Spice things up in an old relationship - HELP!

@SimplyJo (1694)
India
December 18, 2006 11:29am CST
Friends, i'm the kinda girl who hasn't ever stuck to a guy for like ... more than 3 months! this time, when i'm 100% sure i've found 'the one'... and it's been over 1 yr.. i feel our relationship is old already. so, what do u suggest - how to spice things up w/t my guy ? My question for Guys on Mylot - tell me what would you want your gf to do for you so you feel special, loved and... ofcourse what would add that extra 'spice' to your relationship? My question for Girls on Mylot - Have you ever tried anything to spice up your relationship? what was it and did it work ? Pls share.
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@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
18 Dec 06
always find time to give your boyfriend sweet cards. you don't need to give him cards only when there are occasions. i do this to my boyfriend and even send him letters. and he loves it so much. i do look for nice little stuffs for him,too like bracelets and figurines. i always keep photos of us together and do a scrapbook about us. you can do a lot of things. be there for him. hold him. listen. most men want to be heard.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
19 Dec 06
thats great stuff. thanks for sharing.. i do buy his gifts and give him cards every once in a while.. but u r right .. shud do it more often..
@drumm1n (499)
• India
19 Dec 06
well if you mean spice things up in the bed room! then id suggest you try somthing new! that helps! you know go crazy! like make out in public! you know somthin stupid! thatl get the adrenalin runnin! you could also try role play!:P another thing that works is stay apart for a few weeks and when you meet itl b like meetin for the first time!:P
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@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
20 Dec 06
yes we've tried stuff in public. that IS good fun.
@micheller (1365)
• United States
18 Dec 06
well if you really love this person you will not feel like the relationship is old. you may feel that it needs some improvement. and there are many ways to improve your relationship. if you really think he is the one and you want to stay with him but feel lost in the relationship, you and him should go to a counselor to help your relationship.
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• United States
19 Dec 06
i also agree it shouldnt get old but you should try new things to spice it up, but if you do love him then it will never get old maybe boring at times so thats why u try the new things,
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@spcbrass (1190)
• United States
19 Dec 06
I have been in multiple replationships over two years each. The girl I am with not it has been close to three years. For us we have similar interests in everything. We both like action movies, we both like to watch football, we both play video games, we shop at the same kinds of stores, and we both play music. For us we never have to spice things up a bit because we always have a good time around one another. Even now I have lived with her for three months and things are just as good if not better then the day I moved in here. Find your interests that are the same and have fun doing those together. Or see if there are things that he enjoys that you can get interested in as well.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
20 Dec 06
oh we do have some common interests like watching tv,listening to music, going out... umm.. we do that often. maybe we shud discover 'new' interests :)
@jeffaim (215)
• United States
18 Dec 06
Making him feel important and special is the most important thing - guys care a lot less about things like new sexy lingerie and "adding spice" than girls usually think...many of us are very happy with things the way that they are, and our biggest concern is often that our lady thinks that things are getting in a rut, when we've been so excited that things have been going so well. Love isn't always about keeping things new and/or exciting, it can be about being very happy with the person that you love and having the safety and security of not having to worry if your partner "REALLY" loves you and accepts you for who you are.
@SimplyJo (1694)
• India
20 Dec 06
hey thats a great insight into a guys mind.. so basically its just like us,girls :) i am very happy and content with my relationship.. i just thot it'd be nice to do something special for my guy thats all ! :)
• India
19 Dec 06
yaa i mean u can...... guys like gurls who are more intimate in these matters..... generally they are..... but the initiative sholuld be from them....... they like it that way....... let him start and once he starts u can do whatever you want....
@MrsFrizzle (1963)
• United States
19 Dec 06
If you are over 18 you could have a slumber party. It is a party for women where a women will come out and sell toys and other things to spice the realtionship up with.
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
though the relationship is old, you can still add spice to it. enjoy each others company. go to places you have never been to or go back to places where you went to and recall all your happy moments together. give him surprises. little surprises with effort is very touching. make things for him, like cooking a food and bring it to his place.
@leilani47 (780)
• United States
19 Dec 06
Hi! I've been married for 5 years, and you're not alone feeling the way you do. Relationships do get "old" and the need for "spice" is needed. When I feel like our relationship needs "spice" I would write him a love letter reminding him how much he means to me, write about all the good time we've had.. kinda "rehash" good memories ..
@pavan_sry (264)
• India
19 Dec 06
stay way for little time n i suggest u not 2 b together always
@rms2727 (815)
• India
19 Dec 06
as relationships grow old girls tend to be overpossesive, thats one thing i hate. also they turn more grandma types which can be very bugging.
@hazydazy (783)
• United States
19 Dec 06
I always found a cool whip dress spiced things up a bit.
• Philippines
19 Dec 06
there are a bunch of things. i mean a lot of things you can do to spice up your relationship. dont feel bad for the length of time. three months is way tooooo short. its too early to get bored. you just have to do some things that are quite surprising. something unusual. i can give you some suggestions: 1. Cuddle 2. Talk 3. Sleeping next to each other. 4. Long Walks Top 3 Locations: Beach By Moonlight By Sunset 5. Kissing 6. Wrestling 7. Looking into each other's eyes. 8. Just be with them. 9. Make love. 10. Watch romantic movies. Either at home or at the movies. 11. Have a romantic dinner. 12. Laugh together 13. Relax 14. Lie in bed and talk. 15. Do something new. 16. Feed each other. 17. Watch T.V. and cuddle. 18. Spend time at the park. 19. Look at the stars. 20. Have an all day date.
• India
19 Dec 06
i would luv my gf to be caring... taking care of my small-small things who could understand me better and would share her problems with me and making me feel that i'm still there and she is close to me (my heart) and u cud plan for a future with him... :)
@xtinelee (3371)
• Singapore
19 Dec 06
Well, I've been with my boyfriend for more than 2 years, and sometimes, we don't really see the need to spice up anything, because we are more than comfortable with each other. I rather just spend my time with him, even though it's doing the same old things, cos I never get bored of it! :)
@julier (66)
• China
19 Dec 06
yes, someone said that a true love can only stick to 3 months. and then it will return to relative. to be a relative i think some time you will bore of my parents and your sister and your brother, but they are still your relative. change yourself and your life and making progress can all spice up your relation. because It is base on solid foundation.
@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
19 Dec 06
all new things are good. if it´s possible take atrip somewhere, live in a hotel for a few nights and just enjoy the fact of beeing totally free. there is nothing like it =) Me and my bf tries to go away atleast once ina while and whe we come back from it we have new powers and new love =) I also recomend taking hot baths together, after eating a nice dinner with candles. maybe try some extra stuff in the bedroom if u are having S*x that is! I also think that it is important for both to still haev seperate lives and still have friends that u go out with alone - and just gety away from eachother for an hour or two doing something fun with someone else!
• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
try doing new things it will spice up;)
• Pakistan
19 Dec 06
well try doing some new things and it will spice up;)
@jithinsb (518)
• India
19 Dec 06
Jo Its now 4 YEARS since im in a relationship..n even now i just cant do without her..from the first day itself my love 4 her jst kept on increasing n im not joking...and i dont think there shud really be anyhting to actually SPICE your relation...and according to me i feel ,JUST TRUE LOVE will do..s ,there may be quarrels,fights etc between u,,but still if ur love is true...those will only multiply your love..