would u cheat on your spouse if you knew he/she was cheating?
December 20, 2006 7:19am CST
if u have watched the movie CLOSER, starring julia roberts + jude law + clive owen + natalie portman, julia and owen are a happily married working couple when jude law so rudely interrupted their lives by having an affair w/ julia. clive, in response, seduced natalie who was jude's amour. the end-result? clive & julia ended back together though w/ some tension while jude & natalie's relationship lay in shambles. my question is: is it right to punish a cheating spouse by cheating also? and would u cheat on your spouse if you knew he/she was cheating?
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6 Mar 07
Then again, being wronged is also a way of widening the horizon of our vulnerability en route to finding the deepest source of our strength. I guess, the burden then shifts to the one who betrayed us while also making him/her come to grips with his/her conscience.
17 Mar 07
and besides it will not solve your problem with your husband. it might make you feel a little better having him taste his own medicine but then again, its just plain wrong so i'm not into cheating for revenge thing :)
31 Aug 07
I wouldn't cheat, I'd just leave!!!! I would just end the relationship. I don't have time to wait on a cheating spouce. If the spouce cheats, that is the end of the relationship right there. No forgiveneness, no turning back, nothing!!!!
27 Jun 07
julia and jude met first.. jude just happened to play a prank on clive and set him up with julia..but then that's digressing... if i ever found out my spouse is cheating on me, i would prolly seriously consider giving him a dose of his own medicine.. but then aain, there's a lot of factors before i finally DO the final act: the cheating.. and i must make sure that he discovers me cheating on him.. hahaha.. ionno.. it's mean..:)
20 Mar 07
No, I will not retaliate back by cheating when I found out that my spouse is cheating on me. That will just lead to more complicated situation and problems. I would rather talk to my spouse, ask why he cheated on me, see if things can be patched up or can be sorted between us. I would rather make some steps to save the relationship. Retaliating by cheating on a cheating spouse would only just 'add wounds to the injuries'.
23 Dec 06
well, well what an interesting question! if im in a vengeful mood, perhaps id do that. but probably i'll just let it go and get on with my life. if she cheats on me, the spouse is not worth keeping. its her loss, not mine
20 Dec 06
Maybe it's good for a revenge, but I wouldnt do it. If that happens to me, I'll leave him for sure, find someone new and start a new beautiful life. I wont cheat on him back because that will make me the same culprit as him. No.. lol
31 Aug 07
One mistake cannot be corrected by another mistake. If your partner cheated and you want to get even you fall on the same level as he/she is and then it gives the other justice for cheating in the first place. This happened with my friend. She thinks that her husband is not fulfilling his duty for her. She wanted to hurt him by having an affair. But it was all wrong. Now the husband has a reason to blame her too. She could have maintained her dignity so the husband could have nothing against her. It doesn't mean that when one falls in the mud the other one should follow. One should lift the other when he/she falls.
• United States
19 Jul 07
No , two wrongs don't make a right.It would alos be wrong just to find someone to sleep with for your revenge.That's ridiculous.Even with someone you know already.If you catch them, make it over with.Then move on if that's what you want to do, with or without them.
• United States
22 Dec 07
No i dont think so. If i found out that my spouse was cheating on me i wouldnt stay in the marriage. I would definitely go and file for divorce as soon as i found out. I think marriage vows should be taken very seriously even if the other person doesnt.
4 Nov 08
its good if you have divorce or even separation available in your country. but for others where its not allowed -- how should a scorned spouse deal with it? does s/he take it calmly or does s/he plan a revenge? marriage vows are indeed serious stuff, it's good most people who responded here know it. kudos guys!
1 Oct 07
I am a wife. I will share my views as a wife. A wife should never cheat on her husband even if husband cheats the wife. Cheating is an individual choice. It may be a husband's choice, but it should never be the choice of the wife. He will have to answer to his God.
13 Jul 07
It is not advisable for an erred partner to also the same cheating done by the other partner. Cheating is really something which is hard to take into the realtionship. And it is just natural for any human being to feel that urge for revenge by doing the same thing. But you will lost your moral ascendancy this way. You can't extinguished the fire by also playing into the fire, you have to bring the water instead. Although I am not saying that you will just easily forgive the other person, get out from the marriage if it is already impossible to have a reconciliation but never do the same mistake. If you can get divorce, then marry again.
12 Jul 07
I wouldn't do that-cheat on my spouse because he is cheating me, why do I have to make things worst for us? I think this is not a sensible thing to do. How about the kids what will happen to them. I think we have to talk with my spouse and settle things. But I agree on punishing the cheating spouse, just to make him realize his fault but we have to forgive still and strive to make our family a better one afterall we must have done something to cause him to do that.