If you saw your best friends partner out with someone else ..
22 Dec 06
Who is "someone they shouldn't be out with"? My friends AND their partners are grown men and women. Who the hell am I to tell them who they should and should not be associating with? Well, maybe if they were hangin' with Osama Bin Laden I might mention that they have a high risk buddy there, but that's about it.
23 Dec 06
Hmm that's a very good point ... maybe they would have a totally innocent reason for being out with someone else .. after all it could be a cousin, an old school friend or work associate ... you'd certainly have to tread carefully and make sure there wasn't good reason for them to be together first wouldn't you ...
25 Mar 07
I would first of all mention something to the friends partner, ask whatr was going on (after all i suppose there's a slim chance it was innocnent) and tell them that you will give them a chance, say a few days or a week to confess to their partner/your friend first, and if they've not done so in that time, tell my friend about it myself!
• United Kingdom
15 Jan 07
Hmmm that's a tricky one alright, it would be hypothetical for me because I've never been in that situation. Depending on how firm my friendship is with them and would they be likely to believe me? As long as they knew I was being straight with them and had nothing to gain by concealing it from them. I think I would tell them, they would have a right to know, because if I was in their shoes I would definitely want to know even if the truth hurts, there's nothing like being treated like a toadstool and fed sh*t. One thing I hate is being taken for a fool. Great question Toots!
• United States
22 Dec 06
You know this happened to me when I was in High School. I had been friends with this girl since kindergarten and this was her first real boyfirend. I never really did like him much. Anyways, I was at the mall one day and I saw him with another girl. I was freaked out. I didn't know what i should do. I knew that if I told my friend she would be crushed but I also didn't think she deserved to be a man like that. I also wasn't sure if she would believe me. I talked about to another friend who was friends to both of us and she said I should tell. Of course before I got to it she told. Well my friend thoght I was just making it up becuase I didn;t like her boyfriend and she got mad at me and wouldn't talk to me. Kind of what I expected. After she calmed down she realized that I wouldn't say anything like that just to make her mad so she confronted her boyfriend and he spilled the beans. She came back to me and apologized. it's sad but our friendship has never been the same since then. I still think I did the right thing but it did come at a cost.