Child Abuse

Singapore
September 22, 2006 1:10pm CST
what do you think is the cause for the rise in the number of children being abuse?
5 responses
@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
19 Oct 06
I don't think that child abuse is necessarily on the rise but it is certainly more widely reported these days. The increase in population has to be taken into account and although there are more people in the world, the actual % of children abused isn't any higher than it was in the past. The actual number of abused children has increased but if you notice a lot of cases now coming before the courts are from many many years ago but it is only now that these adults are reporting what happened to them when they were chilren. I have no time for anyone who abused, either mentally or physically, anyone whether the victim is a child or an adult. I just wish that the courts took a more serious look at the situation and dealt out harsher punishment to the criminals who do this sort of thing.
• Singapore
19 Oct 06
Maybe you do have a point that more cases are being brought to light. In Singapore, there is a definite increase, sad to say, it may be due to more cases being reported. I have had the opportunity to work with abuse children - the saddest thing is the fact that many of the perpetrators are people close to the helpless victims. Like you, I certainly wish that harsher punishment will be mete out for the perpetrators so that other children/ adults can be spared being abused.
@ossie16d (11827)
• Australia
19 Oct 06
One of the things was that when I was young we were always 'taught' about what was then called "stranger danger" and told 'don't take lollies/candies/sweets from strange men'. Instead children should have been told that nobody has the right to touch them in certain places no matter who the person was. This is what we used to tell to our son when he was younger because it was rarely a case of 'stranger danger' but more often than not 'family/friend danger' which is just what you are saying.
• Singapore
21 Oct 06
That's what I tell the children I worked with too....
@sbeauty (5870)
• United States
22 Oct 06
Parenting is a very difficult job if you do it "right". Now that parents have so many other stresses in their lives, some of the strain shows up in their treatment of their children. Let's face it, children are cute, but they are also demanding and annoying sometimes. I would never abuse a child, and I certainly don't condone anyone else doing it. I'm just saying that life is difficult for everyone now. If you find yourself in the position of taking your frustrations on your children, please go out and get some help coping.
• Singapore
22 Oct 06
You are right - parenting is no easy task and children can be real monsters at time. Still that does not give anyone the reason to take it out on the helpless children. Parents who cannot cope should seek professional help.
@borg_queen (2535)
• Philippines
22 Oct 06
Adults being frustrated with their lives and/or them being abused when they were children. Now the cycle repeats itself.
• Singapore
22 Oct 06
It is so true. I used to run camp for abused children and one of the rules we had was we do not use volunteers who were once victims of abuse. Adults who were victims of abuse tend to become perpetrators - not all but high possibility.
21 Oct 06
I think it is because of the Me generation. Everybody is so concerned about themselves, and not about their children. Do not get me wrong, because I think that people should be a little bit selfish when it comes to their personal needs, but they should put their children first...
• Singapore
22 Oct 06
Perhaps it's the price to pay for urban lifestyle. In the earlier days when women don't work but are home makers, things were much better then....
• United States
21 Oct 06
I believe a small % of parents are careing less about there children and more about themself. I personal believe that the raise in single parents have a lot to do with it. The single parents are more concern about finding there daily lives. Alot of the abuse is coming from moms boyfriend, or a care giver. When I was growing up most every one I knew had a stay at home mom. Now don't get me wrong I do believe that there are alot of good single parents out there that do put there child/ren first. This is not fact just my opinion.
• Singapore
22 Oct 06
Sad to say, there are parents who are not ready for their role and it's the innocent children who suffer. And yes it's true that non all single parents are bad, there are the ones who cope well and are able to raise healthy children too.