hope you are able to find some adult time to recharge your batteries.
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@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
if want, then you recharge your batries
@sororravn (448)
• United States
14 Dec 06
This is completely normal! I felt this same way when I was a stay at home mom. I would recommend that you get to know your neighbors or talk to your spouse about getting out of the house and going out and doing something adult. Drop the kids off with a sitter and have a good time! I also recommend seeing if there are other stay at home mothers in your area and seeing if there are any groups that you can join or start one of your own. You will get to meet with others who are in your same positition as you are and be able to have adult conversations. If you start your own group, you will also get the chance to stretch those brain cells by coming up with things to do that will entertain the kids while giving the moms something to do as well!
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@prenuer (277)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Girl, please, it is to normal. I once had someone ask me what I do to relax and get time away from the kids. My answer? I get a job. lol.
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• United States
14 Dec 06
I have a 5 1/2 month old. I go to the gym. They have great care at the YMCA and I get 2 hours to get my mind and body in shape.
@shalna (16)
• United States
14 Dec 06
I am so glad you asked, because I felt the same way. Tired and bored and when see other stay at home happy, wonder but then I found out that you need to go out alone some days do what you like..there is nothing wrong in that. I decided to put my son with baby sitter and just go alone and enjoy even if I am doing chores. Stay at home is the tough job ever and still you meet people who say..oh so you don't work..well no..we work harder than anyone. The perks of being at home are great..your kid knows that you always have time for them. It is best if every week you get even if it is one hour by yourself.
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@kimmypot (285)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
you should watch desperate housewives i think you would be able to relate with the plot and especially the characters.
• United States
14 Dec 06
I've seen it and that blond lady with the little boys are definitely a picture of my home!
@Danniet (376)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Totally normal, I feel this way sometimes too. What I wouldn't give for some adult conversations sometimes. I guess that's why I like Mylot.
@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
is it to escape for mom
• Australia
13 Dec 06
i know 110% hopw you feel.Our son is only one(on wed!!) but somedays im just over being a mum!!! How you're feeling is NORMAL & theres nothing wrong with needing some me time with no children.
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@hm1177 (1222)
14 Dec 06
god yes - i want to stay at home with them while they are young and i mainly enjoy it but its not just being a stay at home mum its being a stay at home cleaner, cook, teacher, entertainer, shopper etc etc... and to top it all we don't get paid and we don't get a lunch break or tea break and we don't have set hours. Its pretty much a 24 hour a day job and i dont think its something we should feel guilty about if we sometimes desire a break from it!!
@wiseacre (221)
• India
14 Dec 06
well, iam sorry buti dont agree with u..
@nicky35 (747)
14 Dec 06
well everyones entitled to an opinion but yours is wrong,its bloody hard work and you wouldnt be normal if that didnt drain you at times
• India
14 Dec 06
so if u want to then go doesnot bother any thing
@isha900 (1459)
• India
14 Dec 06
yes u dont need to bother
@katcarneo (1433)
• Philippines
13 Dec 06
being a mom/wife is a 24/7 job so i don't blame you if you get tired of it sometimes. maybe you should talk to your husband and say that you really want to go back to work. i'm not married yet,bt i know that if i stay at home to be the common housewife i'd probably be bored as hell. so i always tell my fiance i won't stop working. or i'll stop for a while when we have kids then eventually go back again when they're big enough to be left with a sitter. there are some who say they enjoy being a mom a lot, and i suppose that's true for you too, but i bet others are also experiencing the same way and feeling the same way as you are.
• United States
14 Dec 06
I do enjoy being a mom (most of the time) and while I would enjoy the intellectual stimulation of a job, I feel that it's important for me to be home with the kids. My husband has frequently said if I could earn enough income, he'd gladly trade places with me. It's just important to us that one of us is there with them.
@vikceo (1301)
• India
14 Dec 06
some times it may happen but mom never get tired of their kids..
@nicky35 (747)
14 Dec 06
oooh yes they do!
@cowgirl2701 (2079)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Even mothers that have to work get tired of working and then going home to take care of kids. We all need time for ourselves. Set a date and do something for yourself. You deserve it.
@Ilyasgul (881)
• Pakistan
14 Dec 06
already suggested
@emarie (5442)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Stress Woman - stress
well, its pretty common for a sahm mom to want to get out and do something else. i don't mind staying home with my kids, i'm sure you're not alone. i do get tired of the kids cartoons and baby talk. having adult contact and conversation is not wrong. you shouldn't feel guilty about it. there are other outlets...thats why i'm on the computer a lot, its adult conversation (most of the time) and its somewhats interaction.
@SparkyG (357)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Sometimes I need a break also. So I will leave for a little while for some me time. You always need to give yourself that, or you will go crazy! But I am very grateful that I have a wonderful husband that takes care of all of our financial needs and that I am able to stay home with my son. I can't imagine going to work everyday and not spending my day with him.
• United States
14 Dec 06
My husband laughs when I tell him that just going grocery shopping ALONE is like a holiday for me. I can just wander the aisle looking for new things and just enjoy the quiet shopping trip. None of the "Gimme's" as I call them are there to interfere. It's heaven. I think my husband wonders why on earth it takes 2 hours to get groceries sometimes. I just smile and say I had a really long list!
@arvee17 (730)
• Philippines
14 Dec 06
oh lucky me. i'm still not in that stage. i'm also a stay home mom but my boy is still a baby. so, im still enjoying this time that he is not making my life crazy. but i also work for a while before and every time i am outside the house i usually wanna go back home and be with him. if you wanna have a little bit of a life but still enjoy the company of your kids, better have some hobby or something. like go back to school and take your masters or go to the gym and exercise. or socialize with people from your neighborhood. that way you can have different type of friends and enjoy.
@sylviekitty (2083)
• United States
13 Dec 06
Oh I can definitely confirm this. My 3 and 4 1/2 yr old are sapping my brain cells away by the thousands. I'm surprised I can function at all by the time my husband gets home from work.. I probably sound like a cave woman by the end of the day. Seriously.. I get so tired of "Ok, mommy. You get to be Polly now. I'm gonna be..." OMG!!!! GRRR.
• United States
14 Dec 06
I know I always wonder if my husband gets bored with my conversations since most of them center around something the kids did. I got a 4.0 in college. I do have a brain--it just doesn't get used these days!
@rice5899 (193)
• United States
22 Dec 06
it is so normal to feel that way from time to time, What I do is go out to several moms nights out a month and that gives me the time to myself that I need