Visitation & Child support?

United States
September 25, 2006 7:56am CST
Do you think Visitation should determine if the child support is caught up?
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12 responses
@cay433 (2)
• United States
7 Oct 06
Being a single mom, i have to say that my ex needs to help support his son if he is going to be part of his life. I am all for my son seeing his father, but diapers, formula and chilcare are not free.
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• United States
7 Oct 06
I agree with you 100%!
• United States
23 Oct 06
I have always thought that whether the non custodial parent is paying his or her child support or not that he/she should still be able to see the child/children, because even though he or she is being a complete idiot by not doing their part financially, that child NEEDS both parents. I did like your post though and understand where you are comming from
@kdarrell (1566)
• Canada
21 Oct 06
I believe it should. If the parent is not responsible enough to keep up on the child support than I don't think they would be responsible to keep up with regular vistitations.
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• United States
7 Oct 06
I do not think that should matter. If the father is willing and wants to come see his children then he should be able to wether the child support is up to date or not. I am divorced and I get child support but the boys never see their father. Not because I won't let him, his payments are on time and even if they were not I would let him see his children, but because he is a bum who does not even want to come see them. It is important for a child to know both of his parents still love them, they won't know that threw child support, but from seeing there father/mother. I wish my ex would come see his kids, the courts just need to butt out sometimes!
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@DRoddy77 (1780)
• United States
23 Oct 06
I think both should be enforced but what i mean by that is IF the parent wants to see their child, the other parent should be FORCED to give them visitations, as long as there isnt any danger involved. Too many times the fathers (usually fathers) are forced to pay child support by the courts but the courts wont do anything to help them to be able to SEE their own child! All the courts care about is money, not what is best for the child. Too many mothers keep their kids from the fathers out of spite but they dont realize what that will do to the child! They are hurting the child when they do that without good cause! My husband has a 9 year old daughter that he hasnt been allowed to see since she was 2! The courts make him pay his child support and if he even misses one week of it they send a sheriff here, but they wont do a thing to help him be able to SEE his child!
• United States
23 Oct 06
I am sorry about your situation. I totally agree with you. A friend of mine is going thru it to. Everytime he doesn't get his daughter, he goes to the FOC to file a complaint. Every so many complaints leads to a motion and has ended up going before a judge. Its a shame to have to go through all that just to see your own children.
@red158 (334)
• Canada
7 Jan 07
Children are not a bargaining chip, it's that simple. If you stop visitation you gets hurt, the children that's who. My ex is again a year and half behind on his support, I would never dream of holding my children hostage.
@skittlez353 (1404)
• United States
23 Oct 06
i dont think they really have anything to do with each other.
@franhrnt (185)
• United States
23 Oct 06
No,I do not think one has anything to do with the other one.If there is a problem with child support that is what the courts are for.A child should not be held from the other parent because of money.My brother isn't letting my ex-sister-in-law see their daughter because she is behind in support payments and the one suffering is my neice.People need to remember who is hurting with all the arguing and fighting,innocent children....
@saphire539 (1641)
• United States
23 Oct 06
not paying child support should have nothing to do with visitation rights.Both parents should have the right to see there child no matter unless the child is being harmed and abused by that parent
21 Oct 06
I believe they should be two separate issues. I have a son who will lose his license if he does not pay child support. I honestly think Visitation is up for the courts to decide, and the mother should never keep her children from their fathers, unless there is child abuse done. In our state, they will garnish wages if the father is more than a thousand dollars behind.
@scooter1024 (1243)
• United States
21 Oct 06
I think they should be paying their support regularly but the visitation shouldnt stop if they get behind. That only hurts the children. I have went thru this on not getting support but I still let my childrens father have his visitation. I hope he gets it caught up but I wont keep them from him for something like that. I always told him I wouldnt keep the kids from him unless he was abusing them in some way.
@casita (237)
• United States
13 Oct 06
Visits will happen anyway. My eldest sons are in their 20's. They visit their dad by choice at this point. My youngest is still at home, doesn't see his dad all that much. Mostly when his older brothers drag him. My ex owes me money totaling in the 5-digit range. The FOC could really care less. . . . say they are bogged down with so many cases, other cases have more priority. . . In the meantime, I raised them without support and they choose to visit their dad anyway.
@acdc0805 (981)
• United States
7 Oct 06
In the state where I live, visitation is still supposed to be granted, even if child support is not being paid. I dont think it should be that way however, but it is. Its all about the kids though-and them seeing their parents. BUt the parent that isn't paying, needs to realize that they need to take care of their kids in any way they can. If they don't pay their child support or any of it, or do anything-then how the hell are they to take care of them, when they have visitation. It could be made to a supervised visitation if necessary as well.