Art of communicating with the silent one

@fidainc (412)
Singapore
December 24, 2006 10:58pm CST
How can you open a conversation with a very silent person?
5 responses
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
25 Dec 06
I beg to differ from both the responders above. Because I dont think they even understand why some people prefer silence. Silence gives the silent person the strength to collect his own thoughts. Such a person is emotionally very strong. Is determined on his goals and because he gives himself so much time.. he meticulously plans his actions. Such person are also helpful but they are reserved. They dont fear rejection... believe me they are not the kind of people who fear rejection.. they are there for everyone but they dont like to initiate a conversation. A silent person expresses himself in someway or the other. He is also looking for his kind of people who can understand those signs. He could express himself in art, or in words he write, or poems, or his choice of movies or hobbies. His emotions are hidden everywhere.. only few people will recognise them and those people will never have problem to talk with silent people. Silent people are very compassionate. They think a few words is enough to express anything. No one needs a lecture or repeat things or be loud to be heard.
@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
25 Dec 06
You are right here if we are mistaken silent for "introverted", I assumed this is what the original poster is asking about, if a silent person has his own friends and life maybe no need to impose a conversation on him/her, he is silent because he just can't relate to what the other person/s saying or interested in, my advice would only apply to introverted people who has problems communicating with any one.
@edelweiss (1929)
• India
25 Dec 06
Exactly, silent people.. prefer silence they dont want to explain themselves to anyone. Open their heart out to someone just for the sake of a conversation. Nobody does that. You share your thoughts and emotions with people you know will understand. And to identify those people they leave clues... if anyone can read those hidden meanings and thoughts is the kind of person they'll talk to.
@fidainc (412)
• Singapore
26 Dec 06
so they are selfish in a sense and expect everyone else to either leave them alone to get in deep thought or accompany the talkative one to show him or her a good time?
@sharksfin (1098)
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
I guess you will have to be a very strategic and talkative person to do this effectively. Silent people are hard to get to talk. Hmmm my suggestion would be, try asking open-ended questions like basic information about the person (what they do, where they went to school...etc.). You should not ask questions that can be answered by a yes or a no. This way, you can really get the person to talk and then you can draw questions to ask from his/her responses.
@fidainc (412)
• Singapore
26 Dec 06
so the other party have to work overtime to break the ice?
@ajinder (122)
• India
27 Dec 06
I think after admiring his any action or surroundigs we can open a conversation.
25 Dec 06
Hi fidanic, I'm a very quiet person and therefore people have to approach me first in order to start with any conversations. If you happen find one like me , hhhmmm... especially guy that you admire, well there is no other choice except you have to initiate first the conversations with him. Good luck! SMILE:D
@freesoul (3023)
• Egypt
25 Dec 06
the best approach is one on one bases, most silent people would not react to you if there was other people around, smile and don't insist that they talk about themselves, this will take time but they will do it when they start to trust you, find out what their interests are and try to talk about it .. and maybe talking about your own problems and asking for help will makes them more compassionate, usually silent people care about others and would like to help but they fear rejection.