Middle Child Syndrome!!

December 24, 2006 9:10am CST
Research has shown that middle children can have the roughest deal within their family. Not being the first born or the baby of the family can make them feel different. They are more likely to feel they have to fight for attention and are not loved as much. They are not high achievers and tend to do better in more creative jobs. I would love to know your views if you are a middle child. I am and looking back I can now understand why I did feel different.
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@34momma (13895)
• United States
11 Apr 07
i am a middle child. i have a older brother and a younger sister. i don't think i really experinced this middle child syndrome. my brother and i were very close and my mother told us both and showed us both how much she loved us. my sister is 10 years younger then me so i was not fighting for attention at the age of ten, and i loved my baby sister. i have heard of this and i think it depends on the parents if they allow this to be an issue in their family
11 Apr 07
This is what I feel as well. Parents have such a big influence on our lives. I have a sister 2 years older than me and one 8 years younger. There was no jealousy there either, but I must admit I am so different to my two sisters. In looks and personality and sometimes I still feel the odd one out. My dad always used to say I was the milkmans!!lol
• United States
1 Apr 07
What if you come from a large family of say 7 children...where does the middle actually fall? I guess if this study were done on families that had only 3 children this could be true.
2 Apr 07
Good point. I don't know the answer to this but it would be intereting to find out.
@shooie (4986)
• United States
31 Jan 07
Middle Child - Not so bad nope nope
I am the middle girl here. Not as many pictures of me in the albums. There never seemed to be money when it came to my stuff but it didn't bother me. I think thats why middle children get pushed to the side. We don't make a big fuss. I bought my yearbooks in school and my lcass ring. I was cleaning houses and babysitting while the other kids in the family were playing around. But my parents knew they didn't have to worry about me so they didn't. They had to chase after the others to keep them out of trouble. Was kinda funny but 5 years before my mom passed away she put her arm around me when we were coming out of church and said " I hope you know I love you" she said she knows she had to chase after the other kids but she loved me just as much. I knew it all along. I excelled in math and business in school. I started college after high school but ended up working at the hospital and moved up the latter. I was at the hospital for 20 years. They replaced me when I moved with two people and they had to have a college education to do what I did...lol Did I feel different growing up? Yes I did. I didn't feel bad I just felt I had a level head and was trust worthy so they didn't have to worry about me. I would even get to stay a week at a time with my friends during a school year because they knew my homework would be done and they knew I wouldn't be running the streets. So guess it wasn't to bad for me to be a middle child.
31 Jan 07
What a good story to read. You obviously had your head screwed on right and were confident within yourself. You are a success story for all us middle children. Thanks for your words.
@jo0911 (135)
• Philippines
24 Dec 06
I am a middle child also. All I can say is that open communication inside your family is highly recommended to make strong family ties.
24 Dec 06
TOO true. Thanks
@Tanya8 (1734)
• Canada
24 Dec 06
I'm not a middle child, but I remember my mother half-jokingly saying she was going to take my younger sister out for a special day by herself, so that she wouldn't get middle child syndrome. My mother was very careful about making sure that all the children in the family were treated in a way that made them feel special. I think that the risk is there, but that it's possible to overcome it. My sister has been the most successful of all of us. She has the most education and the highest paying job.
24 Dec 06
Your mum sounds like a great person. Thanks for your response.
• United States
24 Dec 06
I have a middle child that keeps our family on our toes. I dont like him to feel "different" from the other two and will refer to him as my baby-boy, or, to family and friends as the youngest son.