What kind of women can win love from her husband?

 husband and wife - what's wrong with them?
China
December 19, 2006 8:24am CST
My female friends always complain their husband not to love them for ignoring wives’ need and feeling. They are not satisfied with their husbands, even want to give up the marriage, because they gain less from the marriage after devoting so much to the family. That's true, my female friends are very outstanding both in their career and family, and they think they are worthy of their husbands' love. I wonder why so good wife can't win love from her husband?
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@sbeauty (5871)
• United States
19 Dec 06
Maybe these women are expecting something which they construe as love but their husband's do not. My husband loves me to pieces, but he's never had a clue what it would really take to make me happy. He's always preferred to give me what he thinks is nice as opposed to what I would like. I appreciate that he tries. I think men are just made that way, because I've heard other women complain of similar experiences. The only woman I know who has a husband makes an effort to meet her needs and feelings is a friend who has a husband that is so over-possessive that he would strangle me.
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• China
21 Dec 06
I think your comment is a good experience, Perhaps it's a key to the question. Thank you.
• Singapore
19 Dec 06
sometimes it takes two to tango...maybe you should ask your friend to stop complaining for a moment and try to recollect their moments with their husbands....are they still 'romancing' their partner? or is there nagging, nagging and always nagging? or that nothing their husband do can every make them happy...well...sometimes, you will have to let the partner happy by giving the compliments and letting them know that they are always the best!
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• China
19 Dec 06
thank you for your advice. Knowing love and compliments is much better than complaint.
• United States
20 Dec 06
I dont' believe in marriage. I think marriage as an institution should be banned. We have the highest divorce rates on the planet.
• India
20 Dec 06
a woman has to be understandin and she shud take part in her husbands problem and she shud be a solution to her husbands problem and she shud not b a problem
@isha900 (1460)
• India
20 Dec 06
yes this is right way
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@raven02 (28)
• United States
20 Dec 06
i have the same problem. i just do not feel love from him any more. i thought that i was the only one that had that probem.
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• China
21 Dec 06
I hope these comments will help you a lot, at least get some relief from it, and try to change it. Good Luck!
• Canada
19 Dec 06
I'm assuming their husbands loved them when they first married, and this is something that has changed over time. Is this correct? One of the previous commenters might be right - the husbands might feel intimidated or overshadowed by their dynamic wives. If this is the case, it means the problem lies within the husband, not the wife, and only the husband can change that. There is nothing the wife can do, short of stunting her own emotional fulfilment, that would make the husband feel better. The change must come from the husband. I feel for your friends. It can not be easy to lose the love or at least the feelings of love from your partner. Please tell them to stay strong and to follow their hearts. ~Wyrdsister
• China
21 Dec 06
your comment is very unique, I think you are a thinker. Thank you.
@cheongyc (5075)
• Malaysia
19 Dec 06
I suggest your friends to calm down and re-evaluate on what their husband really wants. Different people had different preference. We should tackle the problem from the right angle, then only we could solve the problem effectively. Some men might need to be stronger from their women in carrier or financial strength. They can try to praise or help their husband out in the carrier. Try to be more obedient or hiding their really earning so that their husband are not so depressed or feel defeated. Besides, commnunication and understanding is really important to improve the relationship between husband and wife. So, understanding the situation will definitely help. Since i didn't know much detail about how bad their husband disregard their contribution, so i could give much accurate suggestion to resolve their problem.
• China
21 Dec 06
In fact, both the wife and husband don't admire and appreciate each other. Each of them thinks himself/herself is correct. So it's very hard to communicate. But they need the marriage---just like chicken's bone, not tasty for eating, but it's a pity to throw it away. Many marriages are as the same as that situation. Don't think so? I think they need allowance or tolerance.
• China
19 Dec 06
All the man need to respect and praise .She should give her husband more praise.She is very outstanding,her husband feels huge pressure,He hope his wife to understand him. so,i think a thoughtful woman can win love from her husband.
@zstone (58)
• China
20 Dec 06
All the man love the blandnessly girl, the woman can have pleasure with her husband, the woman should not laugh at her husband and encourage him.
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@phon4u (2217)
• Laos
21 Dec 06
Husband & wife - Husband & wife
To win the heart of your husband simply spend time with him. Try and find time for him to listen to him what he says about himself, his brothers and sisters and everything he wants to express in front of you. Your husband doesn't need anything else rather than your true love. And the best way to impress your husband is to remain away from love and friendship with other boys. You must stick to your husband rather than roaming about here and there in search of other boy-friends. Also take your husband to some hill stations as often as you can. This is needed because they feel irritating spending time in a home bounded by thick walls which seems to them like a prison. But if your wife ask for more and more money from you to fulfill his unwanted desires than you must not also favour him. Scolding is better in this case.
• India
20 Dec 06
understanding women
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@shemb1 (465)
• Sri Lanka
20 Dec 06
I bet that you never ever can get staright answer for this subject. Bcause I studied lots of this kind of of family and I saw lots of have like this.. Its not always anfair to wives. Sometimes it happends to husbands too. But I honestly these kind of things mostly happends to the wives. Because I think husband are think after marry their wives will ok like that ... I mean not romantic way they were in past. but wives not always like that.Because they are so gently , I believe whatever strong women have genle in their life. So they always like to care, love , pet from their husband. If they didnt do like that way they hated for the family, married, so and so.... If husbands can undestand wives as truely I am sure that kind of family be very joyful.
• Ireland
20 Dec 06
You shouldnt have to win love - it should be given freely bacause of how a person feels, not because of someone else's overwhelimg need for love.
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@kunvah (9)
• India
20 Dec 06
The thing is men are getting extremely career oriented and so the whole day, some type of thinking related to their work is always going on in their mind. As a result, they are not able to give much time to their wives, but that does not mean they do not love them. However it is also true that men should leave their work at office and devote more time to their lives, once they return home in the evening
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@shyam4uall (1003)
• India
20 Dec 06
I don't think if there is better understanding between each other..if there is some scrificing behaviour ..the hopefully both can get the love of each other.There is nothing to be done to comply each other to love..It is natural and the wife has to maintain and strengthen the pillars on which they are standing..
@j_thomas (961)
• India
20 Dec 06
any women who can't understand her husband can't sayed has good wife.she may be outstanding in her career it doesn't means she is good wife.good wifw is the one who understands her husband and speak outs her problems
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@djbtol (5501)
• United States
20 Dec 06
That's the trouble. Many women think they are worthy of much, and usually much more than they have. They consider themselves to be princesses, thus they only need to demand more for themselves. And if something is not right, then the man better fix it or he is a shmuck. Women are selfish and domineering and need a major attitude adjustment.
@rayzaq (44)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
many man need to understanding from his wife.many wife can understan it.and respect too
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@wttreg (9)
• Qatar
20 Dec 06
LOve cannot be bought or cannot be sold,it has to be won.If you feel you are on the left out end,it easier to get yourself together and get things moving for yourself and your partner,than to wait for your partner to make the first move.Ofcourse being run over everyday can be a difficult thing to handle.When things are going haywire,its better to get help,perhaps a friend or relative can give you're relationship that push.
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• Pakistan
20 Dec 06
Its just the matter how you think and how you respond to things... its not true atmost that husbands dont give wife's deservness..its just that wife consider such things as common after marriage...they require more n more each day.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
Women who are selfless. Women who love unconditionally can win love from their husbands.
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• India
20 Dec 06
wife should love even husband is not taking care of her, then he will start loving slowly
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