Add Difference - Need Advice?

United States
December 22, 2006 5:40pm CST
I am in my early 30s and my boyfriend is going to be turning 50 next year. We have a whole...........lot of years apart. He is the best boyfriend I ever had. The only thing is that I like up to date music. He likes oldies. I like new movies. He likes those old movies I never heard of. He sometimes talk to me as though he is giving me instructions like I am a kid and I don't like that. However, he is really good to me. We do have really good conversations and we do have fun together. It's just that from time to time we don't quite see eye to eye because we like different things.
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68 responses
• Canada
23 Dec 06
I do believe that if everyone had the same likes a dislikes life would be boring. There would be no boards such as this one for instance. I really think all that really matters in a relationship is how you get along. Think about it, when he's 90 and you are 70 (or close to that) what is most likely going to be the most inportant thing in your relationship... conversation. As long as you have fun and something to talk about your life will never be dull. You may just have to compromise, watch a movie he likes one time and one you like the next. It's no different with my fiance and I... he likes Sci Fi, I don't... I like romantic comedy, he doesn't... so we watch one I like and one he likes. relationships are about compromise.
• United States
23 Dec 06
love has no age limit.if you truly care about one another you should be able to work together everything even your differences in taste of music,movies,etc.who knows someday maybe he will learn to appreciate your music and you his.and as far as the way he talks to you maybe your taking it the wrong way?if not then tell him how you feel about that in a nice way.
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• Canada
23 Dec 06
Opposites attract. It's how life is. Sure, tehre are always going to be some problems in every relationship, but it's how you get through and solve those problems that can make it a strong relationship. Good luck!
@Serjas (2328)
• India
23 Dec 06
life is an adjustment....so make some adj u acn live happy
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@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
23 Dec 06
I find couples pretty has very in common, and are together during years, however I find that nothing does not exist better that the technology to apimentar a relationship
@lulylove (1561)
• Brazil
23 Dec 06
sorry... apimentar = HOT
@gabs8513 (48715)
• United Kingdom
23 Dec 06
That will always happen and you just have to come to an Agreement between you so that is a Fair relationship My Boyfriend is 13 years older then me but we actually like the same thing lol But I hope you can both agree on something on there And no matter what the age difference and what relationship there will always be something that People don't see eye to eye
23 Dec 06
everyone likes different things, you just need to find things you both like.
@Smclin1 (325)
• United States
23 Dec 06
My husband is in his 50's and I in my 30's, he likes the old music and movies and not me. We still get along great.We been together over 10 yrs. Your never gonna find someone you see eye to eye on everything. That would be boring.
• United States
28 Dec 06
Are you worried about him aging before you?
• United States
23 Dec 06
hey i guess u have an awesome boyfriend and differnces are a part of relationship even if u had less age gap it's beco'z u both are different individuals and u know that opposite attracts and that's what keeps u going in a relation.and a person elder to u is always protective and knows much lot and provides u comfort and age gap helps in balancing the maturity.just enjoy and have fun and take life as it comes i wish uu all the best for ur future.
• United States
28 Dec 06
You are so right. We had a long discussion about this and I am really feeling the fact of making it work. I love him so much and hope that this lasts for a lifetime.
• Ukraine
24 Dec 06
My god,who the hell tell people that have different age is aproblem!I'm in the same situation at the momment but the thing i beleive is that i'm happy in my live,build the future seriously whith her.You have to put forward you love,you have to hear your heart he gonna tell you the true and leed your to the rigth ways.Be quiet,nothing wrong!
@puma_nz (1001)
• New Zealand
23 Dec 06
The main thing is that you are Happy.. So what if you have diff opinions about other things.. It'd be BORING if it were the same.. besides.. Isnt that WHY you are together now???
@myrith (1830)
• Canada
23 Dec 06
Remember age is just a number, seriously though your relationship may call for compromise. Good Luck!
@rebeka (364)
• Romania
23 Dec 06
u are younger he is older...it's a god chance to find out movies or songs u never heared of it. u can find a consensus if u are in love with eachother and really want to be together
@sksingh (1412)
• Germany
23 Dec 06
ya
@mauier113 (688)
• Philippines
23 Dec 06
There's no diffrence when you're in love. No matter what age you are, thre's always a point that you two both connect. But it's also important to have both adjustment make it work. You're not married yet, so there's still time to work it out. If things won't meet, you have to decide for yourself, An older partner but the best you ever had. Or find someone else younger who could meet your interest but could be immature. Choose.
• United States
23 Dec 06
I don't see the issue. I am 24. My boyfriend is 15 years older than me. He does like some things I've never heard of because of the generation gap. But it doesn't matter to me. We have the best relationship, and I've never been happier.
@abg1988 (340)
• India
23 Dec 06
adjust with each other. once you go for a new one then you go for an old one
@darule (81)
• India
23 Dec 06
LOve is Unconditional ..... these little things in our love life are the key points that keep up interested in each other and let the other one know how much we care for each other................................
@jen20619 (1302)
• Ireland
23 Dec 06
i think cause of the age gap there will some differences in taste and interests.But there are soo many things yous do agree on and the fact yous have fun together is brilliant.there are many couples the same age as each other and dont laugh together much just argue all that annoying stuff.age is just a number.
@vipul20044 (5798)
• India
23 Dec 06
Oh comeone thats not because of age particularly You do come across people with difference taste You know the greatest thing in a relationship is caring and committment he is giving you wat u need so be happy for that
@icequeen (2842)
• Canada
23 Dec 06
Well it sounds like you two are good together..except for those few things. I would just talk to him..and make some compromises when it comes to watching movies...You could also tell him that you understand him..and he doesn't need to talk to you like a child...my boyfriend does that too....I think it is just a guy thing...anyway...I hope you can work things out....