single parent to be?

First of all, take a deep breath. Secondly, you cannot make a horse drink water. Which means if he doesn't want to go into this situation, he won't. You cannot make a man a Dad. Any man can be a father, it takes a real man to be a dad. The only thing you have right now is time. Maybe he'll change his mind when she is born, who knows... All I know is girl be prepared to do this on your own. Do not set high expectations. If he left, there is a reason he left. Maybe hes scared he won't be a good daddy..Woh knows what his rationale is. All I know is, if he doesn't change once she's born, he will never change. My best piece of advice is, if you can handle being a single parent, great kewl all the power to you, i've been there. If not, then maybe find some support in your local area. Do be strong about this.

you should go for abortion, not because of you,but for baby without her dad think how she without her dad , think on it and go for abortion, forget everything go for ur mind opnion for this child

I am so sorry the babies father has left. It is normal to be scared and confused in your situation. Do you have family to help you? I agree that child support should be paid and it would be wise for you to obtain this. I am also a firm believer that every child needs to know his father. How old is the babies father? Sometimes guys are just too young to face the responsibility that comes with raising a child. Maybe once the baby is born, he will feel better about things. I really hope everything works out for you all.

Good to hear you feel that way about the baby. He could still be in shock. It is way too early to push the child support button yet. It is common for new mums to have mixed emotions you have extra hormones in your body. I don't know the laws over there in India whether someone can just terminate the parental rights. For the time being just concentrate on that precious little life growing inside you.

ya give him a advice as a friend not like a mother if u r a mother give the advice like a friend r u understand my advice to your friend

stop trying to convince him of all the good things, let him be and be happy about your baby girl (although it could be a boy ;) if you're in the US I don't think they will let him sign over his rights without another father being there to step in and take that role. how are you paying for medical bills? if your on medicaid once you have the child they can start a child support order for you.

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wow, you must be terrified!!! Maybe give him some timeout to take this in, as its alot to digest, especially if ur little bubs wasn't planned. Maybe ring him in a few weeks, to see if he wants to be part of bubs life.Whatever does happen, i wish you the best of luck through your travels of motherhood.

Be strong and god will make a way I was a single parent when I was 19 my boyfriend got shot I also had family to help me . You didn;t say if he wanted children or not ,if he has other children,did he want you to abort? If he really doesn't want the baby get child support and raise the baby to the best of your ability many women do it and have raised children to be strong human beings have a little faith in yourself. god bless I will pray for you.

I'm sorry you're in that situation. I wouldn't try to do anything. Take it from experience you CAN'T force anyone to do something they don't want to do. I was terrified when my husband left me with my 2 week old baby. You don't think you can make it until you are put into the situation and you have to survive. Stay strong for your little girl. I would suggest taking him to court after the baby is born to get child support ordered. He might not want to be part of the childs life, but he does need to take responsibility. Good luck!

just chill help is alway around u have to look 4 it tht it

Now you should be very very strong and should not lose hope .trust me i have seen single parent look aftering their child and they have been successfull in making thier child a complete person.

go ahead its ur life

I am in the same situation as you...I am 22, have a 2 month old and the father is no where around. Its sad because we were going to get married and move to Alaska (he was in the military) but he went AWOL. You cannot make him do anything he does not want to do. If he's around your age, he may be afraid thats why he's vanished and hopefully he'll resurface and be a man to be in his child's life. You have to be strong know that you are capable of doing anything you put your mind to. There may be times where you are overwhelmed but this to shall pass. God does not hand us anything we cannot handle! I have yet to put my baby daddy on child support because he's now incarcerated and I'm providing for my child working at home and going to school...I don't need his money. If you want to put him on child support that is entirely up to you!

1st thing is being a single parent is not completely bad, however you cant force ur bf to get back to u and u dont have to be afraid to raise ur daughter without him, i'm sure u hv a friends and family that will always stand by u.but if u still want to try then you got to convince him to meet u 1st.then u asked him why he left u, sometimes man should see the baby after she born to realize how beautiful the baby is and its his.but 1 thing to keep in ur mind, no matter what the result is with the father u got to be strong for the baby coz i'm sure u can

Your boyfriend may just be in shock, especially if the pregnancy wasn't planned. Just do as much as you can for yourself and your child. (It may take him awhile to come around) If you are able to qualify, go for wic, foodstamps and if you really need it, there are churches that will help you with rent, electric and water.

ITS SO DISGUESTING HOW COULD U DO THAT

You're too young to be a mother but sometimes it's good to have children at young age. Talk with the father of the child. Do you love each other? This is a very important factor to have a united family. If he doesn't love you truly, better cut off the relationship with him but get the support if possible. If he refuses, do everything to face all the consequences which are really hard but learn how to deal with them. Never have an abortion. Things will eventually get better. May God bless you.

Maybe this is one of God arrangement. I believe God will give the way for u to settle ur problem. You just need pray :) Wish all the best for u. :)

hi, you should just go up to your boyfriend in a non agressive manner. just tell him that you need him to be there for the baby because at some point the baby is going to need a father figure in her life. if you truly are doing this for the sake of your boyfriend just being there, you should be able to tell him that he really doesn't need to do anything but be there when it matters. just be honest and good natured. so hopefully, this advice helps you. good luck to your pregnancy.