• United States
22 Dec 06
I am not in the same situation but I have two grandson's about the same age as your kids, one is six months and the other will be three in January. My son is the one who stays at home with the kids, except I usually take the little one so he doesn't lose his mind. Its a hard job and I wish you lots of good luck. Welcome to myLot. I hope you like it here.
22 Dec 06
I know its hard but do as much as you can and leave the rest. I was a stay at home mum years ago and I used to get into a rut whether the home was tidy, which is near impossible with kids and then one day I thought f...it. As long as I was looking after my kids to my best ability why worry. Housework will always be there but before you know it your kids will have grown older. I remember thinking one day after I had planned my weekly routine of clean the kitchen on Monday, do the ironing on Tuesday etc what would be my epitaph "She kept a tidy home!!!" Life is too short, so if you can bear some mess or disorganisation "Go for it" Maybe, as a suggestion try to get them into a routine where they have a nap at the same time and then maybe manage a few things each day. My son was a maniac at two, so I bought a playpen for him. When I needed to get things done I would put him in it with all his toys and he was quite happy to stay there for a little while. Also, maybe find out where your local SureStart group is or dropin playgroup. If you take them there they can make as much mess as they want and also you will meet other mums who can pass on their experiences. I work in a nursery that has a dropin attached for parents and they all swear by it. Also, if you have a partner get them to do the housework when they come home and let them see that you need help. Being a mum is an unrecognised profession and we should not have to do it on our own. I wish you luck.