Can you accept Transvestism?
By nuffsed
@nuffsed (1271)
December 26, 2006 12:22pm CST
We all know it's been going on for thousands of years, yet no one has been able to explain satisfactorily...Why?.
Both Males and Females may react unpredictably when they suddenly realise that the woman they were looking at, is in fact a man in womans' clothing.
In general women are more easy going or even accepting. Males are less likely to acknowlege any undestanding or acceptance, they may even resort to violence or threatening behaviour.
There are millions of "sufferers" out there, hiding their "habit" from public shame. This phenomenon won't ever go away.
This poorly understood "compulsion", simply requires to be recognised as a harmless, if strange, facet of human nature.
Yet it throws up problems for many who just do not understand, and therefor need to condemn. Yet those who do not condemn, understand no better, because the "Why" question remains unanswered for everyone.
It has been responsible for suicides, marital and family break-ups and ruined careers. It has even sparked homophobic murder and other acts of violence. Yet the sexuality of transvestites is known to reflect that of society as a whole, with similar proportional variation. Times are changing though.
Self acceptance is the key. And it's one that more and more young transvestites are finding is the route to freedom of choice, and the freedom to express themselves as they see fit.
The fact is, once transvestites refuse to accept scorn and shame, accept themselves as they are, they start turning up everywhere, with a smile and often a cheeky pout!
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9 responses
@Withoutwings (6992)
• United States
26 Dec 06
I think they are funny. I just went to a drag show Sunday night... All the drag queens that I know usually have a good sense of humor, are very sure of themself and are fun to be around.
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@nuffsed (1271)
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29 Dec 06
Drag queens are not at all the same as transvestites, but the confusion is understandable.
Transvestites tend to take their femenine identity a little more seriously, even though they are more likely to be heterosexual.These are just generalisations though, as the whole spectrum of gender is so very complex.
I have to wonder if men are becoming more open to accepting their own feminine traits, and even becoming less manly, in general.
In fact global overpopulation could be one pressure to cause such a phenomenon. After all we are all subconciously aware of the need to reduce populations, and large families are no longer the norm.
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@Adrenochrome (1653)
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4 Jan 07
Whilst I have never actually been a transvestite, I was a New Romantic in the early and mid 80s, which involved wearing some make-up and dressing in an unorthodox way (like a Cavalier, frilly shirts[or blouses, as most mens shops didn't go for frills], and a great range of accessories) and found the experience to be great. I felt I could reflect the real and individual me, and was lucky to have the support of friends, and clubbers, not to mention the amusement of my mother (who always wanted to see what I was going out dressed as that day!). It also went down rather well with the ladies, which as a hormonal teenager was a definite plus.
'Townies', or 'Mondo Chino' as the great Sigue Sigue Sputnik dubbed them, did take a distinct dislike to us on sight, however.
I wish people could feel as free to express themselves as they feel they wish to, and in a way that makes us feel better about ourselves, without people judging us. And, as for the violence, it just reflects a closed mind, and inability to express themselves better. The world should be more tolerant of each person, and hopefully one day it will.
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@Stiletto (4579)
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5 Feb 07
I don't understand the compulsion to do it but I accept it. Whatever floats your boat I say! I also think people generally seem to be a lot more open minded about it these days but I still think there's a lot of ignorance and misconceptions around the whole thing. Perhaps the reason many men find it harder to deal with is because they assume that if you're a transvestite you must also be homosexual. When I was a teenager in the 1970's we had a family friend who was a transvestite and very open about it. I saw at first hand some of the abuse he suffered. Hopefully we've moved on a bit now.
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@thatcrazyqbanita (3312)
• United States
31 Dec 06
I may not understand it, but I accpet it and I wholly respect one's decision to be a transvestite. I love "The Rocky Horror Picture Show" , this discussion just reminded me of the film.
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
4 Jan 07
It really was his finest hour without a doubt and HOLY HELL he was hot!! LOL another sexy Transvestite (actual transvestive and an executive one at that LOL) is Eddie Izzard I JUST ADORE HIM!! yet hate him at the same time because he wears a dress SO well LOL
@Dolcerina (3376)
• Hungary
30 Dec 06
I do not have problem with the transvestism at all.
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@babykay (2131)
• Ireland
5 Feb 07
I think that one of the reasons some people may have a problem with cross-dressing/transvestitism is because they may have homophobic hang-ups. These people assume that the man who dresses as a woman is gay, another focus for negative attention. These same people feel threatened by any non heterosexual non conformist behavior and this extends to how other people dress.
My suggestion for deepening understanding between all the different strands of human behavior is that their should be an annual day where everyone dress in a sleep-suit of their own choosing - any colour or design is acceptable but each person must spend the day in a sleepsuit. That way we could have more awareness that everyone is very different but we are all the same
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@Ravenladyj (22904)
• United States
4 Jan 07
I most certainly can and do accept it! I dont think anyone should be ashamed of who they are and I think that ppl really need to learn to get a grip...regardless of whether or not our lives all mesh we are all worthy no matter what and maybe if ppl wouldnt be so anally retarded and narrowminded we wouldnt have the major issues in society aroudn the world that we do...I have such a hard time understanding how ppl can be so bloody cruel ya know...I really cant wrap my head around it...
"The fact is, once transvestites refuse to accept scorn and shame, accept themselves as they are, they start turning up everywhere, with a smile and often a cheeky pout"
and I say YAY!! STAND TALL AND BE PROUD!! and hey can I borrow those shoes?? ;-)
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@ronaldinu (12422)
• Malta
7 Feb 09
I don't understand it. I don't undersand that a man feels the need to wear a woman's clothes. I am a man and I don't feel at ease to wear a women's clothes or any other type of garments. however I do accept that ther eare different people in the world with different needs. So yes I do accept trasvestism.
@edna555 (1)
• United States
8 Feb 09
I've been married to a closet (except for me knowing) transvestite for 26 years. I hate it!! I hate it so much. I didn't take him seriously when he warned me before we were married. I feel like I'm married to a man who is secretly a woman. I'd have an easier time with it if he told me he was gay, but he's not. He just likes to wear my shoes, underpants, nightie, etc. He's even given me that very feminine "come hither" look in the bed before that made me want to throw up. He has very little to do with me or his daughters. He'd rather hide away in his room with stockings and stilettos on. He is not more understanding, as I've heard proponents of cross-dressing say. He's just a selfish man that lives for himself and cares not that his wife doesn't need another woman for a husband.
I know what you are going to say. You will ask why I haven't divorced him. I keep hoping he'll change and be all man.
