would u cheat on your spouse if you knew he/she was cheating?

Philippines
December 20, 2006 7:19am CST
if u have watched the movie CLOSER, starring julia roberts + jude law + clive owen + natalie portman, julia and owen are a happily married working couple when jude law so rudely interrupted their lives by having an affair w/ julia. clive, in response, seduced natalie who was jude's amour. the end-result? clive & julia ended back together though w/ some tension while jude & natalie's relationship lay in shambles. my question is: is it right to punish a cheating spouse by cheating also? and would u cheat on your spouse if you knew he/she was cheating?
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34 responses
@mkcallejo (318)
• Philippines
17 Aug 07
I've watched that movie too but I wasn't able to focus on it because I was doing another thing while watching. But yes, I will cheat on my spouse and after cheating on her, I will dump her like trash which she really is.
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• Philippines
25 Aug 07
ooh, harsh words! lol! still, what you feel is just normal for a human being. if someone hurts us, our basic instinct is to hurt the person back. but many have passed that stage and has become forgiving..
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• Philippines
23 Feb 07
don't get mad, get even.
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• Philippines
24 Feb 07
hahaha! :p revenge is a dish best served cold, lol
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• Philippines
6 Mar 07
Then again, being wronged is also a way of widening the horizon of our vulnerability en route to finding the deepest source of our strength. I guess, the burden then shifts to the one who betrayed us while also making him/her come to grips with his/her conscience.
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• Philippines
16 Mar 07
wow, thats deep ;p
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20 Dec 06
I love that movie and you've raised an interesting issue. I think I probably would though I would like to think I would be "bigger" than that. It would be the perfect revenge but I wouldn't do it if I wanted to stay with them.
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• Philippines
21 Dec 06
hahaha! now there's a *bad girl* but yes, it would be the perfect revenge and of course, u leave them all crying and you towards a new life
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• Philippines
17 Mar 07
and besides it will not solve your problem with your husband. it might make you feel a little better having him taste his own medicine but then again, its just plain wrong so i'm not into cheating for revenge thing :)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
good for u! me, well, u know me.. hehe
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• Canada
31 Aug 07
I wouldn't cheat, I'd just leave!!!! I would just end the relationship. I don't have time to wait on a cheating spouce. If the spouce cheats, that is the end of the relationship right there. No forgiveneness, no turning back, nothing!!!!
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• Philippines
29 Sep 07
wow! you sound so decisive! i wish i could be like that, lol! but sadly im weak, and needs to have revenge. lol
• Philippines
27 Jun 07
julia and jude met first.. jude just happened to play a prank on clive and set him up with julia..but then that's digressing... if i ever found out my spouse is cheating on me, i would prolly seriously consider giving him a dose of his own medicine.. but then aain, there's a lot of factors before i finally DO the final act: the cheating.. and i must make sure that he discovers me cheating on him.. hahaha.. ionno.. it's mean..:)
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• Philippines
28 Jun 07
well, let me know what you'll do when the time comes. LOL
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7 Apr 07
I would because i would have no intention of staying with them if they cheated on me. Though i would probably just break up with them first.
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• Philippines
9 Apr 07
lol, go girl!
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@joyce959 (1562)
• Philippines
20 Mar 07
No, I will not retaliate back by cheating when I found out that my spouse is cheating on me. That will just lead to more complicated situation and problems. I would rather talk to my spouse, ask why he cheated on me, see if things can be patched up or can be sorted between us. I would rather make some steps to save the relationship. Retaliating by cheating on a cheating spouse would only just 'add wounds to the injuries'.
• Philippines
26 Mar 07
wow! you are sooo good.. =)
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@ngchunyi (130)
• Canada
24 Dec 06
Nope, I mean seriously, what makes you better if you can have your revenge by cheating on your spouse if you know he/she is or was cheating on you?
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• Philippines
25 Dec 06
its not a question of being "better" but of revenge.. inflict pain as he had inflicted on u. lol
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• Philippines
23 Dec 06
well, well what an interesting question! if im in a vengeful mood, perhaps id do that. but probably i'll just let it go and get on with my life. if she cheats on me, the spouse is not worth keeping. its her loss, not mine
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• Philippines
23 Dec 06
very well said! are u a guy or girl?
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@irallyn (42)
• Philippines
21 Dec 06
no i wont.. its his loss not mine.. hehehe welcome here
• Philippines
21 Dec 06
thanks! =)
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@chiquitita (1227)
• Indonesia
20 Dec 06
Maybe it's good for a revenge, but I wouldnt do it. If that happens to me, I'll leave him for sure, find someone new and start a new beautiful life. I wont cheat on him back because that will make me the same culprit as him. No.. lol
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• Philippines
20 Dec 06
yeah, lol! thats the best way to go.. but u know how movies are, they overdramatize things =)
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@sudhajan (1230)
• France
20 Dec 06
i never chaeted my partner and i dont like it
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• Philippines
20 Dec 06
im glad to hear that
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@Jemina (5784)
31 Aug 07
One mistake cannot be corrected by another mistake. If your partner cheated and you want to get even you fall on the same level as he/she is and then it gives the other justice for cheating in the first place. This happened with my friend. She thinks that her husband is not fulfilling his duty for her. She wanted to hurt him by having an affair. But it was all wrong. Now the husband has a reason to blame her too. She could have maintained her dignity so the husband could have nothing against her. It doesn't mean that when one falls in the mud the other one should follow. One should lift the other when he/she falls.
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
19 Jul 07
No , two wrongs don't make a right.It would alos be wrong just to find someone to sleep with for your revenge.That's ridiculous.Even with someone you know already.If you catch them, make it over with.Then move on if that's what you want to do, with or without them.
• Philippines
9 Aug 07
wow, you're so nice! unlike the rest of us here..lol =)
@pendragon (3354)
• United States
9 Aug 07
LOL, I have never heard that before,thanks!Now I'm going to read the rest of the responses!
• United States
22 Dec 07
No i dont think so. If i found out that my spouse was cheating on me i wouldnt stay in the marriage. I would definitely go and file for divorce as soon as i found out. I think marriage vows should be taken very seriously even if the other person doesnt.
• Philippines
4 Nov 08
its good if you have divorce or even separation available in your country. but for others where its not allowed -- how should a scorned spouse deal with it? does s/he take it calmly or does s/he plan a revenge? marriage vows are indeed serious stuff, it's good most people who responded here know it. kudos guys!
• Canada
13 Oct 07
Honestly hun I don't think that 2 wrongs make a right so if my hubby cheated on me I think we'd be heading for divorce court real quick! Have a good weekend! PurpleTeddyBear!
• Philippines
22 Dec 07
yikes! divorce!!! that's kinda harsh and yes, quick! hehe
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@kishusia (1069)
• India
1 Oct 07
I am a wife. I will share my views as a wife. A wife should never cheat on her husband even if husband cheats the wife. Cheating is an individual choice. It may be a husband's choice, but it should never be the choice of the wife. He will have to answer to his God.
• Philippines
13 Oct 07
i love your statement that "cheating is an individual choice"! you are so right! before this i would have chosen to cheat on him too. just for him to feel how hurting it can be. thanks for your lovely answer! =)
@wooitsmolly (3613)
• United States
19 Jul 07
If my spouse cheated on me I would get rid of him fast. I wouldn't even have time to cheat because we would no longer be together.
• Philippines
24 Jul 07
LOL, your post is funny. truly, you want to get rid of a person that fast eh?
@tombiz (2039)
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
It is not advisable for an erred partner to also the same cheating done by the other partner. Cheating is really something which is hard to take into the realtionship. And it is just natural for any human being to feel that urge for revenge by doing the same thing. But you will lost your moral ascendancy this way. You can't extinguished the fire by also playing into the fire, you have to bring the water instead. Although I am not saying that you will just easily forgive the other person, get out from the marriage if it is already impossible to have a reconciliation but never do the same mistake. If you can get divorce, then marry again.
• Philippines
13 Jul 07
wow, big words- "moral ascendancy"! but its true, dont stoop down to their level. anyway, i like your answer best so far. lets see if someone else can put it better =)
@jonaida (574)
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
I wouldn't do that-cheat on my spouse because he is cheating me, why do I have to make things worst for us? I think this is not a sensible thing to do. How about the kids what will happen to them. I think we have to talk with my spouse and settle things. But I agree on punishing the cheating spouse, just to make him realize his fault but we have to forgive still and strive to make our family a better one afterall we must have done something to cause him to do that.
• Philippines
12 Jul 07
yes, its always about the kids and keeping the family intact. that's why most wives tend to keep quiet about their husband's cheating. but what about if u dont have kids yet? wouldn't it be great to make him pay?? lol