My brother has a mixed daughter should the parents stay out of it?

If I were your brother, I would go down to family services and get a free or cheap lawyer and take the mother to court for visitation. That way the grandmother cannot keep him from seeing his child. I can't believe they don't want him involved - regardless of his race. There are so many "fathers" who don't want to be involved. I think they should welcome him with open arms since he wants to be there for his child.

The grandmother needs to stay out of it. She has no right to keep the baby from your brother. He needs to go to court and fight for his visitation rights. Your niece's mother needs to stand up to her own mother.

Why should all suffer just cuz of the mother's family i mean there has to be some reason they arent togather Yes prolly they should seek the law i mean the man has every right to see his child!

So its been established that your brother has already gone to court for this and has legal visitation....so i wont go there....I think its time for the mum (April I think you said her name was) to step up and tell granny to butt the hell out! Granny doesnt have to see your brother, he's not there to entertain her he's there to be a daddy to his baby girl so granny needs to p!ss off and its Aprils job to tell her so!! if that doesnt work your brother AND April need to go to court together and get some kind of order against the granny....April NEEDS TO side with your brother and help him out with this...He's a young guy who is stepping up and beign a man, she needs to back him 100%

Your brother should take her to court for visitation. If the mom is not speaking up why not? The grandmother should stay out of it.

First, I am not sure that race has anything to do with this situation...it seems that the grandmother simply does not like your brother. If it is because of race, then you would think that she would not want the granddaughter around either. But to answer your question, I think your brother should discuss this matter with the mother of his child first. Does the mother agree that the grandmother is interfering with his ability to be a father to his daughter? If so, she should step up and tell her mother to knock it off. If that does not work, I would advise your brother to get legal visitation guidleines put in place that if the grandmother violates can be taken to court.

I would ask that the grandmother allow her granddaughter her right to know her father. if he is paying child support then she is overstepping her boundaries. does he get along with the baby mommy?

this problem doesnt only occure with mix race children. your brother can have it fixed so that the childs grandmother is not allowed to see the child(i do not condown this but if nessary) it could be fixed like that for a short time so that the grandmother may (if your lucky) start to get the picture. living in seperate houses is bad enough, having a family member making trouble can harm the child mentally. Black white green or purple no child should be keep from a loving parent.

you say 'mixed baby' with a white woman yet you dont say what the baby is mixed with black brown red yeloow should i go on?

I was in a simular situation as your brother, except for fact that I got along quite well with the maternal grandparents, and I did marry my daughters mother a few months before my daughter was born. After we divorced my ex asked me for permission to move from NJ to CO, I said yes, knowing that mere miles would not keep me out of my daughter's life and if I said no it would be the beginning of a unpleasent relationship with my daughter in the middle. I think that my ex thought that the miles would be enough for me to fade out of my daughter's life, because once when retuning my daughter to her mother (who was living in Oregon at that point)after having her for a few weeks one summer, my daughter who was about 4yo at the time, started to cry and said "Anyway I'll probably never see you again". She is now 32yo and as I always have, I see her and now my grandson for about a week every two months. My ex and my current wife are good friends, we even stay with my ex and her family sometimes when we travel to "Georgia" to see my daughter. I love my daughter so much that I has always been important to me that she grow up without ever having any doubt about it. To your brother I say that, let nothing get in the way of being the best father he can be. The sooner he makes that abundantly clear to anyone who tries to interfere with his relationship with his daughter, the sooner he can get down to the business of giving his daughter as much of himself as he can.

I'd say beat the crap out of granny.. hehe :D

I would do the same thing as I would do rather the child is of a mixed race or not. I don't see how that is part of the equation, unless you're only mentioning it as the reason the child's maternal grandmother won't allow your brother to see your niece. Which is a shame on her part. But, what would I do? I would just continue to be the best father that I could and insist on my visitation. I know your brother is young, but is he able to help with the baby financially? If not, then that may cause some friction with the grandmother. If it gets out of hand, he may have to file a complaint that his visitation is not being honored. Does the Mother have full custody with your brother having only visitation? The judges around here almost always want joint custody with the Mother having primary "physical" custody, unless the parents agree on something else. How about the rest of your family? Do you all get to see the child? Just things to consider....

Somehow I feel that its not such I good idea to involve court, cops and lawyers in this situation.If the parents agree that your brother has equal rights to be with his child then they should be able to work it out...Like the mom and the kid can go out shopping together and your brother can meet up with them at the mall or the park or any other convenient place.. Lets not forget that the grandmothers influence on the kid regarding the colour of the skin can hamper the kids progree..She may grow up in the paradox that white is might and that her dad is not white...The kid should be the primary concern for everybody involved..

I think the real problem is the relation between your nieces mother and the grandmother!!! it should be discussed between them. By the way, I don't think that it would be a problem of races, it can happen in any family...

That is absolutely pathetic. If the family can't stay out of it, your brother should do something. Mixed race makes no difference anymore. A daughter is a daughter.

I absolutely hate it when i hear stories such as this, as it is always the child that is affected the most. I think it is up to the niece to speak to her family and tell them how it should and will be from now on, if I were you I wouldn't say anything to her mother, but instead talk to her about it so that she can decide what she wants to do, as you don't want to make it worse and have her family hate you too. Good Luck

The grandmother needs to know her place. Your brother has rights to HIS child and should see her without it being a hassel. What is that grandmother teaching this child. He should really see a lawyer to see what can be done. Most lawyer give you the first consultaion free that way he can at least know what he is dealing with. I wish your brother all the luck in the world in seeing his daughter. Oh and btw she is sooooooooooooo adorable.

I'm not sure that I understand the whole situation. Is your brother still with the mother of the child? If they're together why aren't they making plans to get married so that the mother can leave the grandmother's home. I think that all need to consider the child's best interest, which would be to spend time with both of her parents.

I agree that your brother needs to take up custody issues with family services, and probably will have to go to court. Unfortunately, this will take time, but he needs to document every conversation and obstruction that he encounters, and stay current on his child support, and pay by check or money order; something he will have proof of. And yes, as a parent, I would advise him and help him find a decent lawyer. Unfortunately, the laws in this country do not favor men.

well i think so because...its her daughter, he still loves her and all doesnt he? he has no problems with your sister in law/his girlfriend right? they still love each other. i say they should get a place on there own, so your brother can see his daughter everyday, without having to worry about his wife/girlfriend's family.