how would you know if they are your true friends

@iyamapa (259)
Philippines
December 25, 2006 10:58am CST
i have to best bud in college. we are happy and pretty much contented on what we have. until the time i started working and all. they left me. they didnt even tried supporting me. i even tried to fix things with them but they ignored it. i am so sad that until now we werent able to finish our fight. i dont know what to do and i do hope that i will have a chance to be with them. but i am not expecting that thing anymore... i would just wanted to believe that they arent true friends at all... because through the hard times they are all gone
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94 responses
• Philippines
25 Dec 06
friends  - after graduation! cant believe it!
it is really hard to know if your frineds are true to you.. maybe one way of knowing that is by hardships and i guess it proves that they are not good enough to be your friend, maybe they are still there but not the friend that you can really lean on in times of trouble. me, i consider myself as a lucky person when it comes to friends... i only met them in college and until now even one of them is in abroad we still have communication and share our problems and give advices... just dont try too hard,let the destiny gives you the true frineds you been looking for.
• India
26 Dec 06
it's all luck if we get a good friend. this all depend on the time to describe a true friend, but see nothing can be done for this.
@iyamapa (259)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
im so happy for you... i do hope ill be able to find new true friends...
@sharon613 (2321)
• United States
26 Dec 06
A true friend stays with you no matter what, and doesn't steal your lover.
• India
26 Dec 06
hey I think u didnot fallowed what she is suggesting. Any ways u r true. But u know we rarely get true friends Even it is more hard to know who is your true friend
@edigital (2709)
• United States
25 Dec 06
Who keep aside during hard time is best friend, I think they were your guest friend so left you keeping you alone during hard time and will back again when you will be better richer than now!
@iyamapa (259)
• Philippines
29 Dec 06
i still hope that one day i could be able to remove the torn they created on my heart
@elixir (1456)
• Guam
26 Dec 06
No one cant say that TRUE FRIENDS are like this.It all depends on you.Your true friend may not be true friend for some other.So you alone can know whether he is a true friend of yours or not.
@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
26 Dec 06
True friends will be there for you, no matter what. A real friend will be there through thick and thin, through heaven and hell. A fairweather friend is just someone who will be there when they feel like it, and they will duck out when they can.
• Philippines
4 Jan 07
sigh! i myself have had my fair share of those "fair-weathered" friends in college. They can be with you at one minute and just leave you for the worst at another. These people, shouldn't make you feel any less of a person after all, they didn't make you better i suppose. They are nothing but just a rotten bunch. Meantime, feel secure that they have left you at no cost.... Funny don't you think that they even considered themselves as your "friends" when all they can ever be are frauds? I hope these "best buds" you call will eventually learn their lessons and experience how it is to be left behind by people who they once entrusted their whole life with. You do not need them, so be happy! Live and let live!
@icequeen (2840)
• Canada
26 Dec 06
Well you are right. If they were true friends they would be able to forgive and forget. If you have made efforts and have not gotten anything in return then I would just cut your losses and move on. You can find new friends....because with friends like these...who needs enemies?
• India
26 Dec 06
well for true friends it's takes time to know them and then they will never forget u.
• Brazil
26 Dec 06
If you have money, told them that you have lost everything and wait 1~2 weeks. If they don't go away from you, they are your friends.
• United States
26 Dec 06
I think we all go through this. As its a point in your life where your growing up and there is so many avenues to take. You chose yours. It may take awhile for some to adjust to where you are in your life and others may fade away. I still have contact with few high school and college friends and friends from when i was small. I can say im good friends long distance with 3 of them. You at a point where your going to find out who is in it for life and who isnt. Its sad to let go. But there is so much more to look forward too. Consider it a transition faze. I know it hurts but it all works itself out in the end.
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
They are my true friends when i feel alone and lonely and the trials came to life and they still there comfort me well i think they are true friends. They are there by your side through thick and thin
• India
26 Dec 06
if we want to finish the fights between our friends some one has to compromise, the greatest thing for all happieness is compromisation, so why can we start from our end , then see how nice it will be and you never loose any friend, forgive ness, compromisation and honest are building blocks for strong relation ships,so if you follow these, you will become a true friend to others
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
i have learned something in life.. DO NOT TRUST TO MUCH TO ANYONE.. EVEN TO YOUR BESTFRIENDS.. but, to your question how could we know if they are true? well in your experience, they are not TRUE.. a true friends cannot always be there by your side. BUT is trying to come in times of sorrow and sit beside you saying "ok lang yan, lika nga hug kita" true friends accept you for who you are. not for what you have. and of course. TRUE FRIENDS NEVER LEAVE..
• India
26 Dec 06
this is life.friends will come and go buttrue friends will stick on forever. as time passes vwill meet new friends.some will stay, some will gobe cheerful. may god give u sincere friends.
@gamerz_84 (918)
• India
26 Dec 06
only during our worse times we get to know who our true friends are.many friends show off during good times.but when our bad times start they just ignore.thats when v know their real nature
@shyam4uall (1002)
• India
26 Dec 06
I think you might have heard the popular phrase "A Friend indeed is a friend in need".So you can verify whether he is your true friend or not..when you fall in trouble and who remains with you,is the true friend and others are just for sake of friendship ..So before believing that he is your best friend please verify him from every respect..
@babychel (130)
• Philippines
26 Dec 06
yeah it's true..friends for keeps are very hard to find nowadays..i've been there in that same situation..what's more is that they will left you behind in the most trying times in your life..it's really disappointing to know it..but no one can tell if they are true or not until you yourself can feel it..goodluck girl! =)
• United States
26 Dec 06
You cannot know that they are true friends. You must live on their word. If they tell you they are your true friend, it is up to you to believe them. Sometimes "friends" can gain your trust just to hurt you later on.
• India
26 Dec 06
i can really feel your feelings, because my case is the same. We were three, always together, u dont beleave people started calling us three angels, three lives bla bla bla...... Colleges finished we all started our carer. I got better oportunity, the trouble started. they started ignoring me and i tried many times to patch up. i spoke them the reason for strange behaviour. but my efforts went in vain. I realised my job is making them. I spoke to them, now they got more better than me but their behavour didnot changed. Rearlly to have good friends is the Gods Gift, i think god has not blessed me with such a gift.........
• India
26 Dec 06
'a friend in need is a friend indeed'if this implies on a person in ur life then that person is ur true friend.