Why do you think some people are so bitter in life?

I'm a Glass Half Full - kind of person
United States
December 14, 2006 5:43pm CST
I have suffered greatly, both physically and financially. Yet I continue to love life, smile about my world and feel I am truly blessed. While others are so bitter and nasty. So many people are given a hard road to tow and they hate the world for it. Why do you think this is? Some would say my faith, but I don't honestly believe I have any more faith then an average person. I just wonder why some people prefer to always see the glass half empty all the time.
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@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
14 Dec 06
I have and still am going through the same as you and I have to admit I admire you I fight I really do but I have to say there are Days I ask myself is it worth it like at the moment But I would never go as far as hating Life as I still have love in my life and that is worth a lot more
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• United States
15 Dec 06
yeah... we all have bad days.. or even bad weeks.. but wow.. some people are just so bitter about life. I cannot imagine going through life like that! I'm glad you're still smiling!
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• United States
15 Dec 06
I agree!
@madonna143 (1739)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
You have to understand that different people react to anxiety and the problems and challenges that this life has to give differently. We are not hte same. That's why we are alled unique individuals. We handle our struggles and react to them differently. Although it would be nice that if people would be less grouchy and more positive thinkers.
• United States
15 Dec 06
Well said. I guess without the grumps in the world it just might not be quite the same and perhaps they help us to appreciate even more! Thanks!
@kbkbooks (7030)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
It really is a matter of attitude. I know I have read this little story in email that tells how no matter what you go through in life you can choose to be positive or negative. For example, since I have become handicapped recently, I can either focus on how bad the pain is or I can focus on how this condition has made my family more communicative because of the way they have to care for me and take care of each other because there are things I can't do. It has brought us all closer together in that way. Also because I have to be still or rest alot, I have more time to pray and reflect on life.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
The same here... so many negatives that I could pull out of my recent disability, yet so many positives too. I prefer to find the positive and learn from the negatives!~
@mfrancq (1808)
• United States
14 Dec 06
Unfortunatly some people just take to their experiences badly. Then they hold it against everyone around them, especially those who love them. I also had a very bad childhood, however, I continue to go through life very happy without letting any of it get to me. If anything, those experiences just made me stronger.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
So true. I think the proper way to take it all in is to strengthen oneself from the trials and tribulations of life!
@anne_143god (5390)
• Philippines
15 Dec 06
I'am also asking that question why some people are so blessed and some are not maybe because it's up to every individual how they handle their own situation.
• United States
15 Dec 06
Well said.
• United States
15 Dec 06
I think that a lot of people are bitter about life because things have happened to them, and when that happens, people turn on the fascade that it happened to me, so therefore i can careless about others. Been there done that, but in the end, you only hurt yourself and the people you love. God works in mysterious ways, and so does life.
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@artguy (1476)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I think people are bitter because they feel life owns them something. If something goes wrong in their life they say way is life doing this to me instead of how can I fix this. I have ups and downs in my life but I always keep a positive attitude.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
I have to agree. They seem to think they're owed something... goodness knows what! lol
• Australia
15 Dec 06
mostly old people. i recon its coz there jelous, they could die in there sleep, alot of old people disslike the japanese but they wont admit it. jealousy is the curse
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• United States
15 Dec 06
lol... i'm not sure it's mostly old people! I've met my share of very nasty, bitter younger ones too!!! As for disliking a race, that's just ignorant. Not bitterness as much as it is ignorance. You like or dislike a PERSON, not a race. We are all individuals! I'm sorry if you've ever experienced the ignorance of racism!
@Bayleigh (141)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Hmm, I did a discussion VERY similiar to this and got 2 replies to it. lol I guess I didnt word it right? I agree, life is hard on a lot of people and it seems to spill out to complete strangers that have nothing to do with anything! Im walking in behind people and the door slams in my face, I ALWAYS hold the door if someone is behind me, and I make sure to look, since we dont have eyes in the back of our heads. Im being checked out at the local market, not one hello or how are you today, and Im making purchases to to foot their paychecks they could atleast smile at me. You know maybe its me! You know the people in the stores that have little tables set up to try a product, I cant even get someone to offer me a try! lol I think Im a friendly looking person, I smile at people and excuse myself, say sorry if Im in the way. Just the other day at the grocery store, the woman looked at me, all frowned up and had her kid running around in the isle so I couldnt get past, I was litarlly standing there waiting for her to get her kid, never happened. Then when I finally said something, and very nicely I mind you, she grunted and huffed and grabbed her kid so hard by thr arm that I thought she might yank it out of the socket! So I agree, so many people see life half empty and not half full, and in return take it out on complete strangers, or even the ones they love!
• United States
15 Dec 06
lol... sorry about that! I'll check your discussion out and reply.. deal?
@lokesh61 (551)
• India
15 Dec 06
i think this is the easiest way to see what a person is all about what i mean is that a bitter person has certainly have so much poison in himself that in order to disimbibe it he start talking bitterly to others ,i was so happy when u told about urself, u lead a perfect example that how a life should be lead one should be always thankful 2 GOD what he has given u , a perfect example in my case when i didnt got addmission in engg. college i thought that GOD was unfair with me but it was later i realized when my college did so well at national level & improved its status.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
perfect word for it.. poison!
• India
15 Dec 06
people need to take like positively.People think that they have all teh troubles in thier life. If they analyze their life properly they would notice that the difficulty in thier life was caused by themselves where they would have overlooked a certain aspect in that situation which would cause a problem in the later stages. One of the solution would be that when you start anything new in life be careful and review the events at the end of day and if you notice anything at all odd however minor it might be come up with a solution or be prepared for it adn you will quit complainign about life
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• United States
15 Dec 06
I always try to look beyond my own life and realize that while I may not have the biggest, the best, and so on... at least I have. Some are out there, even nearby in my own community, that don't have. And those people can look beyond our community and see many others who have worse. I guess I always remind myself, others are out there much worse off!
@10190190 (36)
• United States
15 Dec 06
what i lost during a commute - because i wanted money more than free time and happiness i commuted farther than wantinting which helped cause my accidneet..dont worry i walked away
Bitterness, can be anything, from a bad day to a bad week. even something that has gone wrong in their lives. At a community college in my town the administsration os bitter towards every student, when i asked about it i get the hush hush. i got a friend whos a teacher to talk to sdome about it and he said that they are bitter because oll of these young kids are going on after this place to find bettter payin jobs then me ...yeah so eviddently to these people money matters most.. i can tell you from experience money is not all in this world, it may help and be needed for bills but enjoying life is much more worthwhile than a few $$...ima full-time enginneer looking to downgrade o a part-time job to enjoy life (more free-time)..i also drive 3 hrs a day commute...so for me i want to enjoylife more...thats what its about to me.. ive lost alot for th commute...see car!!
• United States
15 Dec 06
luckily the car is all you lost... your life is still in tact! I'm glad you have seen the light to realize what life is worth!!!!
@suedarr (2382)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
I am pretty similar to the way you describe yourself. For me it's an age thing though. The older I get the more I appreciate the good stuff and learn to let go of the negativity. Life is too short as they say. Cheers!
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• United States
15 Dec 06
Ahhh.. but some people age and get nasty! I've always wondered about that too... why they age and get meaner and meaner! lol I'm glad you're going in the happier direction! Me too!
@beckyomg1 (6759)
• United States
15 Dec 06
i dont know why some people are more bitter than others. i know that i dont have much but i am happy to have my family and the ones that i love, my hubby however can be very bitter towards people at sometimes. i really cant understand why.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
some of my fondest memories were times when we had very little material things.. but so many other ways of happiness!
• United States
15 Dec 06
I think the bitter people in the world feel as though they have been dealt a bad hand. they were probably raised by bitter parents,and i bet if you could see their circle of friends you would find that they are probably bitter too.They surround themselves with bitterness because thats where they are comfortable. They could be happy and optomistic but that would mean they would have to change their beliefs,their way of thinking,and their perception of how every single event that happens in life effects them. You on the other hand are probably just naturally a happy person.And I bet your circle of friends are the same way.Dont question it,enjoy it.Its a blessing!!
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• United States
15 Dec 06
Thanks.. and I do see some truth in the bitter being raised by the bitter parents. Never thought about it before!
@JoeyCa (1810)
• Belgium
15 Dec 06
it's just the nature of men I guess :-)) xxx
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• United States
15 Dec 06
lmao.... ur too much!
@Thoroughrob (11750)
• United States
15 Dec 06
Sometimes I think life deals a person so many bad things that they can't get past them. They can't see past the bad. It turns them bitter and nasty because they are afraid to let their guard down to love and care again. Araid of being hurt. If they don't care or love, they cannot be hurt. They have built a wall and it is sad. They are missing so much.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
So very true.
@ThulsZ (784)
• India
15 Dec 06
this is my reflection - .. this is my reflection
you people who feel bitter with your life..should have to learn from me to love your life..i born with many problems,that no one is ready to hear about it.i weighed just 1 kg when i born and i don't have both hands and legs ..but i'm better for those who don't have brain from their birth.who believes that this was posted by a guy with no hands but not thinking how can he type this without a voice recognizing device....but i was blessed with a too much of lying capacity..this s how i lead my life when i was in problem..
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• United States
15 Dec 06
And yet you know how to enjoy what you've been given! THAT is what I want to see from the world... no more hatred and bitterness! Your hardships have been overcome by your desire!
@amitavesh (180)
• India
15 Dec 06
evryone has its own nature and views so u cann't compare or judge avery people..some are bitter becoz some think that they gud,lovable and nice..if everybody will be bitter then no body will be lovable
• United States
15 Dec 06
Viva la Difference - viva
I guess.... viva la difference'!
• Ireland
15 Dec 06
I too have had many hardships in life as have members of my family. However, we cannot sit back and take what is dealt out to us, we need to pick ouselves up and start putting our lives in order. I reckon that some peolple just to not have the strenght and courage to deal with their problems and so they are constantly on a downward trend.
• United States
15 Dec 06
When life hands you lemons... - make lemonade!
AS they say... when life hands you lemons... make lemonade!!! lol
@budsr03 (2355)
• Canada
15 Dec 06
I believe hardships in life will make a person more appreciative of what they have or what they get in life. You truly count your blessings and I also believe you don't take anything for granted. Bitter people probably a lot of them think the world owes them goodies or blame something or someone else for their misgivings. Although I suffer from clinical depression I can still manage to count my blessings on most days. Merry Christmas Hockeygal4 ever.
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• United States
15 Dec 06
Thanks so much! And Merry Christmas to you!!! I hope you have a year filled with happiness in 2007!