Do You Enjoy Arguing?

@wolfie34 (26793)
United Kingdom
December 21, 2006 6:13pm CST
You either love em or hate them, but do you really enjoy arguing with relatives, family, friends? I live with an argumentative housemate and he actually enjoys confrontation and conflict which can be very hard work!
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24 responses
• United States
22 Dec 06
Normally the quick answer is that I don't enjoy arguing at all. I'm not a very confrontational person, however my husband is the most calm and mild guy on the face of the earth. Its just a fact that sometimes we will disagree about something but he will NEVER argue about it. He just calmly says, "I'm not going to argue about it." I try to explain that we wouldn't really be arguing, we would be having a heated discussion to come to some kind of agreement, but nope. He won't argue. It drives me NUTS. I'm left feeling angry and frusterated with no outlet!
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 06
Don't you just hate that! When they refuse to get into an argument and it leaves you feeling enraged. Thanks for your response.
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• Janesville, Wisconsin
13 Nov 07
only if I know I can wear the other person out and win it. Usually I only enjoy "argueing" with chatroom trolls until I successfully render them speechless or get them so mad they disapear :) ... by trolls I mean those who are disrupting chat in the first place. - DNatureofDTrain
@williamjisir (22903)
• China
4 Jan 08
Hello dear wolfie. I am sorry that you have got such a argumentative housemate. I don't think that I can suffer from such a guy who enjoys confrontation and conflict. I enjoy peace and harmony with anyone. This discussion was a one-year-old one. I wish that you were now away from him without bearing more argument by him. I hope you live as peaceful a life as I do. Thanks for your discussion, my dear good friend.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 08
Thank you my friend, I escaped from him last October.
• China
4 Jan 08
That is good news to hear about. Cheers for you, dear wolfie.
@anonymili (3138)
4 Jan 08
I have to admit to being quite short tempered but I really don't like confrontation. I have a tendency to general stew about things that annoy me instead of telling people straight away what they've done to offend or upset me, except when it comes to my husband and dad. I'm very chilled with my mum as she never winds me up but my husband and dad can set me off quite easily LOL! I am trying to be more patient and not snap so easily - outside of home, everyone thinks I'm a very amicable person haha! Little do they know! Happy new year hun. x
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
4 Jan 08
Thank you my friend and a very happy new year to you too x
@brokentia (10396)
• United States
22 Dec 06
Actually, I argue all the time with my kids and my partner. That is is so exhausting that I have to walk away! So, no, I do not enjoy arguing. I find it is because the other person is just refusing to listen to what I am saying. And if they do not listen to me then, there is no way I am going to get through to the person by arguing. So, since some of my kids are reaching teen years, I am find more and more they enjoy arguing. LOL There is nothing wrong with friendly banter...I enjoy it too. But just arguing, nope, I am getting exhausted from it.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
29 Dec 06
I find it very draining so I prefer to escape to the gym from it and relieve my frustration out there. My housemate enjoys confrontations and arguments and thrives on them, I just feel exhausted afterwards.
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@patootie (3593)
22 Dec 06
I've always hated arguments ... I think it's really sad when folks cannot sensibly discuss things but have to just launch into a full scale argument ... I once had a boyfriend who liked to argue ... he used to get so angry when I wouldn't argue with him ... needless to say that relationship didn't last very long at all ... Good discussion and debate is great though ... that's how you learn things ... listening to other folks ... considering what they've said and then adding your own thoughts to the melting pot ... :o)
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• United States
22 Dec 06
I don't like arguing with my family or friends either. If it's people online who are acting ignorant, then I love a good argument.
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
7 Jan 07
Thanks for your response.
@disvachic (10121)
• United States
22 Dec 06
No not really arguing makes my head hurt real bad
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@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
22 Dec 06
It can be very stressful!
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@Sheepie (3118)
• United States
11 Sep 08
I actually kind of do, especially when I know I'm right and I have plenty of evidence to support my decision! I love winning! But it's better if hateful words aren't used, because those are petty and stupid and they just aren't good for anybody.
@youless (93144)
• Guangzhou, China
11 Sep 08
Of course not. But I like to have the debate and discussion. Is it a difference between arguing? Definitely yes. Arguing can be hurtful and it can cause the anger. If you don't agree with anything, it's better to have a discussion in peace. I love China
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@TerryZ (22083)
• United States
24 May 08
OMG! Wolfie this is a year old! So I know your not with that person anymore. And thankgod. Well I dont like to argue but my hubby does. And he is never wrong even he is!LOL Oh well I just let it go unless Im really pissed.
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@yanjiaren (9050)
14 Nov 07
I really hate arguing and I have often had to compromise a lot in order not to argue, but now I have learned to be a wee bit more assertive and find ways to get my message across if I feel oppressed or unjustly treated but in a more subtle way, sometimes it works lol but it is much better than arguing.
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@suspenseful (40316)
• Canada
14 Nov 07
I do not like arguing, but then I do not like giving in to the other person, if he or she is wrong. If he or she is right, then I do not mind and usually what happens is that these latter are the ones I get along with. It is the first group that really scares me. I find that when I get in an argument and know that I am right that I become sarcastic, saying well I had better tell everyone that their clocks are all wrong, it was really ten hours (when it was only an hour past.)
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@stateroad (730)
• United States
5 Feb 07
I hate to argue because it tends to be very stressful. With every relationship I guess we have to expect some arguing but I try to avoid it when I can. I am sorry your housemate enjoys confrontation and conflict that has to be hard on you and very stressful. Do not let Him win even though that is sometimes easier. You have to put yourself first every once in awhile especially if an arguement is being started over something stupid.
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@ukchriss (2103)
5 Feb 07
I have to say I used to like a good heated discussion or argument, Now it just tires me out and I just get exhausted from it all. No kidding It does take my breath away. I just don't have the energy any more to stand my ground and besides life is far too short for Arguing. Gosh when i think about it, i used to be such a confrontational person, I would stand up and fight for whatever i thought was right at the time and never ever back down. Now I like to think I'm a more tolerant and open minded person and can look at things from all sides. Arguments cause far too much stress and stress, I have to avoid for my health. All stress does Is make you Ill.
• United States
22 Dec 06
heck yea i love argueing with some one as long as i know what im talking about so this way i cant get lost in the topic lol im really good at argueing some one in halo b/c i know alot about it and omfg i love argueing im so glad u posted this kinda of topic lol
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• United States
7 Jan 07
I don't go looking for them but I am not going to back down either .I also well stand up for the things I believe in and if some ones tells me something go goes against either my standards or what I believe in I well respond .I have alot of german and Irish in me my family is known around here for being stoburn and for not backing down. I think my dad in his younger days would rather fight then back down we got that .In our family we even joke about our stoburness it is a fact of life we are very stuck to our old world ways .Don't get me wrong we are great people but also bad enimies lol .
• Janesville, Wisconsin
6 Jan 07
No, I do not enjoy arguing, I however do enjoy wearing people who do enjoy arguing down and sending the cat to catch their tongue. Hey, I tell people if you are going to turn this into an annoying contest bring it on! Cause I been around so many annoying obnoxious lil turds... That I am ready to be the winning little stinker if I have to do so to get some peace. :) .. Otherwise I can not stand argueing, or conflicts.. It drives me crazy. - DNatureofDTrain
@wolfie34 (26793)
• United Kingdom
6 Jan 07
LOL! Thanks for your response, appreciated.
9 May 08
Im not into any type of arguing,no way.I like a quiet life and thats the way I intend to keep it.I would find it really difficult to live with a hosemate who enjoyed arguing,because im just one who walks away,but I guess maybe he would get fed up of me in the end.With friends and relatives alike I will always steer clear of any type of conflict.
@underdogtoo (9599)
• Philippines
9 May 08
I do not like arguments but I do enjoy a spirited discussion. When the ideas being bandied about start to repeat themselves then I tend to get bored. I like the stimulation of new ideas but when they are pushed like there's no tomorrow they lose their flavor.
• China
13 Nov 07
I don't like argue wiht my families. I always avoid to make argument with them . Because I think the argument will decrease the love between you and them. And arguing is not a good way of solving problems