A Wedding Or Elope?

United States
December 18, 2006 2:45pm CST
What would you rather do? Sometimes I dream about the nice, formal wedding. All the flowers and the dress and fanfare. Then sometimes I just want to run off to Las Vegas and get married by Elvis!
8 responses
• United States
11 Jul 08
My spouse and I eloped to Las Vegas. However, my parents and sisters knew that we were going to get hitched there (they didn't even mind) but my in-laws didn't. I guess you could say we "halved- eloped" LOL My in-laws were disappointed because they didn't attend our wedding. Oh well they had to get over it anyway LOL. We are not into big weddings and not sentimental people, so we just got it over with and had a simple civil ceremony at the office of the Clark County Commissioner of Civil Marriages. We took a female witness off the street who was inquiring on how to get married there. She was even embarrassed because she was dressed in sweats and her hair wasn't done but she found our ceremony to be poignant and she even shed some tears. Awwwww. We had a great time in Vegas. We even saw a drive thru wedding chapel on the strip LOL and saw a couple getting married on there. We contemplated on the drive thru wedding chapel but it felt weird getting married there. I like Las Vegas because you can get married the same day you get your marriage license and there are no blood tests or waiting periods. So flying over there was exciting and worth it.
• United States
11 Jul 08
And plus we are not religious folks and we couldn't afford to have a big wedding anyway and didn't want to have any friends or family present and wanted to avoid the headaches. Especially for my in-laws if we invited some for the wedding, we might as well invite the rest of the family because they would get jealous, so that's what we wanted to avoid too. I even got my wedding dress at Burlington Coat Factory and I returned it after I was done wearing it :P. It was a nice outfit too.
• United States
25 Apr 07
I'd rather have a wedding, even if it's just a small one because that means I get to share that day with others. A wedding is supposed to be a joyous event, not something that's shared between only you and your partner. I want mine to be special and I want those that matter most to me there.
@jdeforge (224)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I tend to disagree. A wedding is supposed to be a joyous event yes, but it IS something that should only be for you and your partner. I think weddings have turned more into for everyone else and less about the actual couple.
@myahw20 (1116)
• Canada
14 Jul 08
I think I still want the formal wedding although eloping is one cute sweet idea too but should only be done if emotionally and financially ready hehe..
@gelotan (107)
• Philippines
11 Jul 08
Go for the solemn wedding ceremony...It will be more memorable if there are many flowers inside the Church, with a choir, and together with your family and friends witnessing your greatest moment...Thats Romantic anyway...
@fxcash (105)
• Canada
11 Jul 08
Eloping would most definitely be the easiest and cheapest route to take, the full blown wedding these days costs so much that very few young couples starting their lives together can even consider paying that kind of money for their special day, so eloping would be the best way to save money and still have a great time, especially in Vegas, lol.
@phoenix25 (1543)
• United States
10 Jul 08
Well, I kind of eloped. We had a friend marry us in our apartment. I really didn't ever see myself having a big, formal wedding. I don't do white anyway, so the dress would have been a huge problem to begin with. Also my husband can't handle large crowds. If we had started inviting family members, it would have turned into a 300 guest wedding, which is not what either of us would have wanted. I've seen my husband when his sociophobia starts to kick in in a crowd and I did not want my husband to look like he was about to hurl during the whole ceremony and reception. Anyway, I was happy with the way we did it. We didn't make a big deal out of it. We don't even have pictures from that day. I don't really care. I'm not that sentimental. I remember it in my mind and that is enough for me. I do have pictures of our celebration party that we had on our first anniversary. Some people just put so much emphasis on the wedding that they don't focus on the relationship and making the marriage work. I think that's a lot of the reason that people end up divorced.
@shlooper (310)
• United States
10 Jul 08
I really want to do something in between. I want a very small wedding probably at a courthouse. Then, I want to have a reception that my family and friends can come and be excited and celebrate. I want the ceremony to be for me, and the after-party to be for them.
• United States
18 Dec 06
i would rather elope