My husbands family...

United States
December 16, 2006 5:32pm CST
I can't even stand the sight of his parents and stepparents right now. I feel so bad about my hubby. I started a disscussion about being depressed about Christmas. Now my hubby is doing better about Christmas between us but its getting harder for him with his family. Things got worse last Monday when we found out his aunt passed away due to cancer. I was meeting my husband after he got off of work because i was shooting pool. His step mother was there for 2 hours while I was there never said hi or anything When my hubby got there he went to her first and i was in the middle of a match. I sent the bartender over to mess with him. When he finally made it my way he told me about his aunt. He kbnew before he got there, they called him at work. He was under the impression that since she was there so long that she had told me. Didn't she think I deserved to know. She knew I was there most of the time. Since then noone has called to see how my husbands doing. They only call him to tell him bad news.Never to check on there grandkids. He has had absolutely no contact with his mother in a year or so. She has never even seen her grandson and she lives 20 minites away. His grandparents are great but hes lost contact with them also. I tried to get him to call his grandpa today for his birthday but all he said was they don't want to talk to me anyway. I don't understand why his family treats him like crap. He is a great guy and has the best heart in the world. Hes a great daddy and hubby. And was a good son to them. Why are some parents so self absorbed. From what ive seen its almost like when he turned 18 he was on his own they did there job so be it. They are definatly a frustrating bunch, I just don't know what to do? Me and my husband take 2 steps forward and they take him back 3 steps.`
3 responses
• United States
28 Dec 06
So sorry to hear about your frustrations with his family. Such an unfortunate circumstance. I wish I had some earth shattering advice that no one has ever told you before, but I don't think I do. All I can say is to continue be supportive to your spouse. By the way, how did your Christmas go, hun? Let us know the results.
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• United States
30 Dec 06
Christmas went better than I thought it would. I know there isn't miricle words but thanks for tring to think of some. Happy New Year!
@wmg2006 (5386)
• United States
20 Dec 06
I can not imagine a family treating one of their own like this. He must have done something to them to make them feel this way. I could see it if it was only one parent, but for it to be both something else is going on. Maybe he has not told you what has happened. Maybe he went against their wishes on something and they are holding a grudge. I say let them be and concentrate on what the two of you have. You and your children are now his family. They are just his extended family. All families have to adjust when their child gets married. Time heals all wounds. Merry christmas and Happy New Year to you and your immediate family.
• United States
30 Dec 06
Actually no, it is them. They got divorced my hubbys junior year of high school. His mom hooked up with some overweight abusing alcohoilc guy. And his dad married a woman who has an attitude from hell and is always right.But it is getting better for the time being.Thank you hope you had a wounderful Christmas.
@gabs8513 (48821)
• United Kingdom
16 Dec 06
I am so sorry to hear this and all I can say is just leave them to themselves because it does sound like they think they have done their jobs Parents like that make me angry really angry Kids are for Life not just till they are 18 but I think in this situation concentrate on yourselfs as a Family I hope you still have a nice Christmas
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• United States
17 Dec 06
Thank you. Were going to try and have a great Christmas. Iwish you a good Christmas also.