im so over whelmed i think i did the right thing for my kids

United States
December 22, 2006 11:55am CST
I have to boys they are 20 months and 5 months. I left there father 3 months ago he has beed abusive to me every since i got pregnant with our first son. But he didnt ever hurt the boys only me. Then 3 months ago he put bruises all over my oldest sons leg so i left i wnder if they will hate me for being the one who took there daddy away.
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12 responses
• India
28 Feb 13
you did the RIGHT THING! a Man will never be a good father or a good husband if he hurts her wife without no reason and have pleasure in hurting their children. these kinda people my be psychic . U did the right thing and your children will never regret for that activiity of yours. sure!
@redredrose (1107)
• United States
27 Feb 13
You did the right thing. You did what you had to to save you and your boys from more abuse and when the boys are older you can tell them that. I don't think they will hate you because you didn't take away their dad you left because he was abusive. Well this discussion was started 7 yrs ago how are you and the boys today 7 yrs later?
@maurya83 (923)
• India
27 Feb 13
you did absolutely right thing, they will ask you one day the reason and its obvious, you should be prepared for that situation, just tell them truth and let them make their decision, nothing else you can do more than this, if your kids will be mature they will understand you for sure..
@miryanag (348)
• Bulgaria
27 Feb 13
You are a good mother. You did the best thing The kids don't need an abusive father. They need a good role model and even if you are a single mom now I belive you can make sure they see one in you
• Philippines
27 Feb 13
i'll do the same thing also.
@djoyce71 (2512)
• Philippines
19 Feb 13
Battering wife and kids? lHe is evil. It was the right decision to leave him. Take care of yourself and kids. Raise them right and they will understand someday why you did that. I hope you stay strong. Good luck.
@imsilver (1669)
• Canada
15 Feb 13
I know I'm saying what everyone else has said but you did the right thing. It's tough being a single mom and yes sometime your kids will use the "dad" threat to push your buttons. Be strong for yourself and for them. They won't hate you. As young as they are they may not remember much. Especially if you manage to keep him from them which is probably your best bet. I'm speaking from experience here. My children were 2 1/2 and 6 months when I left their dad after a particularly bad beating. They weathered it well. There's been a few times they've had questions. I've tried to never lie but not tell them the worst. They are now 16 and 14. Both are strong independant children who love me and understand that I've always tried to be honest with them and that the most important thing in my life is that my children grow up safe, protected, loved and happy. And I think I've managed that. I hope you have some good friends or other family members for support. Being single with 2 little ones is a rough road but it's worth it.
@kprofgames (3018)
• United States
14 Feb 13
Wow this discussion was posted 7 years ago! It would be interesting to know how the boys turned out now over staying in an abusive household. I know Saphireangel did the right thing, we all do. I hope the best for her and her family where ever they are.
@laydee (12814)
• Philippines
14 Feb 13
You did the right thing. I think they're too young to even remember these things. But they'll be wondering soon why you had to do that. You'll be there to tell them that - instead of staying in a relationship with this abuser (there's a huge possibility you'll not see your kids growing up if you stayed). So, be strong. You should have left him after the first time he did that. Have a great mylot experience ahead!
• Indonesia
13 Feb 13
need to be reported to police. This includes criminal acts.
@EagleEyes (646)
• United States
22 Dec 06
I think when they understand why you did what you did they will love you for saving them from physical abuse, and maybe even saving their lives. You also are saving them from alot of emotional abuse too. You did the right thing, don't second guess it. You are the one who has to be strong to protect them now.
@babs0818 (1192)
• United States
22 Dec 06
You did the right thing,to leave him..what gives him to right to hit you and your child...nothing,he should be in jail..sorry,but why can't he beat on people his own size. Your kids won't hate you...you will just have to explain,to them,once they older why you left..