Another Baby!

@Mommamea (1215)
United States
December 19, 2006 9:51pm CST
My Daughter is having another baby. She has a two year old and six month old now and is pregnant again. She was afraid to tell me and other family members thinking they would over react. Would you tell your son or daughter not to have another child? Would you tell them not again or I'm sorry to hear that? I was told that once by my mother long ago and since she has apologized and explained why she said it that way. I now understand though for many years I was heart broken by her comment. I would never tell my daughter anything like that. I did talk to her about the problems that she may have and offered support if she needed it.
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• Portugal
20 Dec 06
I´ve read almost all responses to you and people in here give you some good advices, if she has a lack of support of his husband and other family you have to stay closer to her. Sometimes after birth traumas are hard to heal so stay calm don´t be down and give you and your daughter the force that you both need, and remember it´s beautiful to be a mother and a grandmother. Go on best wishes to you, your daughter and yours grandsons.
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@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Thank you so very much. Maybe this one will be a girl and give her a different pace. I am prepared to deal even after the new little one comes.
• India
20 Dec 06
well !! i would not exactly say that she should get an abortion but i sure hope she knows the kind of responsibilities that are going o come her way in the future,raising children is not an easy task for sure and these days the cost of living is so high that i do not think parents can actually do justice to more than two children..if i had a daughter i would ask her to think about it twice,even if the second baby was a little older,it would be allright to have another one...but right now..third baby...i am not so sure.
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@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
The cost of living is getting harder but I don't think that has any bearing on having children. I myself have 4. Is it truly getting more expensive to have children these days or to raise them? Wasn't it harder in the olden days when it was harder to get a job and jobs didn't pay as much?
@milagre (1272)
• Portugal
20 Dec 06
Its the best thing to do, give support. The baby is already in this world and dont need bad thoughts about him, on the contrary, all he needs is love, as i always say, a child is a blessing from sky and need all the love we can get. Everything will be ok. By the way, congratulations for the new baby.
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@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Thank you. I myself think the same thing. God will not give us more than he knows we can handle.
@198112 (336)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Well I was in the same boat as her, I had my daughter and four months later was pregnant with my son. I know how she about being afraid to let other people know. People can be so judgemental. I hate to hear what people think sometimes espeially when they have no room to talk. As long as she is able to take care her kids along with the father and her children isn't causing the family to be burden with the expenses of taking care of them. Then I think she should just be supported and embraced. It then shouldn't matter if she have up to ten kids, just show her support. The only thing I would suggest now is that after she have this baby, for her to give her body a rest. Enough time to get its strength back. Then after two or three years she wants to have another baby then fine. I hope she have a healthy beautiful baby.
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
Thank you. I have given her support and will continue to do so. I hope she will let her body recuperate as well as her emotional state.
@Marie2473 (8519)
• Sweden
20 Dec 06
if she is ahppy about beeing pregnant then it is NOT ok to say that u are sorry or Not again - unless it is for a joke. She is grown up and she can have as many babies as she like as long as she can provide for them. I do belive that she has a great family though since you have offered her the support that she might need. to have 3 small children is not easy but with help you can do it!
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• India
20 Dec 06
definetly your are right.you know how to deal with your daughter. even i will do the same.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
Congrats to you and your family.
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• Hong Kong
20 Dec 06
wow,It's great. Every baby is an angel! Not all of the familly has many children,so don't worried about the population of the world. What should be considered is how to bring them up properly. If their finacial situation is good and if they can spare much time to stay with their kids, I think it's okay!! I think you should feel happy! After all three kids are not so many!
@baysmummy (1638)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
I think she is really lucky to have such a fantastic supportive mother, I am sure she realises that maybe they should of wait for another one but once its done she cant change it hey! I would never tell my son or daughter not to have anymore children, I wish your daughter and her husband all the luck in the world and i hope it all goes well!
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• India
20 Dec 06
Theres nothing wrong to have another child if she was interested in having and they should have the capability to maintain them.I love children very much and i never say not to have children.But we should give birth to one or two thats all because of over population on earth.
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• United States
20 Dec 06
If my children want children and they have the money to support them, than kudos to them.
@funlola (26)
• Nigeria
20 Dec 06
our body matabolism differ,and i strongly belive that it was not her fault.so all u need to do is give her all the support and luv u can give her as a mother.it is going to be very difficult 4her i can tell u da but just be there 4 her.after this baby advice her to seek profetional help on birth control,so dat this situation dosent repeat itself.morover she can now relax and take care of this 3 she has and enjoy being a mother and a wife.gd luck.
@pinklilly (3446)
• Australia
20 Dec 06
It's her decision to have another I would support her.
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• India
20 Dec 06
just support her morally.... she can have kids... if aever she has any problems in the house she can stop with the third kid.... dont let her down...you as a mother have to support her
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@umerasif (532)
• Pakistan
20 Dec 06
Well I would never tell my son not to have more kids or to have kids. I think it is something that my son or daughter should be mature enough to work out on their own. If my son or daughter is married then I am sure they would know what sort of committments they have. I will only tell them at the time of their marriage that should always keep one thing in mind when they think about kids, and that is, can they provide a safe, healthy and good life to the tiny dependant that they are thinking of bringing into this World? Other than that I will never tell them any thing at all and will always respect their decission and be supportive since I would always want them to know that they can rely on me no matter what :)
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• India
20 Dec 06
ofcourse, naturality no one can't refuses. but we have very care full to think. we know out limits. so we have to bare
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• India
20 Dec 06
i think two kids are enough for a good family,and in india population is now 100crores and i dont think of having three or four children is good for a family........................
@marrry (341)
• Romania
20 Dec 06
that is great!!!baies are so pretios for a family!!
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Why only two? Why not have any at all if the population is so bad? Do you have or want children and how many do you want if any?
• China
21 Dec 06
you should be happy because there are people that will kill just to be pregnant.my son is one year old and am pregnant again,what do you expect me to do?abort it?no way,many people have waited for years just to be pregnant alone.the best thing is to support her period.
• United States
20 Dec 06
Hey. I have a 6 year old, a 5 year old, a 3 year old, and a 10 month old. I was 17 when I had my first baby. Now I am married to the father of my kids and we are happy together. We built our own house and we are still going to college. Tell her that you are there for her. I would love if my mom said that to me. She yells at me when I get pregnant and I dont feel comfortable around her during my pregnancy.
• Ireland
20 Dec 06
I agree. I'm 22 and pregnant with my second child. Both my children were planned and I would have prefered to have them a year apart instead of the 2years that they are now going to be apart for. A negative reaction is just going to isolate you from your daughter and cause her unnecessary stress during her pregnancy. At the end of the day, it's nobody's business how many babies anyone has. As long as your daughter loves her children and is happy, there is no reason for concern. Her choice of partner is still her choice and doesn't affect the love she has for her children. There is nothing better than becoming a mother so I don't see why a large family is seen to be a bad thing...
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
20 Dec 06
Thank you. I know this will give her encouragement that she can do it as well. I will be there for her but I wish I could do more. I make her feel special when she is pregnant let alone the fact that I want to buy things for the babies as well. Some time I am overpowering in the way I treat her. Is there any such thing as being to supportive? How do I not take over being a Proud Grandmother?
• Ireland
20 Dec 06
Just don't be overbearing or tell her what to do or what's best for her or what you would do differently. Make sure that she knows you are willing to support her no matter what she does and help her feel that she can ask for help from you without feeling like she is letting herself down.
@torrent (145)
• India
20 Dec 06
baby - baby
u should support her after all u know wat motherhood is.........she needs ur good wishes.
@isha900 (1459)
• India
20 Dec 06
yes she need ur wishes
@Mommamea (1215)
• United States
27 Dec 06
I will continue to do so thank you for your response.
• India
20 Dec 06
any ways now a days it is very rare that people go for their 3rd baby but as your daughter is already pregnent and ofcourse u all must make necessary arrangements for her coming child i think. and children are the god gifts and they must be welcomed to this earth. and all the best to your daughter by me.
• United States
20 Dec 06
I wouldn't say it is very rare, at least not in the US. I know many people with 3 kids or more. I have 4. My sister in law has 3. One of my best friends is about to have #3. At least 7 of my cousins have at least 3 kids. And I have met hundreds of women online that have 3 or more kids. I think it is very common to have 3 children. And it is more common then people think to have kids so close in age. My oldest 3 are each a year apart.