co-sleeping babies

United States
December 13, 2006 1:26pm CST
My son is 8 months old and he is still sleeping in my bed with me at night.I have tried everything to try and get him to sleep in his own bed but,everytime i try to put him in his bed he screams he could be sound asleep and he will still wake up screaming because i put him in his own bed.I love my son but i need rest to.my other kids use to sleep with me for the first couple of months but nothing like this any advice?
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• United States
29 Dec 06
MY older son slept in my bed until he was 11 years old and thats when my youngest son was born! he says he took his spot in the big bed! LOL! Now my youngest is three and most likely will be in my bed until another comes along!(although i plan on having NO other children!) so he might just be there forever! keep him in your bed! its a great thing! I will never change it for the world. He sometimes goes into his own room and falls asleep and I go in and get him! Sometimes he goes into his sisters room and sleeps and once or twice went into his brothers room. I love the fact that my son is in bed with me...he can stay there as long as he wants to. If you really want to get him in his own bed I suggest you both go out and pick him up bedding HE wants and start off by sleeping in his bed. instead of moving him you move out of his room. This will work eventually. Trust me...it might be weeks but it will work.
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@magikrose (5424)
• United States
29 Dec 06
For starters co-sleeping for me was not an option. What you can try to do is let him cry for a few minutes then pick him up then next time let him cry a little bit longer. The whole time he is crying talk to him and rub his hand or his head so he knows you are there. Every time you put hime to bed let him cry a little bit longer eventually he will realise that you are still there and just fall asleep. Personally I didnt let my kids co-sleep for that simple reason. I had a bassinett in my room right next to me and when they fell asleep they would get put right into there bed. When they woke up in the middle of the night they were right next to me so I could be able to pick them right up with no problem.
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@armywifey (883)
• United States
29 Dec 06
I had the same problem with my oldest daughter, she slept with me until she was around 1 then I started putting her in her own bed. I would usually get her to sleep before laying her down by rocking her and eventually she would just go to bed on her own. My other two children never slept with me.
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@acosjo (1904)
• Canada
28 Dec 06
I remember this. My first son slept with us at the beginning and eventually we got him in to his own bed. Our second child, we had her sleeping in her crib and bed from the beginning and funnily enough will not sleep in my bed at all, Yeah! Try sleeping in his bed with him at the beginning of the night. When he falls asleep, then you can go into your own room. Now remember, he will wake up and probably start screeming but this will eventually stop. There will be a transition that unfortunately you will not be able to avoid. Don't worry, it will heppen in time. Be patient because this is when you need to be the most patient.
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• United States
22 Dec 06
This was a problem for me too. I had twins and they slept with me for nearly 1 1/2 years. I couldn't afford a crib for them, and when they outgrew the bassinets, I had no choice but to let them sleep with me. When I tried to get them to sleep in their own beds, it wasn't an easy transition. I would have to lay with them to get them to sleep. Once they were sleeping I would sneak out of their room. When I would wake in the morning, I found them sleeping to either side of me. I wish I had some words of wisdom to offer you Chiquita. The only ones that I can offer anyone is to never start the habit of letting your children sleep with you.
@birthlady (5613)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I have 3 grown kids and I could never allow my kid to cry it out because I was teaching my child that their tears go ignored, cries unanswered, and no one cares. I don't think that's what you want your baby to learn.
• United States
29 Dec 06
that is exactly how i feel i cant let my kid cry then he will learn not to trust me
@chigawaga (593)
• Canada
17 Jan 07
my oldes slept in my bed till he was about 16months old and i gradually got him sleepign in his own bed..my 8month old sleeps in my bed and he will till hes a yr or older...it comforts me to hear his breathing and i cant sleep without hearing his breahting....my cousins baby passed of side at 9months old and my neighbours passed of an undetected heart problem..it would just kill me if i ahd let my child scream it out and then somthign happen because i would regret it for the rest of my life...just keep that baby close and cherish everybreath that baby takes...if your comfortable with him sleeping next to u then let him i dont see how its gonna hurt any:)