How Do You Manage Rejection?

@wolfie34 (26820)
United Kingdom
December 19, 2006 3:21pm CST
Do you just shrug it off, does it affect you? Do you get even with the person for rejecting you?
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• United States
19 Dec 06
I don't think rejection is that big of a deal. I suppose that sometimes it stings a little, but you just have to remember that it's a numbers game. I don't mind getting turned down my 6-8 women, if one out of ten says yes and turns out to be someone that's fun to spend time with. There are a lot people that spend too much time agnozing over rejection and get low self-esteem who cares. If I get rejected I let them know it's there loss. I like approaching women and trying to talk to them and they'll play the, "I have a boyfriend," card and I'll be like "JESUS woman. Do you really think I'm trying to pick you up before I even know anything about you. I was just looking to meet some new people. Often times they'll come back and apologize and say that don't even really have a boyfriend, they were just tired of guys trying to get in their pants. Some of the women that have rejected me have turned out to be my best friends. They give me advice on how to pick up other women and what clothes and shoes to wear out on dates. I have good taste, but it's always nice to have reassurance from a woman.
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 06
Wow what a confident guy you are! I take my hat off to you! Very positive, thank you for your response.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
Don't get me wrong, I've been plenty heartbroken over a woman I cared a lot about, but that's after over a year of being with her. My answer applies mostly to approaching women in the first place, before you really get particularly involved with them. Hope this clarifies that.
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 06
Thanks, I understand!
@patootie (3593)
20 Dec 06
Being rejected always hurts ... it's a blow to our self confidence ... I think a big lesson in life I've learned is that you cannot make someone love you however much you may love them ... if you are not also the love of their life they will break up and go their own way at some point .. We are just one person in a world of millions .. I've no idea how you are supposed to find that 'extra special' partner ... but the only way you will find them is to try new relationships until you find that 'one' person ... I've never bothered trying to get 'even' with someone for breaking up with me ... just been glad to have had that time with them .. sulked a little ... then moved on ... trying to 'get even' is a demoralising waste of energy and time
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@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
20 Dec 06
You are very very wise! Thank you for your detailed response, always appreciated.
@sunshinecup (7881)
19 Dec 06
I would first have my feelings hurt, but then I would get over it. I never made it my mission to get even with that person. But some time down the road, I always had the opportunity to do so. Sometimes I would get them, other times I just shrug it off, they weren't worthe my time.
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@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 06
I think I would take the opportunity, that sounds bad doesn't it! Thanks for your response.
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@norteh (615)
• Netherlands
19 Dec 06
It's not always rejection. There is difference of opinion, not the same view, no agreement of the situation, etc. Don't attribute things to your own person, is it's not strictly the case. So when applying for a job, get refused. Think that there was a candidate which was slightly better then you. Don't judge yourself to hard. It won't get you further.
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@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 06
I guess I'm very hard on myself, that's my trouble in life! Thanks for your response.
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@habichuelo (3104)
• United States
19 Dec 06
dude,,it hurts specially when you really fell in love whit that person....im never get even with the person,,,,,i just let it to life,,,its more powerful that anything i might do!!
@wolfie34 (26820)
• United Kingdom
19 Dec 06
Thank you for your response, appreciated.
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